I think that it is amazing you can be retired. But you want your future partner to not be retired? Interesting.
It is nice that you can clearly spell out what you want. So what does a future partner get out of the deal? What would you offer to compliment what you want? What would be the attractions for him?
When seeking a partner, it is after all a partnership. And this means that you have to put into the partnership some things as well, yet your profile doesn't mention anything about what you are prepared to put in, just what you want out....
Of course, I'm speaking from a man's perspective that maybe you can't see.
I'm sure that there are many things that you would give in a relationship. The issue here is that you haven't presented a balance profile explaining this.
Having read your profile, I wouldn't go any further as my initial perception is one of wanting a lot without wanting to put in much in return.
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but I'm being honest as a bloke.
We all want something or many things out of the deal, so I think it is important to balance up your profile a bit in this regard.
Maybe a couple more photos outside in a park setting or a social setting would also be great.
What do I think of your picture? Well, I would personally change it.
I would take some photos from either a straight on angle instead of an upward angle, and maybe even some photos from above you where you are looking up.
Obviously you are who you are, and that is great, fantastic, and wonderful.
The things that you like to do are also wonderful.
Hope you have success in meeting people on this site and perhaps finding what you are looking for.
Personally, I would change your main photo for something with a better background, maybe outside in a park or something. Believe it or not, photos do make a difference to women as well as men.
Also if you are that dedicated to your daughters (and what real dad isn't), it might be good to add how you still have room to give and dedicate yourself to your future partner.
She might look at what you have said and take it to mean that there will not be any room for her, her kids (if she has any) because you have given all of you to your kids.
Believe me, women actually get jealous about how much attention a man gives her......
Hope you do alright.
I also agree with others who have said that waiting for women is like waiting for the next comet to fly past. You'll be waiting a long time for women to look you up.
You have to go out there and look them up. Believe it or not, even though many women preach independence, and equality, they still fall back into the gender role when it comes to dating.
So get out there, flower women that take your fancy, send a few introductory emails and chat up the women who do view your profile.
Okay firstly, get some more photos of you up there in your profile.
It is good for girls to be able to see you in a variety of settings. Helps them to connect a bit more.
Secondly, girls and women usually like to read profiles (unlike many of us men). So I would put some more into your profile. Talk about who you are more, what you want, how you would be in a relationship, what you like, what you don't like.
Give girls some hints in what you are looking for. There are definitely some things you couldn't cope with in a girl, tactfully spell some of these out so that you give them a chance to see if they fit with you or not. Also write about some things that you really like in girls that you are attracted to. It is okay to say these things, and you will have a better chance of finding someone you really like.
JMO from and old married man who has been there, done that.....
Hi. First thing that I noticed missing from your profile is the "What I'm looking For" section.
Fill it out. It will help when women do a search and give them a snapshot of what sort of women you are looking for.
If you are honest up front by filling this section out in your profile, it might help you to get some views.
Views are about all you will get from most real women. You then have to flower, email, etc and make the first move.
That is how it worked for me. Usually the man has to lead in developing an online contact and friendship.
Usually a man has to lead in developing a real relationship as well.
So do that, and give it a go. Don't give up after a week or two. Keep on looking.
Eventually you'll make some female friends here, and perhaps one of those friendships with develop into a lovely romance and relationship like one of mine did.
Hi. Well when I read your profile, I certainly had a eye-brow raise up.
Depends on one's definition of a 'friend', etc. If you are seeking purely platonic friendships with other women, then there are probably better sites more suited to finding what you seek.
If you are seeking more than a purely platonic friendship with other women, then also there are probably better sites more suited to finding what you seek.
Remember, this is a 'singles' site, not a site for general hookups for people already in relationships.
So what you have written is honest, up-front, but maybe this site is just not for what you are looking for.
There may be other sites that are more suited for what you are looking for.
Hey, your profile is good, you are a nice looking girl.
Give it time, take is slowly, and get out there and contact guys you are interested in.
Get onto the forums and blogs and start interacting there so that people get to know you.
Read a few books..... "Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus" is a good one to start with.
You want men to think of you a certain way, then be prepared to also do the same. That means changing how you relate to blokes just as you want blokes to change how they may relate to you.
There are heaps of decent guys out there, but obviously not meeting your expectations and your criteria. So have a look at them in the context of the fact that men are not women, don't think like women, etc.
The biggest thing you need to do is be pro-active. Don't wait for Mr Right. Did you wait for your web business to just be there for you?
Then think of dating the same way. You will get out what you put in. Be patient.
Ha ha. So your sister put you up to this? Get her then to help you write your profile text.
There are things you've written that don't need to be written, and things that you need to say that you have not said.
Women want to know about you in your profile, as I said, get your sister to help you write your profile text.
