For the past 24 years I have lived in the same house but now my children have grown up and left except for the youngest one who is currently at college...of Late I'm finding my home way to big and empty...some of my friends have advised me to sell up and move into a smaller place ..perhaps even down by the coast somewhere...which sounds soooo inviting...
but on the other hand I have many sentimental reasons for remaining where I am....none of which comfort me when I'm all alone at night and besides it is becoming increasingly hard on my pets as well...
Ai ai...
to sell or not to sell that is my dilemma 
Recently I acquired a new friend.......
But hes has some serious flaws and bad habits...
he loves to chew .....
mmm...perhaps you too have a best friend with serious flaws and bad habits....
.....would a rolled up news paper help....do you think
The power of the spoken word to transform lives has well been known throughout the ages of mankind.
Three simple words such as “I love you “...or...”I hate you” can change a life forever. Within each one of us lies the power to change lives forever by the very words we speak.
We can choose to allow our words to impart grace to the hearer or sow discord and hatred......the choice as always rests with each individual.
On Cs we have been granted a platform to air our words and today I would like to take this opportunity to say to everyone on the blogs and everyone else out there.......
May this festive season bring you much joy and happiness....and may the new year find you in a place of peace and hope for a rich and fulfilled future.
Ever heard the expression all work and no play makes’ Jack a dull boy?
Well the dangers of ‘all work’ and not taking time out to do fun things will eventually lead to burn out. Unfortunately the symptoms of burn out are not always evident immediately as they slowly appear over a period of time....unless you recognize them and take steps to change your lifestyle or habits it can be quite detrimental to your physical health, your emotional state of mind, your personal relationships and very importantly your ability to function competently in the work arena.
Some of the tell tale signs are.......
1)When your friends mention you are no fun anymore because you take yourself too seriously.
2)You battle to concentrate......almost to the point where your speech becomes incoherent.
3)Sleep patterns and eating habits are abnormal.
4) A sense of detachment, of feeling alone in the world.
5)You isolate yourself by withdrawing from others.
6)It takes forever to do the simplest of tasks....everything becomes a drag to do.....
Once you recognize that something is wrong it is up to you to make the changes.....starting with play therapy.......go do those things that you enjoy and get your zest for life back by simply having fun.
KITTY GONE AWOL ......
Do you feel you need that someone special in your life.....that someone who is so unique and completely right for you that it seems almost unbelievable...a figment of your imagination or perhaps a distant dream beyond your grasp?
Sometimes people feel incomplete without that significant other and therein lies a great danger to their own uniqueness. They try so hard to fit in with the needs and wants of their perspective partner that they often overlook the greatest gift or blessing they are bringing into that relationship....which is they themselves.
They with their own unique personality and developed characteristics that ultimately define who they are, is that very thing that caught the attention of another... and when in entering into a relationship or subsequent marriage, they in their efforts to adapt or please their partner pander to their every needs and agree to all that is said. Surely this down play of self would cause them to lose that uniqueness.......and after awhile the partner begins to question his/her reason for being with this other person.
Anyone knows that living with a clone of yourself eventually becomes rather boring. The truth is we seek someone who will stimulate and cause us to feel alive through the daily challenges they bring and by challenges I’m referring to differences of opinions or perspectives on a variety of topics.
The danger of trying to become something or someone you.... think.... your partner is seeking in the relationship will have a twofold effect a) it will rob you of your own true uniqueness and b) turn you into a rather boring and uninteresting person to that potential partner.
Therefore it is of the utmost importance that you first recognize and establish your own self identity and the gift that you are.... before.... entering into any relationship....and get rid of those insecurities that constantly whisper in your ear “I’m not interesting or good enough for him/her”
The Greek philosopher, Socrates was well known for his saying 'know thyself'. His argument was that in order for one to be wise you must first get to know yourself.
If you don’t know who you are.... what are you seeking or doing in that relationship?
What are the tell tale signs of an Internet Addiction Disorder?
Is it the amount of time you spend with other bloggers?
Maybe it is the pile of dishes left unwashed on the kitchen sink and the fact that there are no more clean mugs left for that next cup of coffee?
Then again it might be the fur on your teeth and that strange odious smell coming from your socks?
When you care to look up from your screen do you see strange lights and when your vision finally clears...do you see the kids standing there waving an empty box of corn flakes because there is nothing left to eat in the house?
Perhaps like any other addiction you try to cover up your actions by sneaking up to your PC when no one is looking and connecting to the net in order to get a quick fix?
Carefully you remind yourself it is just a little peek, just to see who has posted what and then you start reading the comments and ‘lo and behold’ the time has passed and so has an entire day and a night.....ouch
Do you think you have an Internet Addiction Disorder if so, how can you tell????
Due to various personal reasons, in May this year I decided to take the plunge and try online chatting. My experience to date has been an emotional roller coaster ride of note. I have met some rather strange individuals and obviously the scammers that attempt to beguile you with flowery words and great declarations of undying love which seem to be copied and pasted straight from a hallmark card. But not all is lost, I have also come across some really lovely people and sadly also those who have been deeply hurt by deceiving and conniving people online. I take my hat off to those dear people who have been hurt yet still cling to the hope that there is that someone special out there who is just waiting to be found, truly those people are to be commended for their perseverance in the face of such great odds.
Over the past couple of months I have come to realize that online relationships are as real as physical relationships, the only difference been that when you put your heart out there it is being hurt and crushed by someone you have never met in person. But trust me the pain is very real and requires the same healing as any other relationship that has experienced betrayal and sudden unexplainable termination. In fact I have even come across articles written about people who have committed suicide over online relationships that went sour or turned out to be a hoax. I do agree that is quite extreme and genuinely disturbing.
However, I have felt so discouraged by the insincerity and dishonesty online that I was ready to give up until I heard someone say, “ You will have to kiss many toads before you can find that special Mr Prince Charming” . My conclusion to the wonderful world of online dating or chatting is that if you are going to put your heart out there looking for that someone special and risk getting it trampled and hurt, then let it be by someone you met in person over a steaming hot cup of coffee and please always remember to brush your teeth and floss after kissing your toad...and never ever give up in your search for that holy grail of sincere love.
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has anyone ever had a similar experience with creepy crawlies and other unmentionable creatures...
