One Missed Call - Your "WTH" Moment of the Day...
I "met" this guy over the phone. I only talked to him because he insisted he didn't call my number even though I saw his number show up on my phone as a missed call. Three months later, the epiphany hit that he accidentally dialed my other number that was forwarding calls.I'd say we became friends. He told some things about himself that sent up a couple red flags (the mental health kind), but I try not to judge people so I stored those flags and continued to be phone friends with him.
Finally met the guy (that story would take a few hours to tell) after chatting for about 3 months, and within a week he's asking if I think we could ever be a couple. I explained that I just don't see us that way. Fast forward two more weeks and I've received "I love you" messages.
I don't understand. Is it that he has raging hormones and is desperately looking for a way to bring the levels down? Should I question his sanity? What possesses a person to say things like that to a person he doesn't know and has met once?
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he not know you hear red flags instead so he double down and go for the gold. you say friends he hear wife!!!!11
sometimes a guy he will continue to go for you even though you say no. wear you down make you give in to demands give up and accept new dynamic.
put down red flag take up white flag
its not raging hormones. he want someone to make the food and clean the yard
wave your flag!
He has had a lot of time to build up in his mind who he thinks you are....
just saying.
And, I think I'm getting closer to getting rid of him. He's starting to try emotional blackmail on me, asking when next we're going out and oh, he gets that I don't want to be seen in public with him... blah blah blah... So it's happening... Maybe I need to be more aggressive.
Thing is, even if I was friendly and inviting and decided to meet someone, he's not entitled to think that because we've met he has some claim on me. I don't treat people badly for fear that I won't like them later on. And the fact that I already said that I'm not interested in being in a relationship with him should be more than enough for him to put a stopper on any declarations of love.
Him doing that was an attempt to manipulate me and make me feel guilty about not "giving him a chance".
Again, folks, thank you for your insight.
People fall in love and stay married for years based on less contact and you should keep in mind that you are taking advice from a group of single woman that come from broken relationships.
Even though you say that you "finally met a guy after talking to him for three months you tell him on your first personal meet that aren'te'nt interested in the possibility of a relationship? What are you here looking for?
Three months of getting to know you on the phone is a lot of contact in my book, or maybe you want YEARS of chatting before you are ready to move forward?
Good luck finding whatever you are looking for! The problem here is that most are so guarded, they will never find it.
Actually, I already had an idea of what he looked like and I had said to him that I'm not attracted to people who look like him. I think I met him because I thought I was making a friend and wanted to see if he really was as unattractive to me as I thought (I sound like a mean so and so, but yes). My brother and his friend went along with me, so it wasn't a romantic date or anything. In my eyes, it was two people who enjoyed chatting every two weeks or less (so not consistently for 3 months) and wanted to see what this friend looked like. I guess, I don't think I see talking to someone and getting to know him on a phone as enough.
Maybe I wasn't clear enough with him... If I'd met him and decided that I liked him and wanted to date him, it wouldn't be so much a WTF moment for me. But the fact that I had said his physical appearance does not appeal to me, coupled with me saying, when he asked, that I don't see us as a couple, I think telling me that he loves me was out of place. And now he's trying to make me feel guilty about not liking him 'that way'.
Gosh, I find my posts really long. Sorry...