Elegsabiff Forum Posts (695)

Is he / she interested or not?

Yup, you've been there! It doesn't need to be male/female, either, there's a kind of zing between really good friends too.

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Thoughtful silence on the poll as we all politely wait for PG to be able to rejoin us ...

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Ha. Think back to, I don't know, some woman suddenly stroking your leg under the table at a dinner party? You TINGLED. Whether you fancied her or not!

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Phew. Zing. It is (and I'm now comparing the only 2 times I found it, and looking for similarities) suddenly realizing you are uncomplicatedly enjoying yourself just being with him. And him grinning at you because zing is always mutual. It isn't delirious excitement or breathstopping lust. It's candlelight, not neon lighting.

When you look back at the time you were together, it was the best time. I am not explaining this very well. But you were having a great time because you were at a great stage of your life, and afterwards you realize that you were at a great stage of your life BECAUSE of the zing?

Nope, I haven't a clue what zing is. But I've been there. It happens quickly, it grows quickly, it burns steadily, and it doesn't die, completely. Ever.

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Which time? I've tingled a bit, here and there

Some men are electric, but not restful. Some are restful but not electric. You can tingle when you don't even like someone, and you can love someone without there being any tingle or zing.

It's soooooooooooo complicated. Tell me how the male side works.

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Nope, zing just happens, or doesn't. Found it twice and the second time I thought damn, I'd FORGOTTEN this, wow it's fun!! It isn't even chemistry, there wasn't tingling (and yes I have tingled) it's just the sun shining (even when it isn't) and every song you hear is suddenly about the pair of you ... could I get any cornier? Probably not.

I miss zing ...

Go on, have coffee. This I have to see!

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a) sadly, it seems not
b) if only
c) out
d) grab coffee. This could take a while

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Didn't get a single step nearer to solving my buddy's problem, right enough.

He'll have to come onto CS and start his own poll to find out why the woman he likes will see him anytime he wants, but there's no progress there either!

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He's the sort of person I should be going for, and the liking is there. But not the zing.

Why isn't there zing when we need it? Blast!

You're VERY good at this

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Yup, we've flirted mildly for so long that he probably sees me as absolutely safe, we can giggle together and he won't suddenly find himself dragged into a passionate clinch and put on the spot.

Hope you didn't find it too frustrating in your case. You're likely very special to those two.

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Thanks again and yup, guilty as charged, CS is my best place for talking things out because when I have to say it out loud, especially responding to comments, I have to think. This site absolutely rocks and is saving me a FORTUNE on counselling, little pills and the like!

I did just have a Eureka moment, on my last response. He's so eligible and suitable and nice I forget that there has to be a click, and there isn't. I don't flick his switch and he doesn't flick mine. We just like each other's company but there's nothing more. He knows it, and now I know it too.

And - breathe.

Yay! Hugs all round

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Ha, the problem falls down right at the start. He DOESN'T come in for deep kisses! It's always kiss kiss, either cheek. Sometimes an intense stare and like a numpty I stare back

You know, the more I think about it, the more I realize that I'm not giving the right signals. I guess I'm really not into him at all, and he's picking up on that!

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Oh, there's no heartache. I like the guy, like the friendship, but sometimes I do wonder if there could or would ever be more. But I'm not going to be the instigator. I stuck my heart out on my sleeve once and I won't again, it isn't a good place for hearts. They dry out!

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Exactly.

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Aw, ta Wish I was. I'm GREAT advising others (whether they want my advice or not, must be said) but something of a numpty when it comes to me myself and I.

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Have you ever had a similar situation with a woman where you couldn't judge how much into you she was?

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Good point. Very good point. I was once sort-of his boss back when we worked together. And very bossy! (It's what I do)

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That is exactly why I am not phoning again

RE: When is it acceptable for the first kiss?

and you called ME incorrigible!

RE: When is it acceptable for the first kiss?

On the lips, first date.

Deep kissing, a lot further down the line.

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Never been a baseball bat. I'd know where I stood with a baseball bat! Baseball bats do indeed sort out any questions

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Yup, I can see that being the case here too. But he's had, er, benefits before, been in a long-term relationship which ended about a year ago. I assume there were benefits! Maybe that's why it ended.

He's very eligible - nice man, I've known him a while (and know the ex partner), he's met some of my friends and family over that time and they like him. Oh well. If he takes the initiative, there'll be another date and I will see if I can nudge things along a bit more.

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Go for it. I'm all ears.

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This is of course true.

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Okay, and thanks. (Of course I'm now DYING to know what your guy's intentions were. Nosy cow that I am ...)

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or running for his life with a panicked backward glance over his shoulder

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Well - yup.

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Next time - there's not gonna BE a next time unless he asks me out and that will have solved half the problem there and then!

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He will, he'll insist. And it'll be a good meal!