Why do I continue to allow myself to be hurt?

Your profile says you're separated, is it your husband you're talking about? Marriages are worth fighting for, but hard to do that alone. Talk him into professional support, but if he isn't interested, if there's a third party involved, bite the bullet and go away on a holiday. Give yourself a break. You owe it to your self worth.

If you're in another relationship, you haven't really committed to it, your profile says you're looking. So, go look. This one isn't working.

Easy to say, hard to do, and we have ALL been there. The sooner you make the break, the sooner you recover. Good luck!

I don't know why
do you love him? you mentioned alot but you never mentioned that

I can relate to you very well.

Not so long ago, I was going through hell with the father of my kids.

I didn't leave him immediately coz he was the sole breadwinner and also coz of the kids, didn't want them to be traumatized by our separation.

Now, after 1 year of kicking him out from the house, I couldn't be more happier and wished I have done it sooner.

Anyway, every relationship is different therefore only you yourself would know what's best....

I was in the same situation and it took a lot of courage to get to the point where I decided enough was enough. You can do it. Just believe in yourself and your ability to survive on your own.

Hi Verylisa! I guess we all get to a point in our life that we realize we have to still learn more about ourself and our way of thinking. This is good, as it will help us to decide for the next step to take!