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maybe true......about love.....
SOME...
interesting facts that came to the experimental researchers of love:
If you hold hands with someone you love, this can help to alleviate physical pain as well as any feelings of stress and fear.
The act of falling in love is known to have a calming effect on a person’s body and mind. This, in turn, will raise levels of nerve growth for about a year.
Individuals who appear similar and at the same level of attractiveness are more likely to end up together than people who look significantly different.
Although opposites attract, couples that are either too similar or too different are not likely to last very long.
Both males and females must have adequate testosterone for s*xual attraction.
Falling in love is as addicting as cocaine or nicotine.
Love can literally make you crazy.
We also tend to fall in love with someone who looks like ourselves....i was just reading this in internet..
interesting facts that came to the experimental researchers of love:
If you hold hands with someone you love, this can help to alleviate physical pain as well as any feelings of stress and fear.
The act of falling in love is known to have a calming effect on a person’s body and mind. This, in turn, will raise levels of nerve growth for about a year.
Individuals who appear similar and at the same level of attractiveness are more likely to end up together than people who look significantly different.
Although opposites attract, couples that are either too similar or too different are not likely to last very long.
Both males and females must have adequate testosterone for s*xual attraction.
Falling in love is as addicting as cocaine or nicotine.
Love can literally make you crazy.
We also tend to fall in love with someone who looks like ourselves....i was just reading this in internet..
are we olbligated
Are we obligated to satisfied another person....one whom you may be just a friend with...to answering all of their questions, including personal questions that are really none of their business? In return, they make threats if you do not and even hold you emotionally hostage.
It is nice to try to be there for some people and try and understand them. But, it is another thing when they try and run over the top of you like a freight train with their self-proclaimed "warrior" perception of themselves.
Anyway....just some thoughts here.
Happy Friday all.
As a side note....a "warrior" who tries and use their words, intellect, and manipulation is nothing against a person who is not willing to play the game with them.
It is nice to try to be there for some people and try and understand them. But, it is another thing when they try and run over the top of you like a freight train with their self-proclaimed "warrior" perception of themselves.
Anyway....just some thoughts here.
Happy Friday all.
As a side note....a "warrior" who tries and use their words, intellect, and manipulation is nothing against a person who is not willing to play the game with them.
Time
Time is worthless/priceless.. time has created the universe. time makes money that revolves the Earth. time compensates itself for the purpose its been used for.,.. having to givethat someone most of your quality time is more than enough to make up an expensive jewellry you can buy to propose to that special someone... the true value of friendship and love comes from that valuable time that you spend together... Peace.. Simles..
What Really is True Love? Part Two
I need to explain that a favourite quote of mine is, 'when you are up to your arse in alligators, it is often difficult to remember, that the objective was to drain the swamp.' It is a convenient excuse, and the following is quoting from a comment I made on another Article. I use it here to explain what this idiot now realises he needed to learn.
You see, after twenty nine years, I found myself busy with the alligators. I forgot to cuddle her in a morning and be grateful for all the wonderful things we had. I forgot, how important our relationship was, I forgot that she too needed support. I forgot to thank her and be grateful for all she did for us. I forgot everything and gradually she simply slipped away. I was grateful it all ended amicably, with no acrimony and that we parted friends, but even so, I couldn't see that it had been my fault. That I had dropped the ball! That it was me who forgot everything, and of course a relationship is unsustainable if one of you has to carry it alone!
It was not until now, another fourteen years later, when we no longer have a place in each others lives, that I understand. Now, this very morning, I walk along the river bank where we once walked together, and I pass the secluded places where not that many years ago we made love in the grass, under the sunshine, basking in the warmth of a love which by that time had endured better than twenty five years.
It suddenly became clear to me, that there were no alligators, there was no swamp, I had no commission to drain it, it was all simply a warped perception. What I did have however, was a very small obligation. That obligation was to never forget what a beautiful thing is was that we had! To never forget it needed just a little nurturing, to never forget to carry my part of it, to never forget to say I love you, well done, or thank you for being a part of my life.
So yes, it is important to understand how to make a relationship work, but it is vital never to forget that you know how, or forget that small obligation. As I stand alone on the river bank, I can only say Thank You Universe, for giving me the opportunity to learn that important lesson.
