Another Dutch rarity?
How do we treat our beloved deads and relatives?Okt. 16 1985 my dad died, 51 years young, too young.
We took care of the funeral, found him a nice spot at the grave yard, and took care of that for 25 years.
Then, one day, you go there, to find out he's gone. Just gone, no grave, no stone, no nothing.
You make phonecalls, try to find the person responsible for that, and after a long week of not knowing, someone calls you to tell you, Well lady, there is nothing we can do about it,it's your fault. You forgot to pay the rent for that spot so we dug it up and made it ready for someone else.
Ever heard a thing like that?
We know we have to pay rent, after 20 years, we have to do that.
But they are supposed to send you an announcement of that and they forgot, or got lost in the mail, no one knows.
We never saw it.
And we can't turn it back. My dad is just gone.
Even when your dead you get haunted in Holland, I think its respectless, for the dead and their relatives
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Did you find out where your father was reinterred?
I believe that in the twenty first century in the West there is little to no respect paid to the loved, lost, and departed. And it appals me.
We did not know that we only had a 20 year range for him to be there, no one told us that time. It appears to be that after 20 years we need to pay rent to keep the grave where it is. But the announcement of that was either lost in mail or never send, so we didn't know,, and they dug him up.
Funerals in Holland are expensive already, between 10 and 15 thousend dollar so one would think, for that money they let you rest in peace forever, but thats not the thing, as we found out.
The remains they find, they bring to the crematorium and burn them, so we have nothing left, but our memories. Good memories.
As you say, I think its for the same reason cremations are getting popular in Holland too.
sue them to find ur dads bones.
it;s all gone
and to sue, thats not done in Holland either, they just tell us its our own fault, we shouls have paid the rent
forgetting about the fact we did not know
whats there lodgic, perhaps they had a bad exerience long ago
perhaps you should disassociate with such bad experinces and move
on with life
I did move on my friend, this happend 5 years ago
don't tell you I,m still walking around with that on my back
It just popped up in my mind
But thank you very much for your good advice
take care and be safe
country and there for I think we have right to choose, which way we want to leave this earth.
Choose in freedom and not made by money
cause its true, a lot of people choose cremation for the money
and cause most of our ancestors were burned and not buried,which is a middle east habit.in ancient greece ,usually they buried the rich ones and the kings
but still I want to be buried by the time I leave my physical body, and would like to have the choice.
Well, better not worrie about it, by the time I reach 100
they might shoot us in the universal spaces
once you not pay for the grave where your relative was burried, then it will gone. other dead people will replace it.
here we have like that too.
its a shame that we still have to pay for people that already not living here anymore. The goverment supposed to provide land for graveyard that we not supposed to pay.
Fortunatelly, I don't have to pay for my parent's grave.
here we called Waqaf Land.. which is this land once belong to a man and he provide this land for graveyard. anyone could be burried here without pay.
RIP Mom and Dad...
we did not have to pay before either but they changed the rules
without letting us know.
Its been a while and I can live with it now, but still think a grave I a place to respect, one should not dig it up for the sake of money.
But they do ask a lot of money to keep it in place after 20 years, we know now. If this goes on then, in a few years, the graveyard is just a place for the fortunate ones among us that have enough money to keep it up and that should not be the thing.
Hi Leo,
Cremated here is very expensive only too rich can pay.
seems to be more profitable to invest in the dead then in the living, these days
still think its respectless