You get hurt, so what! (202)
vonney: Hallo vonney
I think its totally possible to be happy alone, yes. And alot of people do,sadly depend upon others to make them happy - which is wrong..it puts a heavy burden on the other person.
Im happy in my own skin, but dont want to spend the rest of my life alone; its not a natural condition - humans are social creatures.
Loving and losing is very hard and very hurtful, yes. It just means that I chose the wrong partner for me in that instance, and as you say, you have to take responsibility for one's own failures; however, it doesnt make me think that all future men that come into my path are likely to do the same.
Dont get me wrong I dont think men are to blame or that any future men I might meet would let me down.It is just that I have made the decision that it is not worth it to find out.
I think its totally possible to be happy alone, yes. And alot of people do,sadly depend upon others to make them happy - which is wrong..it puts a heavy burden on the other person.
Im happy in my own skin, but dont want to spend the rest of my life alone; its not a natural condition - humans are social creatures.
Loving and losing is very hard and very hurtful, yes. It just means that I chose the wrong partner for me in that instance, and as you say, you have to take responsibility for one's own failures; however, it doesnt make me think that all future men that come into my path are likely to do the same.
Dont get me wrong I dont think men are to blame or that any future men I might meet would let me down.It is just that I have made the decision that it is not worth it to find out.
We all make our decisions, dont we?! As long as you are happy with yours, that is all that matters. You sound like a strong lady, all power to you!
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Big_John: The question in my mind is how many times do we have to go through this pain?
My answer is until we get it right.
I will head back into the dating world again, again, and again until I find her. Plus I can't not allow the past to close my heart. I truly believe if you are scared of losing and the pain of trying so hard that it hurts when you are unsuccessful then you are doomed.
Each of us have suffered the broken heart! It is how we respond to that is the true question.
My answer is until we get it right.
I will head back into the dating world again, again, and again until I find her. Plus I can't not allow the past to close my heart. I truly believe if you are scared of losing and the pain of trying so hard that it hurts when you are unsuccessful then you are doomed.
Each of us have suffered the broken heart! It is how we respond to that is the true question.
"So true BJ.However,I've never been scared of trying;
the losing of trust is what makes the trying difficult.
But,as I've said,the search must go on.But,this time,
I'll be more of a lady of patience even if it means a
search that goes on for the rest of my life.
Love will do this to you;once you've experienced
love,it's worth the journey of finding it again..".
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Polarbutterfly: "So true BJ.However,I've never been scared of trying;
the losing of trust is what makes the trying difficult.
But,as I've said,the search must go on.But,this time,
I'll be more of a lady of patience even if it means a
search that goes on for the rest of my life.
Love will do this to you;once you've experienced
love,it's worth the journey of finding it again..".
yup i agree, i for one will only stop when i find someonethe losing of trust is what makes the trying difficult.
But,as I've said,the search must go on.But,this time,
I'll be more of a lady of patience even if it means a
search that goes on for the rest of my life.
Love will do this to you;once you've experienced
love,it's worth the journey of finding it again..".
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Goddess4u: Hey Apost, I am loving those funny little critters... they are so good
You shouldna done it - you broke my silence.....
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'I think its totally possible to be happy alone, yes. And alot of people do,sadly depend upon others to make them happy'
I agree with this, there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Some people just don't like being alone, they seem to need to have people around them all the time. Maybe they are not comfortable with their own company - I don't know.
I enjoy my own company - always have. I like being around people at other times. However I know myself better than anybody else does and know what it takes to make me happy (surprisingly, not much). I am not looking 'for' someone to make me happy - I already am happy. If anything, I am looking for someone to be happy 'with'.
I agree with this, there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Some people just don't like being alone, they seem to need to have people around them all the time. Maybe they are not comfortable with their own company - I don't know.
I enjoy my own company - always have. I like being around people at other times. However I know myself better than anybody else does and know what it takes to make me happy (surprisingly, not much). I am not looking 'for' someone to make me happy - I already am happy. If anything, I am looking for someone to be happy 'with'.
