Personal Quality
If you're already perfect, your work is done.
If perfection is still at least a day away, are you taking steps in that direction?
Quality - How would you rate yourself on this as a person? What improves your score and what doesn't?
When people look at you... Do you think they give you a high score? Do you want them to? Are you looking for someone who appears to be of high quality? Do you wonder if this is real?
Do you think about your own quality and look for someone you feel is higher, lower, or about the same?
The way we rate ourselves is different for each of us. The way we rate others is also different. Is this what we're trying to line up when we're considering a romantic relationship?
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Yes - The intent of my blog was a sort of "total quality" way of thinking. The subject matter has wandered around (as it usually does on the blogs).
To bring the focus back. Setting aside individual preferences and checklists... I think of a quality person like this...
- They are comfortable and confident with who they are.
- They know how to navigate the world (people, circumstances) successfully.
- They have a balanced personality with respect for themselves and everyone else (even those who would reject their consideration).
- They express genuine emotions and their authentic feelings with tact, understanding, and caring.
- They assert themselves when their leadership is needed and they are a loyal follower when another leader is the wiser choice.
There's more... but this is how I would truly measure quality. I know I have some of this and I know I need to continue to work on all of this.
"Now my question is, upon all human history do we actually evolve or are we in repeat?"
This could be it's own blog ... or it's own book!
I was talking about this with someone at work last week... we spoke about our families... and whether the good/bad of prior generations has carried over to the current and younger generations.
Has humanity become better or just learned more without any collective improvement to our 'humanity'?
I'd really have to think about this more... I don't know how we could tell. I'm sure there's evidence to support both sides of the argument.
(if you figure it out ... let me know, okay?
Honesty, humility, respect, compassion, passion, trust....these are words I would use.
FAR, FAR, FAR.......did I say FAR from perfect is how I would describe myself. Still learning about myself and hope to continue to learn about myself for a long time to come.
As people, we are ever changing (I think) most of it we aren't even consciously aware of. We evolve...over time. Our experiences, actions, reactions shape us. I think, maybe, it's where each of us are in this evolution that will attract each other.
Do you see it this way?
Not again !?
She said Right i said okay she said Left i said okay,its not my tequila that cause all that confusing personalty !?
I took her answer with a serious manner as she said,and i found no credibility in it !? So who is fault?Why she lied like that,why she couldn't answer me in respected way? Did i pushed here to lie like that !?Remember i am just asking and not arguing,and i do not tolerate this with kindness.Its about respect .
Anyway i am not going to take her comments any seriously and sure not in the future because she is not respecting her words and you can read back .Respect you get when you respect others and starting with respecting your own words first.Have a nice time,i am out .
You're ready to see the flaws and to offer acceptance... something special in that... it's not easy and often not fun... but there's maturity evident in this.
Having a personal sense of value is important, isn't it? Knowing that you're not perfect... and knowing that this is fine; just proves that you're human. But also that you will continue to learn and grow and become better with time (and through continuing your healthy habits).
When I was in my young 20's ... I had a conversation with my grandmother. I mentioned to her that I was amazed how much more I knew and understood than just a year ago. I shared that this seemed to happen every year... I would think I had life pretty much figured out, only to discover, after another year had passed, how little I actually knew.
I asked her when this cycle would end (or at least slow down
She was right.
If we achieved perfection...most likely we'll see world as a boring place to live
Yes, to tell you the truth I am a bit confused with your cliches and slang but I do really hope that you're just fine
"We're all flawed... we're all broken in some way. I think a relationship really gains strength when we have shared our flaws and accepted each other's imperfections. Until that has happened, I don't think we can be confident about a relationship."
Couldn't agree more with you
Yeah, there is always and I am open for improvements. And this cycle you say (and I do believe also) will be an unending process. No stopping, its like learning new things everyday and improving those needs to be improve.
(I know, you're thinking "whew, he'll finally start leaving shorter comments!"
See yah later.
Perpective is hard to hold onto sometimes,especially when you're going through a really tough times. The thing I always tell myself is what my mom told me growing up. The good times don't last forever and neither do the bad. It has to stop sometimes.
You are slowly becoming my favorite on here.
Just think,800 short years ago you Vikings were raping,looting,pillaging,and burning villages. Look how far you Berserkers have come!
Here you are trying to comfort me. Who would have thought that the Vikings would soften so much!
Was a guy who had a best friend and thay both served at King Haralds main ship, shoulder to shoulder. Bård was dying after a battle but Torolv was recovering. Bård had no children, and when his time was coming he called Torolv and the king's witness to him and said: Torolv, i want you to have all after me: my farm, land everything i own.... and my wife Sigrid too. She can not get a better man then you! The king witness the pact and sent his own recommondatins up to Sigrid and her father. lol
Whatcja think?
This was the shortest version i could make of 2 pages describing the story.
