You get hurt, so what! ( Archived) (202)

We can never lose our hope! This is the key to the puzzle. There are alway someone and others who are so much worst off than we are. Even when we have it tough, we need to ensure we know where we are going; that we have the compass pointing us in that general direction (it doesn't have to be a straight line!); and, we enjoy the road back up!

Whether we are seeking a local or LDR is one element of the pie. We must figure out what is important and what we work or not work for each of us.

I am going to differ with you on your "...no expectation...." that is counter to my belief. Even when we have been down, hurt and suffering we must maintain expectations. Without them the old adage applies: If you don't know where you are going; any road will get you there. I want a plan and expectations of getting there.

This is an excellent point! It is so easy to blame the other person for a relationship failure. Maybe it was his/her fault. However, how many times have we read on these Threads where the person states: I want friendship first; I want to be careful; I want to go slow; I hate that SOB; or some other thought. Is your past controlling your future? Do you want that failed relationship to steer your way down the new road you are travelling. I am not saying to be a fool. Have you seriously thought of how you want to live and not how your past has scared you into the path you are travelling.

I don't know if any of us can tell when it crosses the line between a healthy "I like me" trait and a true issue of narcissism. We can all see it in someone else, but can we truly ever see our own problems?

The ride is fun, even though you fall off, you get up take a deep breath, brush yourself off. Maybe take a break, and roll up your sleeves and say okay, let's try this again. No John you are not crazy. I do not mind kissing frogs, to get to where I am going.

Funny isn't it how people can view things so differently sometimes. I have always found that my "failures" led to some of my biggest successes really so have not ever truly seen them as "failures"...

The only time I really think a person fails is when they do not learn from something they do, or have been through etc. I mean if you learn something from an event then it is a positive thing and goes to helping you with future events of similar kinds, in my opinion anyway.

Even in the area of Love I think there is always room for learning and expanding of not only how to give Love but how to receive it and share in it with others. maybe I am just some nutcase who has a twisted view of things, but for me I never hide my feelings for others when it comes to the good ones, I in fact go out of my way sometimes to make sure they know how I feel.

Nice posting Big_J!

Dude your views and opinions are fantastic. Learning from our failures; viewing a failure as a positive; the ability to give and to receive; and, wow for a man to express showing your feeling are refreshing from the normal BS we read on the forums threads. Thanks for a great post.

Oo hellooooooo Dru! (sorry for the delay.. I had to 'pretend I was working' then)

I agree with what you say too about LDR.. gaaah! .. sooo much hard work!.. I'm not ruling them out completely .. but they shuuure are bottom of my list.

You have lots of wisdom and a nice 'way with words' .. I've only known you 5 minutes.. I like you already!

You're to kind, thank you very much. An honor to share with folks like yourself, and others here. I know what you mean about some of the BS though, I just try my best to skim past it or to offer quiet thoughts for some in the midst of the mayhem... LOL Thanks again for such kind words, I appreciate them a lot, you know already your one of a couple guys here I have a great deal of respect for so I won't go into all that again... hehe oh gee looks like I just did anyway...