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Apostophe: You shouldna done it - you broke my silence.....
Ooooppppsssss sorry
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prairiewoman: 'I think its totally possible to be happy alone, yes. And alot of people do,sadly depend upon others to make them happy'I agree with this, there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Some people just don't like being alone, they seem to need to have people around them all the time. Maybe they are not comfortable with their own company - I don't know.
I enjoy my own company - always have. I like being around people at other times. However I know myself better than anybody else does and know what it takes to make me happy (surprisingly, not much). I am not looking 'for' someone to make me happy - I already am happy. If anything, I am looking for someone to be happy 'with'.
I enjoy my own company - always have. I like being around people at other times. However I know myself better than anybody else does and know what it takes to make me happy (surprisingly, not much). I am not looking 'for' someone to make me happy - I already am happy. If anything, I am looking for someone to be happy 'with'.
ten points....
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Apostophe: You shouldna done it - you broke my silence.....
Sorry John,
Don't have - does anyone want to quote Wordsworth's Field of Daffodils for me - yes i know i can Google it but it would be nicer this way...
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prairiewoman: 'I think its totally possible to be happy alone, yes. And alot of people do,sadly depend upon others to make them happy'I agree with this, there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Some people just don't like being alone, they seem to need to have people around them all the time. Maybe they are not comfortable with their own company - I don't know.
I enjoy my own company - always have. I like being around people at other times. However I know myself better than anybody else does and know what it takes to make me happy (surprisingly, not much). I am not looking 'for' someone to make me happy - I already am happy. If anything, I am looking for someone to be happy 'with'.
I enjoy my own company - always have. I like being around people at other times. However I know myself better than anybody else does and know what it takes to make me happy (surprisingly, not much). I am not looking 'for' someone to make me happy - I already am happy. If anything, I am looking for someone to be happy 'with'.
Agree completely!!!! While I would love to meet someone to share my life with... I´ve accepted the fact that it may not happen, I´m not just looking for anyone, I need someone who enhances the wonderful life that I have!
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prairiewoman: 'I think its totally possible to be happy alone, yes. And alot of people do,sadly depend upon others to make them happy'I agree with this, there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Some people just don't like being alone, they seem to need to have people around them all the time. Maybe they are not comfortable with their own company - I don't know.
I enjoy my own company - always have. I like being around people at other times. However I know myself better than anybody else does and know what it takes to make me happy (surprisingly, not much). I am not looking 'for' someone to make me happy - I already am happy. If anything, I am looking for someone to be happy 'with'.
I enjoy my own company - always have. I like being around people at other times. However I know myself better than anybody else does and know what it takes to make me happy (surprisingly, not much). I am not looking 'for' someone to make me happy - I already am happy. If anything, I am looking for someone to be happy 'with'.
This is something I had to figure out last year. Do I like myself to be alone? Do I like my own company? I took a six week RV trip up the east coast to experience myself. I learn a valuable lesson on that trip. Yes I enjoy being alone. I am not lonely when I am by myself. However, I am a 'couple's person' and desire someone in my life. Will I be waiting for her and putting my life on hold while she find me--no. Next month I am heading out on a three or four month RV trip, followed up with two flights; one to Ireland and the other to Argentina. Maybe I will find her along the way.
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Apostophe: Sorry John,
Don't have - does anyone want to quote Wordsworth's Field of Daffodils for me - yes i know i can Google it but it would be nicer this way...
Don't have - does anyone want to quote Wordsworth's Field of Daffodils for me - yes i know i can Google it but it would be nicer this way...
"Daffodils" (1804)
I WANDER'D lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o'er vales and hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils;
Beside the lake, beneath the trees,
Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.
Continuous as the stars that shine
And twinkle on the Milky Way,
They stretch'd in never-ending line
Along the margin of a bay:
Ten thousand saw I at a glance,
Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.
The waves beside them danced; but they
Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:
A poet could not but be gay,
In such a jocund company:
I gazed -- and gazed -- but little thought
What wealth the show to me had brought:
For oft, when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils.