And I would like also to thank you guys for being here to teach me. I've not been here on the site a week yet and already I learned to pull together all the information I had held for so long but not been able to accept, because I had the wrong perception. We never stop learning, but it did take me rather a long time.
As a friend reminded me today, you don't always see what is happening or what effect you are having at the time. It is easy to be wise in hindsight! She also said that maybe I was being too hard on myself to which I responded; On the subject of taking too much on board, I look at it like this; over the years, I have had a number of car accidents, one or two were even funny, one I swear the Universe stepped in on my behalf, however, the point is, that there is not one instance where, if I had done something differently, been more aware, taken notice of that sound, not been changing a CD, rested when I was tired, whatever, where I couldn't have avoided it. Every single one I could have avoided absolutely! Never mind the other drivers or their culpability, I could have ensured it didn't happen, though for whatever reason I allowed it.
My marriage and my life were the same. Now, I know it was Kismet, it was time for us to part, I know it had to happen for us to move on to the subsequent classes which were already planned. Even so, the fact remains, I could have made it work, I could have brought it back from the dark pit it had fallen into, but I didn't. I didn't take enough notice of what was happening around me or see that I was the architect of it all.
So what is true love? The point at which we started. It is when you care so much about someone that their happiness is more important to you, than your own, even if it means letting them go kindly.
You see, after twenty nine years, I found myself busy with the alligators. I forgot to cuddle her in a morning and be grateful for all the wonderful things we had. I forgot, how important our relationship was, I forgot that she too needed support. I forgot to thank her and be grateful for all she did for us. I forgot everything and gradually she simply slipped away. I was grateful it all ended amicably, with no acrimony and that we parted friends, but even so, I couldn't see that it had been my fault. That I had dropped the ball! That it was me who forgot everything, and of course a relationship is unsustainable if one of you has to carry it alone!
It was not until now, another fourteen years later, when we no longer have a place in each others lives, that I understand. Now, this very morning, I walk along the river bank where we once walked together, and I pass the secluded places where not that many years ago we made love in the grass, under the sunshine, basking in the warmth of a love which by that time had endured better than twenty five years.
It suddenly became clear to me, that there were no alligators, there was no swamp, I had no commission to drain it, it was all simply a warped perception. What I did have however, was a very small obligation. That obligation was to never forget what a beautiful thing is was that we had! To never forget it needed just a little nurturing, to never forget to carry my part of it, to never forget to say I love you, well done, or thank you for being a part of my life.
So yes, it is important to understand how to make a relationship work, but it is vital never to forget that you know how, or forget that small obligation. As I stand alone on the river bank, I can only say Thank You Universe, for giving me the opportunity to learn that important lesson.
And I would like also to thank you guys for being here to teach me. I've not been here on the site a week yet and already I learned to pull together all the information I had held for so long but not been able to accept, because I had the wrong perception. We never stop learning, but it did take me rather a long time.
As a friend reminded me today, you don't always see what is happening or what effect you are having at the time. It is easy to be wise in hindsight! She also said that maybe I was being too hard on myself to which I responded; On the subject of taking too much on board, I look at it like this; over the years, I have had a number of car accidents, one or two were even funny, one I swear the Universe stepped in on my behalf, however, the point is, that there is not one instance where, if I had done something differently, been more aware, taken notice of that sound, not been changing a CD, rested when I was tired, whatever, where I couldn't have avoided it. Every single one I could have avoided absolutely! Never mind the other drivers or their culpability, I could have ensured it didn't happen, though for whatever reason I allowed it.
My marriage and my life were the same. Now, I know it was Kismet, it was time for us to part, I know it had to happen for us to move on to the subsequent classes which were already planned. Even so, the fact remains, I could have made it work, I could have brought it back from the dark pit it had fallen into, but I didn't. I didn't take enough notice of what was happening around me or see that I was the architect of it all.
So what is true love? The point at which we started. It is when you care so much about someone that their happiness is more important to you, than your own, even if it means letting them go kindly.
What Really is True Love? Part one
I only this year understood what true love is and have only just now realised why I am here, on this site. For someone my age this is a revelation that has been a long time coming. I was directed here by an acquaintance because of the blogs, articles and forums, and I knew I was here to learn something but I didn't know what.
