WHY DO WOMEN TAKE BACK CHEATING LYING MEN???

On the other hand I give big credit to women like Jaquiline Kennedy, Hillary Clinton who suffered but forgiven their men, who were cheats, for the sake of the men's reputation and their country's reputation. There are more renown women around the world of the same fate.

I am relly sorry for women who are in situations like that. They are dependent from a man, they cannot ( or have no courage) to start something on their own. To me this is a legitimate slavery. He knows he uses her and she cannot move.

Reading along this articles makes me so scared, but careful as well. Thank you so much.

Because we are weak sometimes and are not thinking.

why are you so angry? did a woman leave you for her ex?

Okay here goes: I think that most people have been conditioned by watching their parents and have come to believe that this is in fact what a relationship is supposed to resemble... By the time the woman is a woman and realizes that this is not normal, or acceptable, she is broken as well. Broken attracts broken... A person needs to be alone for at least two years doing their own personal recovery work before they can come back to the relationship table and try again. Otherwise she can only bring with her the broken experiences and limited expectations...This also holds for the guys naturally.People did not become this way over night and it takes time and work to change it. Two broken people do not make a whole anything...

When a woman is in a bad relationship she undergoes a process of being undermined to the point that she comes to believe what she is told. Taking a cretin back is because she doesn't have the confidence that she can do better or deserves better. The cycle of abuse begins slowly until it chips away at her reserve. If she can ever break away from him she will heal to become even stronger than before.

Yes I agree. I always believe that people should keep writing to the 'lady' audience if they encourage ladies to be stronger. What I do to fill my time, is sports. Things like play squash, hike, jog, go out with friends etc. That fills the gap for me. And I blog. One can cope just fine single until the right guy comes along. And that was for the ladies. Have a great day

Amen girl! I agree. That is one reason I am so proud of my daughter being one of the youngest 1st degree black belts, in Karate. Karate has truly helped her develop things like sefl-confidence, leadership and pride in herself. The best part ishe does not need a man to validate her as a woman.

I also agree with your second observation. It is a term I coined, "CALLED LOVE HUNGER." The way I see it many women have this . heart tank. Think of a heart tank like a gasoline tank. All tanks after awhile, become low or empty. They have to be filled. Right?

Now the question is what will you fill your tank with? You can chose to fill it up with healthy and functional gas. i.e. taking a class of interest, developing a hobby, expanding your horizons, getting involved in a club, bowling league in order to grow and cut down the feelings of isolation.

Or the other choice is you can chose to fill your tank with unhealthy dysfunctional behaviors, like bad gas, it will always damage your insides. This inside damage leads to a vicious cycle, at first you feel good and enjoy the taste of attention, but afterwards you have feeling and even emptier pain inside you, because not only was the gas your chose bad for you it made you realize just how needy you are. Its like eating cotton candy, at first it tastes good, but after awhile, you don't feel satisfied. You like the taste at first, then hate yourself afterwards.

Thank you for you wonderful feed back and ideas. This way we all grow as we read and learn from one another. I am happy to write if you feel it helps let me know. However, i do not consider myself a good write, just a person with passion and compassion for others.

Doc.

Sheez talk about CAPS! I personally have never or will ever take a cheater back. And I probably would not date the cheating kind to begin with "if I can help it". I think the thing with women is, they just want to be loved and they don't always recognise their self worth, it's goes alot deeper than just wanting to change a man. Sometimes they sell themselves short for a dream. And in the end its their hope in the lie (I love you) that leads them to take the guy back or it can be for security. Women are softer than guys. I think women defnitey need to become stronger and see their self worth. I'd kick a jackasses backside right out the freaking door with no hesitation whatsoever!

well there are a few reasons:

1. They are insecure and have no self esteem; they feel that they can't live without the guy. Always cracks me up when they cry after breaking up. Why are they sad leaving a cheater?

2. They romanticize what they had. They try to make it work out like a fairy tale when they dont' look at what it really was.

3. They dont' want to start over again; they are determined to make it work. You never hear a guy say, wow I put all that time into it so I'll stay. Women say it all the time.

4. Women are emotional; they dont' look at actions they listen to words. If a guy cheats but says I love you, the I love you's many times trump it.

5. They want to change the guy; never works.