Liking All the Things I Didn't Want in a Man
I recently met this guy through a friend, who met him through a friend. She seemed to think he would be great for me, so she conducted an interview of sorts and got his number and made me call him. I'd say I'm adventurous, so getting up the nerve to call needed only a small self-nudge.Right away we're laughing, chatting, having a good time...
A whole bunch of points were racking up in his favour. He seemed so great. Checked him out on the Book of Faces, made friends... He was wonderful! 
Almost too wonderful... 
It was only after our hour-long-plus conversation (he was so thoughtful that he asked to call me back mid-conversation to save on my phone bill) that I realised that I didn't know how old he was. So I messaged him and asked. It's here my list of all the things I don't want starts to build. For some reason, that list is sitting on the windowsill waiting for me to give it a push or for a strong breeze (blown by me) to send it completely out the window.
(i) He's 12 years older than I am... I've been here before, it didn't work out, but I believe in giving people a chance (once I actually feel some attraction to them).
(ii) He was/is married. Awaiting the end of the process to be a real single man.
(iii) He wears many hats. I was with a workaholic once and felt oh so neglected.
A man this busy with so many different events occupying his time shouldn't have time for me, should he? I can only hope that he does make time for me, if it gets that far. As you can see these things on my list have already been countered in my mind... Fact is, I like him...
So what are your thoughts on this? Am I making excuses for this very unsuitable character (unsuitable because he doesn't fit my ideal of someone closer to my age who has a lot less baggage and will actually have time for me)? Or should I just throw my list out of the window (I don't think I'm lowering my standards) and go with the feeling I had when I first made contact?
And of course any other thoughts on the situation are most welcome.
Comments (5)
The second one will be sorted out soon.
The third one... I like workaholics. I dislike lazy men. If a man can be devoted to his work it means he s serious and reliable.
Don't compare him with your previous men. You decided you didn't like some things because they were involved in your previous relationships. It's like to say "I never date a green-eye man since such a man broke my heart before".
Good luck!
Sometimes also "baggage" can make a man ...... in a way . You can see how he handles it , if he's responsible or not .
YOU go for it girl and keep us (me) posted on the progress , I love stories of love and success. I hope it all goes well with you , and just cos you go off into lover land , don't you forget about us now here in blogland waiting for you will you ?
your friend saskia
We've made plans to go for a drive that leads to a beach somewhere...