why our children must suffer? (96)
krishatokyo, Kanto Japan76 Threads 6,375 Poststhese days a lot of children are suffering from broken family.and my son is one of them,i try to survive my marriage because of my son....it never happen to me,but i know what is in his mind..we must to accept that we are just 2 athome now...my question is why many couples now are just thinking about their self and never think about their kids feeling?its just important their happiness?when mother or father didnt happy to each other,they wil look for new one and say goodbye to their kids,they never think ,they want a happy and whole family ? not a broken family..its seems just they care about their self... and forget the feelings of their kids...
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krisha: these days a lot of children are suffering from broken family.and my son is one of them,i try to survive my marriage because of my son....it never happen to me,but i know what is in his mind..we must to accept that we are just 2 athome now...my question is why many couples now are just thinking about their self and never think about their kids feeling?its just important their happiness?when mother or father didnt happy to each other,they wil look for new one and say goodbye to their kids,they never think ,they want a happy and whole family ? not a broken family..its seems just they care about their self... and forget the feelings of their kids...
But is it good for children to see their parents at odds or just unhappy all the time. People that seperate love their children. Sometimes... parents of children get along better apart than together.------ This thread is Archived ------
Very interesting thread.....
I am not a parent. Never planned and never had any children.
However I am an observer, and over the years have seen quite a few situations that evoke my comment in regard to the thread topic.
Do you really believe that two people staying together for the sake of the kids is the answer?
Children are like spnges.....they absorb all vibrations around them naturally.....and if one thinks that they do not feel tension between their parents when it is there you're mistaken.
I do not believe that staying in a situation to hide the problems that exist is not an answer.
Helping the kids to understand what life is all about and being there for them is.
For what it's worth, my two cents worth.
I am not a parent. Never planned and never had any children.
However I am an observer, and over the years have seen quite a few situations that evoke my comment in regard to the thread topic.
Do you really believe that two people staying together for the sake of the kids is the answer?
Children are like spnges.....they absorb all vibrations around them naturally.....and if one thinks that they do not feel tension between their parents when it is there you're mistaken.
I do not believe that staying in a situation to hide the problems that exist is not an answer.
Helping the kids to understand what life is all about and being there for them is.
For what it's worth, my two cents worth.
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But is it good for children to see their parents at odds or just unhappy all the time. People that seperate love their children. Sometimes... parents of children get along better apart than together.[/q
there is some family problem that parents can work out,but just they make a big reason to be out of relation...i know what u mean , but many kids are getting tired about their parents situation but just they cant do anything,unless just watchin them and follow the rules of court..
there is some family problem that parents can work out,but just they make a big reason to be out of relation...i know what u mean , but many kids are getting tired about their parents situation but just they cant do anything,unless just watchin them and follow the rules of court..
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Love comes to you and you follow. Never to imagine nor accept ever losing your beloved children. Sometimes the bond of love between two persons becomes broken (if it ever existed at all). The trauma of a family torn apart is only heart-rending for all. The pain of our children is too terrible to try to describe.
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when a couples plan to have a children,they dream a happy family for them,but onced there is a bit misunderstanding,they forget everything and never think to solve or try to work out ,when we are deciding to be parents we must know and learn how to be out of problems. people can stay together if they will think about their kids feelings,not to their self first,any problems has solution but just the people never think about it..children can understand what they saw,yes u are right,but how their dream to have a complete and happy family?just we will ignored them and says,ah,they can understand what happen to his or her parents..its not a right way......i
gozoman2: Very interesting thread.....
I am not a parent. Never planned and never had any children.
However I am an observer, and over the years have seen quite a few situations that evoke my comment in regard to the thread topic.
Do you really believe that two people staying together for the sake of the kids is the answer?
Children are like spnges.....they absorb all vibrations around them naturally.....and if one thinks that they do not feel tension between their parents when it is there you're mistaken.
I do not believe that staying in a situation to hide the problems that exist is not an answer.
Helping the kids to understand what life is all about and being there for them is.
For what it's worth, my two cents worth.
I am not a parent. Never planned and never had any children.
However I am an observer, and over the years have seen quite a few situations that evoke my comment in regard to the thread topic.
Do you really believe that two people staying together for the sake of the kids is the answer?
