You get hurt, so what! (202)
vonney: No I dont agree that it is and I find it hard to believe that anyone would allow themselves to be open to that pain.
Well it is all good vonny, if you don't ever open your heart ,then no one can get in, and if you do and they let you down it is on them not me, I always open up for whoever wants me to and for some that don't. As I said it is on them not me, I am the same always.
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sassy49senior: John this is an awesome thread my friend. I was hurt by someone
not too long ago and I disappeared for awhile. Started focusing
more on where my life is going and I thought, how childish a
reaction that was. As you stated we all go through some type
of hurt in our lives and I just needed to get off my sob pony
and back on my trusting horse so to speak. I look at things
in a more positive way and I do have expectations and will
continue to flower and message at times. I do not consider
myself desperate but I do know I enjoy having that male
companionship. My journey will just be that much more exciting
when we can continue it side by side, hand in hand through
the good and not so good times.
Good for you Sassy. I like male companionship also.not too long ago and I disappeared for awhile. Started focusing
more on where my life is going and I thought, how childish a
reaction that was. As you stated we all go through some type
of hurt in our lives and I just needed to get off my sob pony
and back on my trusting horse so to speak. I look at things
in a more positive way and I do have expectations and will
continue to flower and message at times. I do not consider
myself desperate but I do know I enjoy having that male
companionship. My journey will just be that much more exciting
when we can continue it side by side, hand in hand through
the good and not so good times.
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jessejess47: Well it is all good vonny, if you don't ever open your heart ,then no one can get in, and if you do and they let you down it is on them not me, I always open up for whoever wants me to and for some that don't. As I said it is on them not me, I am the same always.
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jessejess47: Well it is all good vonny, if you don't ever open your heart ,then no one can get in, and if you do and they let you down it is on them not me, I always open up for whoever wants me to and for some that don't. As I said it is on them not me, I am the same always.
yeps....
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druidess6308: Agreed, Claayer. I never shut a door completely, but I'm much more interested in finding someone locally. I'd move even slower in a potential LDR right now because of my current situation. I just can't give the energy to that at this time. Local is easier because you can hang out together and get to know each other in person, and nobody has to give thought to moving real soon.
Yep.. the other thing I always think too (and have mentioned here before).. Is that dating locally.. means you can go on a few dates and see what you think of eachother.
LDR means.. Military precision planning to get it all organised, how long to stay? taking time off work.. all the travelling, all the arrangements and all plans..
Just (really) for an initial few 'dates'..
So.. already.. before you have even MET there has been this huuuuge amount of time and effort invested in to something that 'Locally' would maybe have only been a coffee.
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gozoman2: on a lighter tone.....
yeps...right now I'm hurting real bad.......too many damn bills in the post....too little cash coming in......
Here you go ,get a few seeds find a good spot add the seeds and some cow sh-t wait a couple two or three months ,harvest ,sell and enjoy X-mas..... How is that? yeps...right now I'm hurting real bad.......too many damn bills in the post....too little cash coming in......
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Claayer: Yep.. the other thing I always think too (and have mentioned here before).. Is that dating locally.. means you can go on a few dates and see what you think of eachother.
LDR means.. Military precision planning to get it all organised, how long to stay? taking time off work.. all the travelling, all the arrangements and all plans..
Just (really) for an initial few 'dates'..
So.. already.. before you have even MET there has been this huuuuge amount of time and effort invested in to something that 'Locally' would maybe have only been a coffee.
LDR means.. Military precision planning to get it all organised, how long to stay? taking time off work.. all the travelling, all the arrangements and all plans..
Just (really) for an initial few 'dates'..
So.. already.. before you have even MET there has been this huuuuge amount of time and effort invested in to something that 'Locally' would maybe have only been a coffee.
Exactly. And at the moment, I'm willing and able to invest the time and energy into a coffee, and maybe a walk in the woods, building slowly towards a dinner and/or movie. A slow and gentle journey.------ This thread is Archived ------
Polarbutterfly: "Oh I've realized how badly it can hurt.
And,can you tell me how we as people
can avoid getting hurt?If you have the
answer,please share it so as not to
get hurt again...".
And,can you tell me how we as people
can avoid getting hurt?If you have the
answer,please share it so as not to
get hurt again...".
As badly as it can hurt... is also how good it can be! The only way to guarantee not to get hurt is to cut yourself off from the possibility... not an option for me, I would feel I had only half lived my life if I didn´t take chances!
