Separated??? What does it mean to you??

Yes,its true in my case everything is about my kids...
She is fine, I'm fine...the kids need to see that...
Its that important,that they don't see any friction at all...
It is a major development for them to see there parents treat each other in civilised manner even do they sleep separately...

At the end of this commitment,the revord is indescribable and I have experienced it...its worth more than you could possibly imagine...

Formalizing a separation just means that both parties are free to live their lives freely, but that in no way should effect the children. Both parties can still be civil with one another and protect each party from being charged for wrongdoings if a divorce is imminent. Makes perfect sense to me.

always a complication, where very young kids are involved, no clean break usually, to be civil for the kids sake, is the normal battle cry, its something you often have to take on board in many 2nd relationships, don't make things any easier having the ex, hovering in the background, certainly test the mortar between the stones, early on, still there are always some positives, better to have loved and lost, than to live with an ungrateful idiot.

Karma--There's nothing remarkable or unusual about that. Some men and women never actually obtain a divorce and technically remain married but separated forever, either both in the same country or in distant countries. You can still have relationships and live common law until you decide to finally get legally divorced. This is of course easier if you remain in contact with each other, children notwithstanding. In your case, I suggest he doesn't want to divorce her for other reasons than he claimed. If you are involved with him and it bothers you that much then just move on, since it seems clear that he won't be getting divorced just to please you.

Wewww, what an issue
I'm personally feel this term of separation on a marriage is uncommon toward our culture, here in Indonesia. anyhow, after I read some comments of you, it might be worked, when a couple can not longer stand on each other while they still have responsibility for the kids.
the reason to be stay in one roof without legally divorced could be one action that can lessen the impact of broken home to the kids.the kids still have normal life, could see their parents and the parents could take care of their kids and see they grow
but have we ever know how the kids feeling inside? I think though they can not actually described something wrong with their home life, they have intuition, they can feel the faking realm that their parent trying to create. meanwhile for the parents side, do we feel it is comfy living with someone without being emotionally involved?? OMG can imagine that, just like living in hell
Why dont people stay faithful and committed when they are married, why should divorce?especially when kids are there (heavenly peace
i wish we all could be an angel living in earth )

Nice topic Karma