Sigrid was sad after loosing Bård, and it's told Torolv supported her in her grief (thay both grieved as thay both missed him) but slowly a strong love grew between Torolv and her.
She knew him well from before, btw.
How's the sat night going over there on the
other side of the atlantic?
Now there is a good Viking name! That was very interesting about the bards.
Have you ever traced your ancestry,are you directly descended from Vikings?
-no, i diden't. But i do know almost all Icelandic ppl have norwegian fore-fathers.
Btw, a norwegian was in your neighbourhood about a 1000y ago.
Thay met some half-peed locals and left eventually. hehe
I thought u corrected one the other day from west to east u see... but now i see it's west after all. Hmm, did fit with my story though... cheers, see u around.
Actually they came about 1,000 years ago at Meadows Aux Lans in Newfoundland.
They(the Vikings) referred to it as Vinland. It is now a historic park and the Viking bulidings have been completly restored.
Anyway now that I know about your anscestors,I'm not going to mess with you as you might come here and burn down my village!
When you look around a site like CS ... reading a few profiles and think ... hmm, someone like him... yeah, could work.
Aren't you doing a comparison of "merits" between one guy and the next, and thinking about steady employment and who would be fun to be around?
Taking this a step further... an overall picture of someone... their strengths and weaknesses... talents and aptitudes... overall health of body, mind and spirit ... wouldn't it be fair to think of this as their quality as a person, as least as we each see it?
The evolution you mention... I think that's the key. Some are doing this while many aren't.
Personally I don't put too much emphasis on someone's current quality (other than basic compatibility) but I would be very interested in knowing if they understand the value of continued improvement and personal growth. Have you heard anyone say they "grew apart over time"? I think this may be what happened... one was evolving and the other wasn't... their perspectives would eventually become quite different.
A certain combination of personality and an agile mind perhaps...
It's interesting that you follow your instincts but not with haste... watching and waiting for the impressions to take root. (if I'm understanding you correctly)
Perfection - Personally, it's not possible. No one will ever get there. Mostly this is as Firas pointed out... the 'finish line' keeps moving. The more we learn, the more we realize how much we still don't know. I can't see how anyone can ever be bored.
I know myself where I put my level.In English grammar yes very low level
Meh, me haven't figured it out either
Will let you know if there's progress in this.
You're sucha good blogger
Im happy with 4 as long as she has potential of 20.
I always keep in mind the power of love.
(Not talking looks rating here.)
Why dont you simply sail your ship(the one with the dragon carved in front)and burn down Marlene's village,then you can sling her over your shoulder. You'd have a 10 then.
P.S. Don't forget to grab the silverware and a few chickens and cows while your pillaging.
Forward christian soldiers!
There is an initial draw... perhaps you know it and feel it... but we see some people come to the blogs and spend lots of time here then realize it's too much time and they leave.
Hopefully you're enjoying meeting everyone and sharing thoughts ... but also keeping life in balance.
Life is a journey towards happiness (and ever greater happiness?).
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Life is a journey towards perfection (becoming the best 'you').
You make a good point ... Do you see success as a factor in happiness or perfection? I agree with happiness as a goal but not as a destination (being happy isn't enough). Happiness, for periods of time, is achievable. Perhaps making those periods of time should be longer or more frequent (?)
I like the idea but I'll still place being a better person as a better framework for life. Too many seek happiness to the detriment of being a better person.
hehe
let me one the serious note say a word.
she siad:
"If you are weak and want someone to hold you up and want to lean on someone,then maybe I'd be for you.
My comment:
I'm looking for just this trait in a woman, and it's seldom to come by. I recon myself to be strong, as an ox sometimes too.
But now and then i'm weak. When i am i surely want to lean on her, til i'm back strong again, and it seldomly take long when i feel her support. Actually sometimes its enough to know (see) its there.
And i'll do the same for her.
Often i don't mind abit sweet-game (i'll teach u cyber, you'll love it) it brings spice and fun into the occation.
But solidity and trust is foundations that bring happiness just by feeling it's exsistence. And its so nice. Wow, there is so much beauty in the human soul!
Yes got soft at the end there, hehe.
Sky is so blue at the bluest!
I understand that in the last 2 or 3(maybe 4)years that Norway has become quasi civilized,and that Viking raids are at an all time low.
So...I assume that you've hung your shield on the wall and that your spear and sword are standing in the corner of your hut?
How on earth are you now going to occupy yourself without burning villages and looting as a pastime?
@inthemind
It's downright scary how fast you've got me figured out. I'll have to be careful what I write from now on.
Anyway very interesting blog,and thanks for creating it. Blogs like this are precisely why I joined CS in the first place.
By the way,I won't be creating any blogs as I don't think I can commit to the time nessessary to answer the posts.
And i'm the most notorious highjaker here so,
with the blessing of my friend inthemind, cyber, we can go on all night. No worries. Still, want to let the others room in the ship. We're going looting!!!