As to what you are looking for, I'd re-evaluate what you've written, and I'll tell you why. You want a younger woman, more than a woman your own age, yet you haven't mentioned this in your profile. As a bloke, I think that this show you as inconsistent, or not being real with yourself.
You have definite ideas of what sort of woman you are looking for, so spell it out.
What you've written and what you are searching for are not consistent.
Ask your sister to look at your profile and get her input. I'm sure she can help you tweak your profile to be more focussed, more enlightening to the ladies, and more real with what you really want.
First, photos are fine. Maybe a couple of extra. At least one head/shoulder shot with full face.
Text: You need to put more in there for a woman. She will want to get to know you more from what she reads before she will even decide if she is interested or not.
"What I'm Looking For" - Rework this section. Sounds like you will settle on any woman even if she is not what you want. Women won't like that statement.
Be general in what you want by all means, with some specifics. Women want a man who knows what he wants, and you need to be able to express this.
Tip # 1: All the photoshopping of the photos doesn't do anything for promoting genuineness. Put up some 'natural' photos as well as 'made-up' ones. You might attract some initially, but decent blokes will want a 'decent' woman who is not afraid to show themselves as they truely are - in different settings.
Tip # 2: So you want the guy to come to the table with house, money, etc? What do you bring to the table? Are you looking for a 'sugar daddy' to provide a luxury life for you? This is how your "what I'm looking for" section reads.
Mate, why do we all prefer this type of person over another?
It goes with being human. It is wise to be careful who we join ourselves with.
I'm sure that you know you, but women don't.
What you have said comes from your heart, but it just doesn't sound all that appealing to women.
You need to describe yourself more. You need to give women an insight into you. What you like, what you don't like,
Your desire for a genuine woman is fantasic, but too open-ended. You need to define with more clarity in writing what you are like and what you are looking for.
I'm sure that there are some that you would not want to be with. So express more what you are looking for in a woman.
All this will help.
Also you need to be out there. It is still pretty much a man has to chase and court a woman.
So join in commenting on the forums and blogs. Let people get to know you through these forums.
Also use the "who's viewed me" tool to focus contacting on ladies who have viewed you. If they have viewed you, then they were interested enough to look past your pic, and to read what you have said.
Tip # 1 Women love to read. so you need to expand your text. Write about yourself, women want to be engaged in the text - in short they often need a small novel to try and get a feel for if they like you.
Tip # 2 Get some more photos in different settings, with different stances. They like to see what you are like in different light settings, and with a smile on your face.
Give these things a go and you might have more success with the women....
1. You have posted two photos. One is more recent than the other. Ditch the older one and only post recent photos.
2. Add more photos. One is really not enough.
3. What sort of friends are you looking for? Clarify more what you are looking for in your profile text.
4. Explain to the readers of your profile some of your likes and dislikes. Give them a teaser into who you are, but without giving too much away.
5. If you are targeting female friends, then you need to understand that they need more information about you than your simple and straightforward statement that you are a simple person. You may very well be, but you need to give your readers more than that.
You want the truth? Women won't contact you. You have to contact them. That's the way it works for blokes like us.
Having said this, I had to re-evaluate what sort of women I was interested in, I found that I was limiting myself somewhat.
Also where are you prepared to go for a woman?
Mate, I found my fiance by using the "who's Viewed Me" tool on this site. Contact the women who view you (but they don't contact you) and see where that goes. It worked for me. At the very least if women view you, then you are doing okay.
Define attractive - do you want to look like a movie star or do you want a girlfriend / partner?
Evaluate this and stop looking at your externals. Concentrate on your internals and this will change what women see on the outside.
Well, you have a nice resume in the process with your profile text.
firstly, if you want to achieve things on your own, what place is there for a woman in your life?
So I'd look at what you have written and re-evaluate your goals, dreams, and personal drive to take into account the change that would occur with a "special person" (aka female - someone more often than not totally different to us blokes and that does not think the same way we do)
Where do you see your life going then? Would you give up your personal ambition for love and for your partner?
I think that your profile does not really express where you see your "special person" fitting into your goals, dreams, ambition, and life.
Don't take it personally that you don't have many responses or replies. This is a fact of life for a bloke on this site.
Just keep on keeping on. Use the "Who's Viewed Me" tool to target women that have viewed your profile. If they have been interested enough to open your profile and read it, then you might have a better chance of success. I used this tool and it worked for me. Saved me heaps of heartache and wasted time.
I think what you have written is good. And your photos are also great. As I said, don't take the lack of responses to heart. Happens to most of us blokes.
Just keep on keeping on. And try the strategy i've suggested. It might just work for you as it worked for me.....
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RE: this is fun!!!!
So did you post your profile for review, or to get some "hits"?If it is for review, then I'd rework the whole "about me" section.
I mean, come on. There is nothing in it.
As to the rest, well it is so lovely to hear all about what you want in a man, and you will bring what to the table?
Enough said.
Good luck.