People say patience is a virtue, but that is actually for the long run.
Mean while, on the process, people in this physical being, they can get tired, exhausted,they can loose hope and even get angry and its all very normal .
And people also have the right to ask ,demand or even fight for the things they believe, the things they need, the things they have been paying with their live with.
Because from what i learn ,when it comes to hypocrisy or injustice,those who made abundant promises are the ones who rarely deliver.
And for a human being, a broken hope and a broken dream can hurt the soul in utmost unbelievable ways.
So at any given circumstances ,when ever and where ever you are tempted to feel sorry for your self and think of yourself as a victim, DON'T!
It can be worse, you can be one of them, the hypocrites and the vandals of the world.
And know this, that you have every right to fight, especially when it comes to something that you hold precious to.
But, you also have the privilege to forgive, to move on and even walks away and start anew.
Talk less
Promise less
DO MORE
But most of all LOVE MORE.
It certainly works on me, to have just a little bit more faith on me ..
All of the time.
Have a great week end.
Technically, should we greet them, or should we viewed them back, or should we take viewing as a sign of interest ... ??
I usually just looked at the list of people there looked back at some of their profile but I rarely send message at them althou' some did catch my eye ...
(I'm the waiting kind of gal' ... Lols)
Any tips? ...
Hopefully many others could find this usefull also ...
Every picture has it message even in porn pictures.
But what is interesting is, the most deceiving from all pictures are the ones with sensual and s*xual orientation.
You see its like this ..
I once saw a picture waist up of a girl wearing a brown bikini, showing her desirable cleavage for eyes to admire.
But little do those staring eyes realize that the point of that picture was not her cleavage ..
On the back ground there's a yeti standing ..
So this might be the exact point that the photographer trying to say
Eyes are easily deceived by shapes and colors
Regardless of what/who is doing the deceiving
I once saw a youtube, a middle eastern scientist was explaining how our eyes work
Turns out , that half upper and half under of our eyes have a different mechanism
It will only shows when you in turn close half of your eyes with paper and try to look at one object.
He take example of a far away object on the sea, like a ship sailing toward the shore line
And also Da Vinci are one amongst the geniouses who hid his true work inside his paintings
Monalisa was thought to be his genious piece of art
BUT
It turns out that monalisa is NOT the thing he paint.
Scientist do a mirror imaging on it and found a dark spape of creature wearing a mask / helmet that seemed to be made of iron.
And we thought that Monalisa was the BIG IT for Da Vinci
But he turns out to be more interested in the wonders he chaneled to ..
In his genious state of mind
So
At the end of my blog I like to say
Yes, there is a message behind every pictures even in porn.
And that the geniouses are sometimes misunderstood by other people when it comes to their arts, invention and way of thinking.
This blog is for all those geniouses who hide behind the mask of their superb creation
Misunderstood by people
Being called weird because of not being in the same mainstream like others.
But beneath all the madness
Lies a gentle and kind heart.
Let's hear it to those geniouses
And God knows, I know one !
I was thinking just how much I LOVE YOU's actually needed to be said between two people just to proof that the words is true ????
And if it is frequently said,
Will it necessarily be meant ???...
Or can LOVE refflected in the doings of our beloved one, so no matter that if we know no language, if we cant find no words and if we have no voice ..
Still LOVE can always be felt ???
Beneath the rough and firm arm of a man ..
Might lie a gentle heart ...
Acting all strong but child-like and fragille inside ..
So gentle and fragille that they are affraid to show how they really feel ..
And when they fall in love they become that sweet little boy that do silly things for you ..
But you must have plenty of patience ..
And you must not try to change them ..
Let them be reckless, get dirty, and play with their friends ..
And always give them an open arm ..
And when this kind of men have find comfort in the arm of a woman
They are yours forever to keep ..
Coco chanel once said and I quote
Once you know that men are like boys then you have known it all ...
(But do we really have a choice ?)
I always have my lunch and coffee outside on saturday. This saturday, I went out to attend a friends family wedding and then head out for coffee by myself at some mall in the city.
So there I was, sitting and sipping me coffee, alone and I can't help but to overheard the talk that's going on at the table next to me.
There's a guy and his friends which is obviously a couple talking, looks like the coupled friends just got married, because they're so all over eachother just like a newly wed.
The girl say, "hey when will you follow our step and get married?.."
And the other guy which is obviously her man start saying the samething , " yeah when will you be more serious with your life man, you're 38, don't you think that its time for a man to be married by that age ..."
This "single" guy just smile without lifting his eyes of his tablet while his fingers keep on pointing the screen and turning the pages ..
And his friends were teasing him but quickly change the topic since their "single guy" friend clearly seemed to not be interested at the topic, and they have a more fun and interactive conversation soon after the topic change
I mean, here we are, two single people, on this part of the world, sitting next to eachother at a coffee shop, bussy with our own mind and thing, enjoying our time ..
Some quick exchanging glance and friendly smile, then we are back to our own quality "me" time of ours ..
