If we're more ladylike will they be gentlemen?

I know a young couple. One day, he stood behind her chair to pull it out. She said “What are you doing? Quit hovering!” He said he was going to pull out her chair. She snapped “I can get out of my chair by myself. It’s not a highchair!” Later she was loading the car, dropped a bag and yelled at him “I wouldn’t have dropped it if you’d help carry these or hold the door open!”

This girl confuses me. She wants to be independent when it suits her, but when she wants something, she expects him to do it. She bites off his head for offering, and bites off his head for not offering. I asked him why he tolerated it. He said “That’s just how girls are. Guys have to know when to have manners and when to just leave her the hell alone.” I was astonished by this ridiculous notion.

I made a trip to the mall at Christmas. The women turned my stomach. They walk in front of their men, lead them, crowd in front of them, tell them what to do. They snap and gripe at men who try to be polite. If addressed as “Ma’am” they make some absurd comment about “My name is …!” They comb their hair at the table and tell their man to clean up the food wrappers. I saw a man tip his hat to a girl. Under her breath she said he should keep his cooties to himself. When guys offer to be mannerly, the girls snap back the infamous “I can do it myself!” or “I don’t need a man to do it for me!” or “What, you think because I’m female I can’t do it!” or “Girls can do it just as well as guys can!”

People question why men aren’t gentlemen anymore? Where have men’s manners gone? Isn’t it blatantly obvious?
The women apparently don’t WANT a man with manners. Apparently, they want someone to b*tch at. And apparently men like this, because they encourage it by acquiescing. They don’t have to worry about having manners. They can just b*tch back. So now instead of partnerships, we have 2 people who just yell at each other.

Unfortunately, this nazifeminist perspective of “I can do it my damn self unless I tell you I want you to do it for me.” has been injurious to women who don’t share the same belief system. I’m impressed by a man who pulls out chairs, opens doors, and tips his hat. I’m impressed by men who treat a lady like a lady. I’m impressed by men who display manners even if a bitchy woman might not want him to.

Where are those men? How many men have simply let manners fall to the side in exchange for acting like the whipped puppy the modern woman wants him to be? Many younger men these days were never even taught manners, because their Daddies were whipped too, and their Mommies were barking that she can do it her damn self.

I feel a bit foolish trying to interact with guys. If I expect him to open a door, he just passes by, walks out the door, and lets it slam in my face. Or he’ll stand beside me wondering why we’re waiting. If I sit in a chair waiting on him to pull it out, I might be sitting there all night.

I’m not going to change who I am and start acting like some mouthy bossy b*tch. I simply won’t. I don’t find that type of “woman” any sort of role model. I don’t care if she’s 60 or 16. She’s simply not acting like a lady. Telling men what to do and when to do it. Mouthing off at him when he tries to be polite. This incessant “I can do it my damn self” attitude that reeks of egocentric pompousness.

Why do men tolerate it? Do they enjoy it? What’s attractive about a woman constantly bitching and moaning about how manly she can be? What’s appealing about a woman who expects men to not have manners? Does it fit well into his lazy agenda?

What am I missing here? What happened to men being gentlemen and ladies being lady-like? Why did women become bossy bitches and men became wimpy drones? I understand that times have changed, and that the era has changed, and that trends change. But good manners are always an attribute, regardless of what year it is.