Children are like spnges.....they absorb all vibrations around them naturally.....and if one thinks that they do not feel tension between their parents when it is there you're mistaken.
I do not believe that staying in a situation to hide the problems that exist is not an answer.
Helping the kids to understand what life is all about and being there for them is.
For what it's worth, my two cents worth.
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Love comes to you and you follow. Never to imagine nor accept ever losing your beloved children. Sometimes the bond of love between two persons becomes broken (if it ever existed at all). The trauma of a family torn apart is only heart-rending for all. The pain of our children is too terrible to try to describe.[/quote.....
it sad to think,when the love lost in two person,its same as broken mirror,cant fix it and the poor kids just stay in diferrent ways because of the two person mistakes..
it sad to think,when the love lost in two person,its same as broken mirror,cant fix it and the poor kids just stay in diferrent ways because of the two person mistakes..
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The best thing you can do for your children is love there mother/father.
If the love stops? You cant stay in the relationship for the children because that will be there perception of what LOVE is and be doomed to repeat your mistakes and suffer the same loveless relationships in there life. Now that would be selfish.
If the love stops? You cant stay in the relationship for the children because that will be there perception of what LOVE is and be doomed to repeat your mistakes and suffer the same loveless relationships in there life. Now that would be selfish.
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TLC69: The best thing you can do for your children is love there mother/father.
If the love stops? You cant stay in the relationship for the children because that will be there perception of what LOVE is and be doomed to repeat your mistakes and suffer the same loveless relationships in there life. Now that would be selfish.
If the love stops? You cant stay in the relationship for the children because that will be there perception of what LOVE is and be doomed to repeat your mistakes and suffer the same loveless relationships in there life. Now that would be selfish.
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krisha: these days a lot of children are suffering from broken family.and my son is one of them,i try to survive my marriage because of my son....it never happen to me,but i know what is in his mind..we must to accept that we are just 2 athome now...my question is why many couples now are just thinking about their self and never think about their kids feeling?its just important their happiness?when mother or father didnt happy to each other,they wil look for new one and say goodbye to their kids,they never think ,they want a happy and whole family ? not a broken family..its seems just they care about their self... and forget the feelings of their kids...
So, you are a mind reader??
In which manner would children suffer more, a broken home or one in which love is NOT displayed.
Kids suffer because ADULTS/PARENTS teach them misery..
We are born with all the love and everything else we need to live life, then we are supplied with all sorts of unsolicited & untrue information..
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krisha: these days a lot of children are suffering from broken family.and my son is one of them,i try to survive my marriage because of my son....it never happen to me,but i know what is in his mind..we must to accept that we are just 2 athome now...my question is why many couples now are just thinking about their self and never think about their kids feeling?its just important their happiness?when mother or father didnt happy to each other,they wil look for new one and say goodbye to their kids,they never think ,they want a happy and whole family ? not a broken family..its seems just they care about their self... and forget the feelings of their kids...
Parents, to love is a verb. It means something to work on and to work on unconditionally.
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Writer1966: Parents, to love is a verb. It means something to work on and to work on unconditionally.
exactly...........
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TLC69: The best thing you can do for your children is love there mother/father.
If the love stops? You cant stay in the relationship for the children because that will be there perception of what LOVE is and be doomed to repeat your mistakes and suffer the same loveless relationships in there life. Now that would be selfish.
If the love stops? You cant stay in the relationship for the children because that will be there perception of what LOVE is and be doomed to repeat your mistakes and suffer the same loveless relationships in there life. Now that would be selfish.
my messages is only for those people that have chance to survived they marriage for the sake of their children...if they did and really cant,so then decide the best thing but just many kids are suffering for unhappy family..
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So, you are a mind reader??
In which manner would children suffer more, a broken home or one in which love is NOT displayed.
Kids suffer because ADULTS/PARENTS teach them misery..
We are born with all the love and everything else we need to live life, then we are supplied with all sorts of unsolicited & untrue information..[/quo
i didnt say i am a mind reader,u can tell when u watch the children that came from a broken family,i just say if the parents can survive or solve the problem not ending in seperation or divorced ,that is god for their kids but i didnt say ,stay together with out love...no parents will teach a misery life for their kids,that is start from what they feel or what they saw...