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sassy49senior: John this is an awesome thread my friend. I was hurt by someone
not too long ago and I disappeared for awhile. Started focusing
more on where my life is going and I thought, how childish a
reaction that was. As you stated we all go through some type
of hurt in our lives and I just needed to get off my sob pony
and back on my trusting horse so to speak. I look at things
in a more positive way and I do have expectations and will
continue to flower and message at times. I do not consider
myself desperate but I do know I enjoy having that male
companionship. My journey will just be that much more exciting
when we can continue it side by side, hand in hand through
the good and not so good times.
not too long ago and I disappeared for awhile. Started focusing
more on where my life is going and I thought, how childish a
reaction that was. As you stated we all go through some type
of hurt in our lives and I just needed to get off my sob pony
and back on my trusting horse so to speak. I look at things
in a more positive way and I do have expectations and will
continue to flower and message at times. I do not consider
myself desperate but I do know I enjoy having that male
companionship. My journey will just be that much more exciting
when we can continue it side by side, hand in hand through
the good and not so good times.
Welcome back, Sassy lady!
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jessejess47: Well it is all good vonny, if you don't ever open your heart ,then no one can get in, and if you do and they let you down it is on them not me, I always open up for whoever wants me to and for some that don't. As I said it is on them not me, I am the same always.
But its not on them is it? It is you that is hurt and you that allowed yourself to be put in the position to be hurt.It may be their actions that cause it but you have to live with it.
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druidess6308: Exactly. And at the moment, I'm willing and able to invest the time and energy into a coffee, and maybe a walk in the woods, building slowly towards a dinner and/or movie. A slow and gentle journey.
Yep... and in an LDR .. you are kind of (both) thrown in 20 jumps ahead of where you SHOULD be.
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vonney: But its not on them is it? It is you that is hurt and you that allowed yourself to be put in the position to be hurt.It may be their actions that cause it but you have to live with it.
true ,but still life is a chance ,everytime I drive I may get killed ,so do I stop driving ,of coures not, same thing, sure it hurts a bit but thats GODS way of telling you you are alive and well ,same as pain ,GODS way of saying you are alive ,so it is all good see.------ This thread is Archived ------
jessejess47: true ,but still life is a chance ,everytime I drive I may get killed ,so do I stop driving ,of coures not, same thing, sure it hurts a bit but thats GODS way of telling you you are alive and well ,same as pain ,GODS way of saying you are alive ,so it is all good see.
I dont think it is the sme thing hun, I drive my car to get to plces I need it be. I dont need to be in love.
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jbibiza: As badly as it can hurt... is also how good it can be! The only way to guarantee not to get hurt is to cut yourself off from the possibility... not an option for me, I would feel I had only half lived my life if I didn´t take chances!
"Taking a chance on love is worth all the hurt
and pain.Life gives you curve balls,it's up
to us to figure out if we can withstand
these curve balls.Yet,it still hurts.
But,being a survivor is who I am.
So,the search goes on.
All the best to you;nice post."
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Claayer: Yep... and in an LDR .. you are kind of (both) thrown in 20 jumps ahead of where you SHOULD be.
Yes. And I've discovered enough interesting men in my local area elsewhere that I'm in no need to cast my net further right now, either.
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jbibiza: As badly as it can hurt... is also how good it can be! The only way to guarantee not to get hurt is to cut yourself off from the possibility... not an option for me, I would feel I had only half lived my life if I didn´t take chances!
Agreed, JB...and nice to see you in here, too. Missed seeing your face around lately! ------ This thread is Archived ------
vonney: I dont think it is the sme thing hun, I drive my car to get to plces I need it be. I dont need to be in love.
Well it is not a need for me ,but it is a want. And I love most people really, but I am not "in" love with them ------ This thread is Archived ------
druidess6308: Yes. And I've discovered enough interesting men in my local area elsewhere that I'm in no need to cast my net further right now, either.
Oo laa laaa
Unfortunately I am not so lucky.. there are NO eligible men in my 'locality'
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Well, there's always Malta, I suppose....
Claayer: Oo laa laaa
Unfortunately I am not so lucky.. there are NO eligible men in my 'locality'
Unfortunately I am not so lucky.. there are NO eligible men in my 'locality'
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yeps...right now I'm hurting real bad.......too many damn bills in the post....too little cash coming in......