I have gone through life in a myopic state as far as marriage, family and relationships were concerned. Possibly everything I ever did, was done without benefit of being able to see what it was, exactly, that I had done. It is not that I didn't really see everything, because I did and I always knew from being a child, that everything one does is subject to perceptions, but it is my perceptions which I now question. For example; if one puts the same information into ten different computers, one would get ten answers exactly the same, however, if one feeds the same information to ten different people, one would receive ten different perceptions of that information. None, or all of which, may be correct in their own way.
Men will often say that women are illogical because they have a different perception of things and yes, many people will allow that one must take into account other peoples point of view. It is however, not where they are looking from, that may be different, but their whole perception of events. People on apposite sides of a stadium watching a match of some kind will certainly have a different point of view but that is not what is relevant. It is the perception of the events witnessed which is important.
A very dear friend recently sent me an acapella song, on the pretext that it was really good acapella. The song was, “give my love to your new lover” but the penny didn't drop! We were lovers once but are very good friends still and have been so for many years now, providing support whenever needed. Even there, I believe I have been remiss and can think of at least one instance when she needed support and I didn't give it because of my stilted viewpoint, warped perception and in that instance, bigoted attitude. Anyway, the coin did drop eventually and I realised why she had sent the song.
Since my marriage broke up and that, I now realise, was entirely my fault, I have had a number of relationships, trying to find my new soul mate. Some were short term by agreement, especially the ones with much younger women. Others were potentially good relationships which could have blossomed but I wasn't satisfied for whatever stupid reason and ended them, on occasion cruelly, I now realise. The two most recent were the opposite, I even proposed to one of the girls who laughed and said, “I should have thought you'd had enough of that!” Each in turn dumped me and I was so badly hurt, not being able to understand what had happened, or why. Then, recently, when I was writing, which is what I do for a living these days, I found one of my own characters was giving me a slap round the head and making me look at what I had done. She sowed the seeds which helped me to now see, how self centred and blind I had been. And that was simply a scenario I was creating, in a book, which I am still writing. Because it is a love story, I came to this site to learn whatever it was I needed to know. Or if you like, I was sent here by the Universe because I wasn't understanding the information I had in my head.
Now perhaps, you will be able to see that I couldn't possibly have met my next soul mate before, because I wasn't ready, and would probably have hurt her and cast her aside like I did everyone else. How and why my ex-wife hung on for so long I will never understand, but much credit is due to her for such steadfastness and loyalty to an imbecile.
Contd
I have gone through life in a myopic state as far as marriage, family and relationships were concerned. Possibly everything I ever did, was done without benefit of being able to see what it was, exactly, that I had done. It is not that I didn't really see everything, because I did and I always knew from being a child, that everything one does is subject to perceptions, but it is my perceptions which I now question. For example; if one puts the same information into ten different computers, one would get ten answers exactly the same, however, if one feeds the same information to ten different people, one would receive ten different perceptions of that information. None, or all of which, may be correct in their own way.
Men will often say that women are illogical because they have a different perception of things and yes, many people will allow that one must take into account other peoples point of view. It is however, not where they are looking from, that may be different, but their whole perception of events. People on apposite sides of a stadium watching a match of some kind will certainly have a different point of view but that is not what is relevant. It is the perception of the events witnessed which is important.
A very dear friend recently sent me an acapella song, on the pretext that it was really good acapella. The song was, “give my love to your new lover” but the penny didn't drop! We were lovers once but are very good friends still and have been so for many years now, providing support whenever needed. Even there, I believe I have been remiss and can think of at least one instance when she needed support and I didn't give it because of my stilted viewpoint, warped perception and in that instance, bigoted attitude. Anyway, the coin did drop eventually and I realised why she had sent the song.
Since my marriage broke up and that, I now realise, was entirely my fault, I have had a number of relationships, trying to find my new soul mate. Some were short term by agreement, especially the ones with much younger women. Others were potentially good relationships which could have blossomed but I wasn't satisfied for whatever stupid reason and ended them, on occasion cruelly, I now realise. The two most recent were the opposite, I even proposed to one of the girls who laughed and said, “I should have thought you'd had enough of that!” Each in turn dumped me and I was so badly hurt, not being able to understand what had happened, or why. Then, recently, when I was writing, which is what I do for a living these days, I found one of my own characters was giving me a slap round the head and making me look at what I had done. She sowed the seeds which helped me to now see, how self centred and blind I had been. And that was simply a scenario I was creating, in a book, which I am still writing. Because it is a love story, I came to this site to learn whatever it was I needed to know. Or if you like, I was sent here by the Universe because I wasn't understanding the information I had in my head.
