My First -And Last- Social
I am already on the record as saying I am not into the bar/club scene, and yet, somehow, I got talked into attending a social gathering at one last night.It all started so innocently. I get emailed an invite from a member in my Singles site, and while my first instinct was to decline, I considered my own situation -no relationship, alone for the past four months, haven't dated in over 13 years- and consulted my family and friends for advice, which, overwhelmingly, went: "YES! You need to get out of the house! You'll have fun!"
And so I accepted the invitation. That's when my own internal conscience kicked in: "You're gonna be sooorrrryyy," it repeated, over and over, and the cold feet began. The closer to the event, the greater the temptation to back out made itself manifest. And then, I got an email from one of the people attending, saying, in effect, that she saw I planned to attend, read my ad, and was looking forward to meeting me at the social.
Dang. I was now committed to attend the event.
And so there I was, at a poorly-lit, disco-strobing club with the noise levels so loud as to shake the very walls, standing-room only, looking in vain for the lady that wanted to meet me. I bought myself a ginger ale -I don't drink alcoholic beverages unless attending weddings or celebrating Christmas or New Years'- and all I could think of was, "what the heck am I doing here?"
I finished my drink, stepped outside, thanked the event organizer for inviting me, apologized for leaving... and went home.
As soon as I got home I emailed the lady that had been interested in meeting me, apologizing for not having met her and leaving the event early. When I woke up this morning I got her reply. She said she had arrived at the social about fifteen minutes after I'd left, and didn't stay long either - like me, that type of venue was not her cup of tea. Hmmm. Maybe this could be the start of a good friendship after all...
So there it was, my first, last and ONLY club social I will ever attend. And if anyone even suggests for me to attend another of these high-decibel, poorly-lit elephant stampedes, I will personally dunk him or her head-first into the nearest garbage dumpster and slam the door shut.
Comments (5)
I've never attended a 'singles social' ... The key thing is that you got out to where the (potentially) right people were. If would seem the club would have more than one kind of event ... perhaps something for a calmer crowd the next time.
If you're up to it, you might want to organize a 'team' from the club for an upcoming 5k walk (charity event) ... an event like this would bring out a different type of person and coordination wouldn't take much effort ... just communicating with people about how to sign up and where to meet ... and who knows who might show up.
Whatever the case ... the best of luck! And talking more with the one you missed connecting with ... sounds like opportunity is there if you want to get a conversation going.
Good luck