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I call my lover "night-man" because he is mine in the night and he belongs to his work in the day...except on week end if he is not traveling
He works as a pilot for commercial airlines and having that profession, it obliges him to be in an environment where beautiful women -stewardesses- are around him all the time... do I worried that he cheats ? NO! not at all because in the beginning of our relationship he explained that :
Relationship is when TWO people exchange their TRUST to be in ONE SHIP. He said, "Baby if you are not able to trust me or pretending that you could be trusted, you better speak out now...because trust is solitair. you can't trust me 90% or even 99%. You trust me fully 100% or you leave me and the same apply to me". I asked him at that time, "do you trust me.." he need 10 minutes to answer "Yes I do, very much!" but the I asked himto come back to me with the same question one month later because I need to 'see' him, I need to 'see' me... a month later he came back after few times he was on flying duty and asked me the same question... I looked deeply into his eyes, tried to speak with his eyes and all I saw was love... without any hesitation I said "YES, I can trust you!"
When old people made a proverb, it was not without any proof. It has been years I'm trying to understand things about human life, the connection among them. The connection among people is called society or networking and the connection between two persons is called RELATIONSHIP.
I think they picked a ship not a car or a plane (relationcar or relation plane) with deep thought that ship is sailing on the wide open of ocean with many challanges of it. The bad weather, the sharks or other mameles (correct me for the spelling please), the rain, the typhoons, the atols, the iceberg (like the Titanic), the pirate and many other obstacles nature could offer. These two people are trying to connect each other and live in ONE ship and it has to be TWO persons with full of love to each other that ship could arrive at the most beautiful harbor or port. One of the two must act as a Leader. They can not be both as leaders or both as followers or ship would never moving on. Once, one of the two doubt the other, the life in the ship would be disturbed. When one of the two lost his/her trust, the argue would be their daily activity. When one of the two try to look at another ship... then new ship would be born. Most of the cases, those two ships would never crossing each other, they would take different coordinate and arrive in different harbour.
Human is unique. I am twin, however, we are also different. Imagine how two different gender, background, belief, views trying to be together in one ship expecting to live in there till the end of their day? Love ! forever love ! but love is not stand alone. It has many ingredients : TRUST, Common things, understanding, responsibility, respect, team work, honesty, loyality, sex and money are followed afterward (hey.. what a date mean if it is not ended by love making in nice place
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It is important to know WHO and HOW is your parnert before you confirm to be in one ship. And the length of time you need to make a confirmation is relative and come in different way. Some people only need a second to say "I trust you", some need ages and still not able to give it. BUT, believe me, if you are pretending simply you could trust him or pretending could be trusted, at the same time you are putting worms (cacing) in the ship. It is just about the time for the worms to shink to ship.
He also said " If you can't afford to be in relationSHIP, take relationPLANE ! fly once crash once and everything is dead"
That's what my ego said about relationship and his ego's too. You are of course free to have your own view of your relationship... and We are almost 6 months together happily...
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