Now perhaps, you will be able to see that I couldn't possibly have met my next soul mate before, because I wasn't ready, and would probably have hurt her and cast her aside like I did everyone else. How and why my ex-wife hung on for so long I will never understand, but much credit is due to her for such steadfastness and loyalty to an imbecile.
Contd
Wanted - Dimwit incapable of learning anything.
One of the most common phrases I see on profiles is " No Baggage" 
Ok we none of us want a person so laden down with baggage they can't move 
especially where this involves a dead person, you can't compete with the dead 
they never make mistakes or say the wrong thing, but really, no baggage means someone who's learnt nothing from previous relationships 
I can only speak for myself but I certainly carry some, but it's pretty light weight stuff, so when I see certain words, phrases or actions I can run with it 
Ok we none of us want a person so laden down with baggage they can't move especially where this involves a dead person, you can't compete with the dead they never make mistakes or say the wrong thing, but really, no baggage means someone who's learnt nothing from previous relationships I can only speak for myself but I certainly carry some, but it's pretty light weight stuff, so when I see certain words, phrases or actions I can run with it
I thought I was over this!
It made me catch my breath and gave me that feeling in the pit of my stomach. I thought I was over this! 'Oh come on!' I thought, 'you really need to get past this!'
I was washing clothes and bedding this morning and as it came to folding the socks, I thought it was time to swap for the summer socks now. I got out the bag and as I was taking them out and putting them in the drawer, I noticed there were several that she had folded in that carefree elvish way she had and it reminded me of her laughing about how many socks I had. And I thought about her laugh tinkling around the room, and her pretty smiling face and ….. I won't say I'm a mess again, not quite in tears, but it was a blow to the solar plexus!
I was washing clothes and bedding this morning and as it came to folding the socks, I thought it was time to swap for the summer socks now. I got out the bag and as I was taking them out and putting them in the drawer, I noticed there were several that she had folded in that carefree elvish way she had and it reminded me of her laughing about how many socks I had. And I thought about her laugh tinkling around the room, and her pretty smiling face and ….. I won't say I'm a mess again, not quite in tears, but it was a blow to the solar plexus!
Did you ever get that feeling?
You're about to do something and you get that little voice in the back of your head whispering 'don't do it.' but you go ahead anyway. Have you ever done that?
Well I did recently and ignored that little voice! Hah! It earned me got a good kicking this morning and I still haven't recovered consciousness fully yet. Now the little voice is going, 'Idiot, told you, maybe you'll listen next time. Haha!'
Well I did recently and ignored that little voice! Hah! It earned me got a good kicking this morning and I still haven't recovered consciousness fully yet. Now the little voice is going, 'Idiot, told you, maybe you'll listen next time. Haha!'
Blue Eyed Fairy
When i first joined this site... my intentions were as clear as a jellyfish sunbathing on a beach. I was not in the market to find a soulmate... lover...girlfriend...wife... or any other label that goes with trying to find the other half of me. I am now walking a line of where i think it is very possible that she has found me. now i have to say i still have a bit of my guard up. i have talked to a few people on this site; after being contacted and they all were bogus and so my wall remained. after all ...what do you expect when everyone is fake and has some agenda in mind. we have been talking for a bit now and i still have a bit of reserve... yet she is very cool and understanding. and man oh man... i get taken in by her eyes every time. That is why she is the Blue Eyed Fairy. Not saying this is the match of a lifetime, soulmate or all the words folks use... still i do feel we have a connection. i like where it is going and will give her the chance no one gets... mostly because they make me put up the wall when they throw red flags. So if you get a chance to read this... thanks for being you and i want to see to where this goes with us. Thinking of you my Blue Eyed Fairy.
Kisses...Rev@32
p.s. i turned off the comments. dont need people trolling or commenting off the wall stuff. If you my dear want to reply... well you know where to find me. kisses
Kisses...Rev@32
p.s. i turned off the comments. dont need people trolling or commenting off the wall stuff. If you my dear want to reply... well you know where to find me. kisses
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