By William Wordsworth (1770-1850).
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gozoman2: "Daffodils" (1804)
I WANDER'D lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o'er vales and hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils;
Beside the lake, beneath the trees,
Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.
Continuous as the stars that shine
And twinkle on the Milky Way,
They stretch'd in never-ending line
Along the margin of a bay:
Ten thousand saw I at a glance,
Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.
The waves beside them danced; but they
Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:
A poet could not but be gay,
In such a jocund company:
I gazed -- and gazed -- but little thought
What wealth the show to me had brought:
For oft, when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils.
By William Wordsworth (1770-1850).
I WANDER'D lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o'er vales and hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils;
Beside the lake, beneath the trees,
Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.
Continuous as the stars that shine
And twinkle on the Milky Way,
They stretch'd in never-ending line
Along the margin of a bay:
Ten thousand saw I at a glance,
Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.
The waves beside them danced; but they
Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:
A poet could not but be gay,
In such a jocund company:
I gazed -- and gazed -- but little thought
What wealth the show to me had brought:
For oft, when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils.
By William Wordsworth (1770-1850).
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Sorrrrrry!
My spirits lifted immediately - wow - how gorgeous - thanks gozo!
My spirits lifted immediately - wow - how gorgeous - thanks gozo!
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Apostophe: Sorrrrrry!
My spirits lifted immediately - wow - how gorgeous - thanks gozo!
My spirits lifted immediately - wow - how gorgeous - thanks gozo!
...it is but in the mind's eye of the beholder....
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'This is something I had to figure out last year.'
How many people actually take the time to figure this out? You see, this makes sense to me. This is a part of our journey, learning this 'stuff' about yourself. While I don't necessarily want to be alone - geez, I'd really like it if I could find someone to be a part of a couple with, I'm not willing to 'settle' for someone who wouldn't be appropriate to who I am and the 'me inside'. This may mean that I remain single - and I've accepted that possibility. Does that mean that everything is put on hold? No. I do what I want, go where I want and perhaps I'll meet 'him' somewhere along the way.
He probably should be wearing hiking boots....
How many people actually take the time to figure this out? You see, this makes sense to me. This is a part of our journey, learning this 'stuff' about yourself. While I don't necessarily want to be alone - geez, I'd really like it if I could find someone to be a part of a couple with, I'm not willing to 'settle' for someone who wouldn't be appropriate to who I am and the 'me inside'. This may mean that I remain single - and I've accepted that possibility. Does that mean that everything is put on hold? No. I do what I want, go where I want and perhaps I'll meet 'him' somewhere along the way.
He probably should be wearing hiking boots....
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Big_John: This is something I had to figure out last year. Do I like myself to be alone? Do I like my own company? I took a six week RV trip up the east coast to experience myself. I learn a valuable lesson on that trip. Yes I enjoy being alone. I am not lonely when I am by myself. However, I am a 'couple's person' and desire someone in my life. Will I be waiting for her and putting my life on hold while she find me--no. Next month I am heading out on a three or four month RV trip, followed up with two flights; one to Ireland and the other to Argentina. Maybe I will find her along the way.
Traveling alone is a great way to find out if you enjoy your own company! I spent 3 years backpacking around the world when I turned 40... it was the most amazing experience I could have had. My daughter had just left home and after 20 years of defining myself as "Jen´s Mom" I had to figure out who I was and what I wanted from life all over again!
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gozoman2: ...it is but in the mind's eye of the beholder....
Apologies John!
Yes a good place to be - thanks again.
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Apostophe: Apologies John!Yes a good place to be - thanks again.
All is good. Threads need side tracks along the way. Makes them interesting. Join in the discussion.
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Big_John: All is good. Threads need side tracks along the way. Makes them interesting. Join in the discussion.
Hello nice man,
True that it's like riding a horse - and it's life any way - nothing is permanent - only death and taxes of course. As you said - life is a journey - enjoy the ride!
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Hiya hun
Yep we will
Great to see you