Five big keys to a successful relationship
#1) Communication, communication, communication, communication. No matter how hard or difficult the subject may be, both people need to be honest, completely open 100% and transparent. Both people should be able to freely express their wants, needs and desires without anger, judgement or resentment. Obviously it takes tact and you don't want to purposely hurt your partner.#2) Both people should wake up every single day and want to unconditionally and unselfishly give all that they can to their partner to make their partner happy. Think about it. If each person is giving their partner everything that they want and need neither person could ever ask for anything more.
#3) Their are many stressers that cause relationships to break down but, one big one is children. Many times especially in the United States we are conditioned to believe that children are priority #1 and then somewhere down the line the relationship is on the list as a priority. We have it backwards. The Europeans do it correctly. Marriage and relationship are first and children are second and the reasoning is that Happy parents make happy children which ultimately makes a happy home. If you have unhappy parents then you have unhappy children etc.
#4) When we and us becomes I and me then problems start. The thought process should always be that you consider the relationship in everything that you do first and then determine what your partner would think and when in doubt communicate with your partner.
#5) Never quit. Their is a saying "If you never quit then you can never lose. The only time that you are guaranteed to lose is when you quit."
Comments (16)
Communication is the biggest problem in all relationships.
I do not need to ask you what you are doing here, the same as what am I doing here?
As you say, it takes 2 to tango. If only one person wants to communicate and the other is not open to it, what can you do?
I have found here some people who are great communicators and I am sure we would be very compatible... but.... they happen to live on the other side of the planet!
So, what are we doing here? waiting for someone closer...?
Right I agree with you Steve. I just put new status in my FB that "I won't run after a friendship as communication has to be from both ways"
I think it would be possibly working in these 5 tips discussed with our partner and get the agreement that we both will do our best to always do these 5 tips and add tips no.6 : "to remind each party when they forget of the above 5 points"
do you think the next relationship would work better and ever ?
@Minerva: If only one person wants to communicate and the other is not open to it, what can you do?
Communication is already started and suddenly what you said that happened. Then, we can send, "Have a wonderful day!" or "Have a nice evening!", etc. That is all. Till the person does reply back.
Valid points and all biggies, if one of them fails, that's probably it.
There are no recipes for success
No amount of sacrifices will guarantee you anything