To marry or not,that is the question

I've never been the marrying type,and I've told everyone that I'll never get married.But lately I've been going back and fourth on this issue.On one hand it'll be awesome to get engaged then get married.I would love to get married in my parents' backyard.They live in the country and have a huge backyard.I apsolutely refuse to get married in a church as I don't believe in religion.
On the other hand I feel that marriage would take away so much of my freedom.Iam such a freespirit and very independent.Iam set in my ways.Marriage is a huge committment,a lifelong committment.Would I still have as much freedom being married as I had when I was single or dating?
I've been in a common-law relationship once and that was a huge disaster.I'd hate to go through something that painful and dramatic again!So much hurt,anger,insults,and heartache.To be honest,I wasn't ready for a common-law relationship,and prior to us living together we had been living with my parents.They decided that it was time for my boyfriend and I to leave the nest even though I wasn't ready to have a common-law relationship yet.
My ex brought up marriage all the time,pressuring me to marry him someday,even though I told him that I didn't want to get married.In other words,he wanted marriage,I didn't.
But he wasn't the "one" obviously or else we'd still be together.Perhaps when I find the right guy I'll change my mind about marriage.Until then,I'll continue to struggle with the issue of whether or not I want to get married.