brassavola Blog Comments (18)

RE: Eating Right

Denial... I'd say you're applying logic. And think about those people who talk about detoxifying. That's supposed to cancel out the bad, no?

Some things are meant to be tried once and never a

Ariel, I like avocado but no two avocados taste the same or have the same texture and that's an issue for me...

Some things are meant to be tried once and never a

Oh no, Huggerman! That must've been awful. I definitely understand that one. I don't think I'd try water skiing or wakeboarding though... I'm not afraid of water just not being able to control my body.

Some things are meant to be tried once and never a

What was so awful about it, waf?

RE: Wise words from a homeless man!

Yes, Ed, very wise words. Sometimes you get stuck, trying to figure out what to do next when your previous plan fails and you haven't really learned from the experience because nobody made it clear why the plan failed. But that light at the end of the tunnel really does inspire you to try something different...

And with that, I think I'll go do some work...

Attention Seeker...

I tried to split up the responses so they won't be so long... But they still are...

Ed, it's funny that you should mention that knowing that your God loves you just the way you are is enough. She is a very religious person and I think she hasn't reached that point in her life where she can say to herself, "I don't need other people to pat me on the back to know that what I do is making a positive impact in somebody's life".

Personally, I try to not get too frustrated when I don't see the results of my work, but if I'm not thanked, it's certainly not a big deal...

Attention Seeker...

Sweetie, I wonder if they mind...

Sur, that was a really lovely piece. I also looked up the experiment. The idea is a little different from what I was thinking. And a big part of that experiment should take into account the taste in music that users of that space have. Some people can't stand music without words and would want to get out of there faster than they usually do.

And, I do get the difference between attention and recognition but you can't recognize until you attend. And the person I mentioned in the blog post seemed to feel that nobody even noticed that she did something.

The Cost of Work and Friendships

I completely agree with that. Some people seem to think they gain friends by making other people look bad. But what ends up happening is that they eventually can't be trusted and people see them as trouble makers. Hopefully, people will learn from their experiences though...

The Cost of Work and Friendships

Thanks dreamer! I'll pass on the message.

Oh come, Parti, share some wisdom!

Sometimes I think it's best to just be civil to people and not bother to get friendly despite the potential of going crazy from having to focus on work with no play...

Liking All the Things I Didn't Want in a Man

Thank you for the encouragement!

We've made plans to go for a drive that leads to a beach somewhere... Let's hope I don't discover his most annoying qualities on that trip (save that for later ) and it's really pleasant and I end up liking him more.

RE: Our cat just had 3 kittens today

I like Aussiebargman's idea about going with what the grandkids like, since they were the delivery assistants.

One Missed Call - Your "WTH" Moment of the Day...

Rubicon, are you originally from Trinidad or you just spent some time here?

Dating Principles...

Saskia, not at all. I don't mind. What's really funny is that I understood M F A H S O A B without even trying... Hmm... Says something about me, huh.

Dating Principles...

Tangerino, that must have really broken your heart... I can only imagine what that must've been like. And I can definitely understand the difficulty you would have in trying to move on. Sometimes I think we shouldn't have to "move on" but I guess in order to enjoy a certain level of mental health, we have to...

Dating Principles...

Oh Saskia! All those different types of emotionals... That guy from my other post is an emotional blackmailer, and I've come across a few emotional cripples in mine and other people's experiences. They're a special breed and seem to be everywhere.

I get what you guys are saying. Definitely, if that person is in a relationship, they shouldn't try to have one with somebody else because call it what you like, dating will lead to a relationship unless you stop dating the person.

I don't know if I'm trying to make excuses for myself, but I don't think people can ever be truly emotionally available when they've been with another person they truly loved. Sometimes I think we often convince ourselves that what we feel is love but it really isn't. I think it's a strong like. I think when we find someone who we can love the same way (with the same intensity) that we love our family (if you actually love them), we're truly in a good place emotionally.

One Missed Call - Your "WTH" Moment of the Day...

Centurion, you made me laugh with your "keep in mind that you are taking advice from a group of single woman that come from broken relationships".

Actually, I already had an idea of what he looked like and I had said to him that I'm not attracted to people who look like him. I think I met him because I thought I was making a friend and wanted to see if he really was as unattractive to me as I thought (I sound like a mean so and so, but yes). My brother and his friend went along with me, so it wasn't a romantic date or anything. In my eyes, it was two people who enjoyed chatting every two weeks or less (so not consistently for 3 months) and wanted to see what this friend looked like. I guess, I don't think I see talking to someone and getting to know him on a phone as enough.

Maybe I wasn't clear enough with him... If I'd met him and decided that I liked him and wanted to date him, it wouldn't be so much a WTF moment for me. But the fact that I had said his physical appearance does not appeal to me, coupled with me saying, when he asked, that I don't see us as a couple, I think telling me that he loves me was out of place. And now he's trying to make me feel guilty about not liking him 'that way'.

Gosh, I find my posts really long. Sorry...

One Missed Call - Your "WTH" Moment of the Day...

Jean, I only called him back because I didn't know the number and thought it might be somebody trying to reach me about something important. I believe things happen for a reason. Obviously there was a lesson for me to learn here.

Thing is, even if I was friendly and inviting and decided to meet someone, he's not entitled to think that because we've met he has some claim on me. I don't treat people badly for fear that I won't like them later on. And the fact that I already said that I'm not interested in being in a relationship with him should be more than enough for him to put a stopper on any declarations of love.

Him doing that was an attempt to manipulate me and make me feel guilty about not "giving him a chance".

Again, folks, thank you for your insight.

One Missed Call - Your "WTH" Moment of the Day...

France, there will always be rum punch. I think it might even rain rum here. I'd advise that you visit outside of the hurricane season though. We're in the rainy season now so the weather is very wet and when it's not wet, very hot. Christmas is good. February/March is great if you enjoy Carnival.

And, I think I'm getting closer to getting rid of him. He's starting to try emotional blackmail on me, asking when next we're going out and oh, he gets that I don't want to be seen in public with him... blah blah blah... So it's happening... Maybe I need to be more aggressive.