And the world seems so peacefull.
Until the party crasher came and just blurted out some topic which some are not likely to enjoy (but not againts it aswell).
And that moment, the only thing I could think of is ,
" Oh trust me I feel you brother, we are just not in the same page with them .."
Because for me (and maybe for him and for some other people out there aswell) , marriage is not just about dates ..
Or some numbers at your age brackets that seems to just slip further and further away to the "right" section
Marriage is a choice people made
And some are just not ready to make that choice yet ..
Or might never will ..
But still its a choice and this is a free world that we are living ..
And sometimes regenerating and legally bounded just might just not be one of them
It doesn't mean that if we are single then we are not enjoying our time
Sometimes, some people enjoy being with them self for a change, after bussy coping with work and routines
Sometimes it is ourself that we would like to spend time with, or go on a date with in our spare times ..
Sometimes alone is all the crowd that we need ..
And sometimes, among the variety choices we have, being "single by choice" IS the choice that we made ..
I believe that we are the one who gets to decide "the who,what and when" that is right for ourself and no body else ..
And I am sure that there are many more of the "single by choice" people out there, outside of this coffee shop that we sit at, outside of this country, and somewhere out there inside this lonely planet who feel the same way ..
This blog is about choosing to be single and at the same time living in a certain kind of society ( which in my case tradional indonesian culture ) and how minor but annoying this single-ness topic can be ..
So, when it comes to society, despite off all the choices our society gave us
Do we really have a choice ?
Or should we just say the magic word ..
" F*ck society " and risk ourself to be labelled as a rebel
And move on ...
In life Traditions robbed some ...
Profitted some ...
And Values advantage some ...
Disadvantage some ...
A story of the value of a picture perfect of a family preferance ...
And the fun behind the curtain of the ordinary loyal traditional men and their extraordinary hidden stance ...
Making money , making money , making money and yet sometimes they dance ...
Stealing times, making excuses, hiding it the best way that they can to that one figure of annoying arrogance ...
And forget the women,wifes and sisters ...
They are all shopping ministers ...
These women stays being merry by giving birth to endless crying babies, and by not choosing to be the decision makers ...
What if, how if, dial and call our husband, our boyfriends and our brothers ...
Because men is the ones to provide the money but the women always (and I mean always) gets to pick the colours ...
So how womanly are these women for they do not act like the women that act like men ...
How much more womanly can this women gets to their men ? ...
They arrange households, breakfast, lunches , dinner of their beloved men ...
For they are certainly womenly acting women ...
But the men are jailed within this values so bad ...
They helplessly can't break out and become so sad ...
Behind the curtains where the young girls at, they dare to become wild and insanely mad ...
But at the end of their happy day, that b*tch called traditions make them came back home to that boring same old bed ...
So yes, traditions robbed some ...
And profitted some ...
And values advantage some ...
And disadvantage some ...
And some stays troublesome ...
THE END
Sometimes if we love someone and that someone dont love us back it leads you to hurt,disappointment,tears and sadness .
But how about to be loved?
How about loving back a person who had love you , how about loving a person who all this time is lurking at your corner watching you from afar. . . ?
What is the worst thing that could happen along the way ?
To love or to be loved. . . ??
Are they really there for a reason ?
Or God is a really lousy beautician ?..
Do a man at late age usually just want some one to talk to , someone to sooth his own insecurity, someone to listen to his feelings ( which is apparently all they ever talk about ) out of the girl they chat ???
And do they usually have second thought on getting married, not because they need time, but they just want to have a squishy pink pillow to lean and take care of them and call it a relationship ?
Or do they actually need that but affraid if they say it then it will shortened the list of the girls they approach which came from a younger age ??
Well "IF" its true then, maybe they should really check the girls age bracket in dating sites like this.
Not of the age brackets the girls want out of a man, but the age bracket of the girl.
What a girl want is secondary to what a girls need, when a girl reaches 25-40 she would bring forth what she needs. It is their productive age and most think that they should not settle less then achievements, carrier, marriage, kids
And I personally believe that it is a waste of a girls time to neglect her need just because she is lonely and
want a man who cares for her.
And that she then open her possibilities of a much older age brackets which is what I sometimes did out of naif-ness can indeed back fired !
Sometimes feelings are NOT the main aspect of finding the right person.
Well not in that age bracket (25-40) atleast ..
I don't know, maybe by the time I'm over 40 I wil have different opinions
When I was in my early 20 I think jumping off a cliff is okay
But when I grow older I realize. There's stairs and elevators ..
So maybe age brackets are more important than it seems, because the want can be comprimise ...
But can ones need be that easily compromised ???
If the things I do for fun is no longer "fun"
What the f*ck should I do for fun now ???
I'm becoming so boring
Even my dog fall asleep on me ...
I see that many men are actually insecure inside
But hey, boys will be boys, yes ?!
Even I refuse to grow up sometime .. Lol
Anyone have anything to add ???
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