Advice ..
I was chit-chatting to a new workmate yesterday and I could feel that he is looking for a friend as he is new here , so we talked a lot and we went to have dinner together after work , We talked about many things in life and work and we talked about relationships , He is married with 2 kids , He said He loves his wife and his kids so much and he can not live with out them but although he loves his wife so much ( As he declared ) he added that he is having a big problem , I did not want to be nosy and ask what is it but I felt he wants to voice it out so I asked ( how can be any problem if you have a nice family which you adore ? ) , He responded in a shy voice ( I feel sexually frustrated ) , How come I exclaimed ? , He said he is not enjoying it with his wife even since their early days . but he just ignore that cause he is in love with her , He added but now I feel more frustrated , and He asked me what he can do .....After a long pause I said ( I really can not offer you any advice now cause it is very complicated issue ) and Told him , I will think of it and will see what I can advise you.
So I thought to share that here with you guys , maybe one of you will give a good advice .
Comments (18)
But you could refer them to a qualified professonal in the area. That way you do a Dr referal, and keep you nose clean and your friendship.
Or you can stick your nose in and then deal with the dramas.
Nice new profile picture By the way .
and also sorry ( I think you know why I say sorry ).
But I always wonder about men like this. If they can talk openly like this is someone they have only just met, how come he hasn't talked about this with his wife?
I think that perhaps if they both talked about it, a solution might be able to be found, or at least an understanding could be reached.
I'm sure that if he feels this frustration, that his wife would also feel it. Women are often far more sensitive to our moods and feelings than we are.
And I agree with others, keep you nose clean or you might end up in the middle of something you don't want to a part of.
@Halv : I know him since few months and this is the first time he talks to me about something Private and you know when you works or live in another country not your homeland and you find someone from your homeland it is like finding a land in the deep sea ( I understand him cause I experienced that )
nice put :)
For example, sometimes when frustrations are building up, the real root of the problem may be because the couple have stopped communicating on a deeper level. The reasons are many….the wife/ husband may feel a lack of appreciation, separation from family, a lack of support by either of the partners to what they need, etc.
I think perhaps it may be a good idea to just listen and not give any advice until you can get a better picture of what is really causing the issues between your friend and his wife. This is only just my opinion
I believe you are right .