In which manner would children suffer more, a broken home or one in which love is NOT displayed.
Kids suffer because ADULTS/PARENTS teach them misery..
We are born with all the love and everything else we need to live life, then we are supplied with all sorts of unsolicited & untrue information..[/quo
i didnt say i am a mind reader,u can tell when u watch the children that came from a broken family,i just say if the parents can survive or solve the problem not ending in seperation or divorced ,that is god for their kids but i didnt say ,stay together with out love...no parents will teach a misery life for their kids,that is start from what they feel or what they saw...
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krisha: these days a lot of children are suffering from broken family.and my son is one of them,i try to survive my marriage because of my son....it never happen to me,but i know what is in his mind..we must to accept that we are just 2 athome now...my question is why many couples now are just thinking about their self and never think about their kids feeling?its just important their happiness?when mother or father didnt happy to each other,they wil look for new one and say goodbye to their kids,they never think ,they want a happy and whole family ? not a broken family..its seems just they care about their self... and forget the feelings of their kids...
Nope i disagree..i am thinking of my children and leave if
i was not happy..
If i am not happy either are my boys..
I hear so many say they try and make it work for the kids..
That is bullock..if you cant get along then go ur separate ways...that is better for the children..
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pubwrite08: But is it good for children to see their parents at odds or just unhappy all the time. People that seperate love their children. Sometimes... parents of children get along better apart than together.
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gozoman2: Very interesting thread.....
I am not a parent. Never planned and never had any children.
However I am an observer, and over the years have seen quite a few situations that evoke my comment in regard to the thread topic.
Do you really believe that two people staying together for the sake of the kids is the answer?
Children are like spnges.....they absorb all vibrations around them naturally.....and if one thinks that they do not feel tension between their parents when it is there you're mistaken.
I do not believe that staying in a situation to hide the problems that exist is not an answer.
Helping the kids to understand what life is all about and being there for them is.
For what it's worth, my two cents worth.
I am not a parent. Never planned and never had any children.
However I am an observer, and over the years have seen quite a few situations that evoke my comment in regard to the thread topic.
Do you really believe that two people staying together for the sake of the kids is the answer?
Children are like spnges.....they absorb all vibrations around them naturally.....and if one thinks that they do not feel tension between their parents when it is there you're mistaken.
I do not believe that staying in a situation to hide the problems that exist is not an answer.
Helping the kids to understand what life is all about and being there for them is.
For what it's worth, my two cents worth.
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To stay in a loveless marriage is not doing anyone any good..
My boys are much more happier then being with someone just for the sake of..
They will grow up and think they should stay somewhere that they dont want to stay becos momma a dadda did that..
Just sit down and talk to them and tell them what is going on if they are old enough..
Tell them just becos momma and dadda will not be together that you children we love and has nothing to do with them..
I will never/ever stay in a relationship that will hurt me or my children regardless
My boys are much more happier then being with someone just for the sake of..
They will grow up and think they should stay somewhere that they dont want to stay becos momma a dadda did that..
Just sit down and talk to them and tell them what is going on if they are old enough..
Tell them just becos momma and dadda will not be together that you children we love and has nothing to do with them..
I will never/ever stay in a relationship that will hurt me or my children regardless
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krisha: u can tell when u watch the children that came from a broken family
You can?
You're sure they come from a "broken family"?
Or are they from a family where the partners are miserable, abusive to each other and TOGETHER?
You're sure, huh?
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Children who live with parents who are constantly hostile to each other will be scarred as much, if not more, than parents who seperate.
I grew up in such a family and spent my whole childhood in fear of the rows and wishing my parents would split up.
When my marraige disintergrated I decided I was not going to carry on that cycle. No I didnt run at the first hurdle, I tried for 14 years to make it work but as my children got older I could see it starting to affect them.
My son told me a few years later that the night his Father moved out was the first night he remembered not crying himself to sleep.
I grew up in such a family and spent my whole childhood in fear of the rows and wishing my parents would split up.
When my marraige disintergrated I decided I was not going to carry on that cycle. No I didnt run at the first hurdle, I tried for 14 years to make it work but as my children got older I could see it starting to affect them.
My son told me a few years later that the night his Father moved out was the first night he remembered not crying himself to sleep.
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