He says all the right things at the right time. It’s hard to think someone is a scum when they are telling you that you are pretty, and smart, and that they really, really like you. A smooth talker can make you believe that even your closest friends are wrong.
He does small things that make you think he cares. However, if you start to notice, these small gestures don’t really cost him very much.
He is good looking. You feel really good about being in the arm of a man who turns heads. Who does not want to have the hottest boyfriend around? But there is more to a relationship than looks.
You do not want to be the only single one in your group of friends. If everyone else is married or seeing someone, you don’t want to feel left out or be the third wheel.
Your friend set you up on a blind date, and now you feel like you owe it to them to keep dating him.
You are thirty (or some other magic age) and feel like it is time to settle down. Do not let age define you, and do not settle for someone just because you feel like you should be married.
You do not think anyone else is interested. Again, this is a very bad excuse for staying with someone. Do not let yourself fall for someone just because you do not think there is someone better out there.
Being with someone who is not quite right is better than being alone. Do not let yourself think this -- you deserve to be with someone who makes you completely happy.
He is not right, but I can change him! Oh, sweetie no, you really cannot change him even if you tried. If he is wrong for you, he is wrong for you. Move on before you find yourself so far into him that getting out simply becomes very difficult.
You listed many reasons why I am NOT in love....or with someone at present. If it's not right, it's not right. Simple concept, isn't it? I'd rather be alone than to have a relationship that isn't based on reality, love, honesty (and being with someone because "it's better than being alone" is a very dishonest approach) and a complete acceptance of the man, as I would want from him. No trying to change him, no deception, no sacrificing my own self-worth...not for me. Unless the end result will be a complete picture, I don't want to waste my time on the jigsaw puzzle.
whaaat: He says all the right things at the right time. It’s hard to think someone is a scum when they are telling you that you are pretty, and smart, and that they really, really like you. A smooth talker can make you believe that even your closest friends are wrong.
He does small things that make you think he cares. However, if you start to notice, these small gestures don’t really cost him very much.
He is good looking. You feel really good about being in the arm of a man who turns heads. Who does not want to have the hottest boyfriend around? But there is more to a relationship than looks.
You do not want to be the only single one in your group of friends. If everyone else is married or seeing someone, you don’t want to feel left out or be the third wheel.
Your friend set you up on a blind date, and now you feel like you owe it to them to keep dating him.
You are thirty (or some other magic age) and feel like it is time to settle down. Do not let age define you, and do not settle for someone just because you feel like you should be married.
You do not think anyone else is interested. Again, this is a very bad excuse for staying with someone. Do not let yourself fall for someone just because you do not think there is someone better out there.
Being with someone who is not quite right is better than being alone. Do not let yourself think this -- you deserve to be with someone who makes you completely happy.
He is not right, but I can change him! Oh, sweetie no, you really cannot change him even if you tried. If he is wrong for you, he is wrong for you. Move on before you find yourself so far into him that getting out simply becomes very difficult.
Sounds like a poster with experience. Been there too.
jlb684: You listed many reasons why I am NOT in love....or with someone at present. If it's not right, it's not right. Simple concept, isn't it? I'd rather be alone than to have a relationship that isn't based on reality, love, honesty (and being with someone because "it's better than being alone" is a very dishonest approach) and a complete acceptance of the man, as I would want from him. No trying to change him, no deception, no sacrificing my own self-worth...not for me. Unless the end result will be a complete picture, I don't want to waste my time on the jigsaw puzzle.
i once stayed with a person cause everyone thought he had everythig a woman can ask for, (looks, good heart, nice job etc) but to tell u the truth my heart was not totally with that person. we broke. when i look back i don't regret breaking up.
BOBANBOBANPozarevac City, Central Serbia Serbia3,464 posts
whaaat: He says all the right things at the right time. It’s hard to think someone is a scum when they are telling you that you are pretty, and smart, and that they really, really like you. A smooth talker can make you believe that even your closest friends are wrong.
He does small things that make you think he cares. However, if you start to notice, these small gestures don’t really cost him very much.
He is good looking. You feel really good about being in the arm of a man who turns heads. Who does not want to have the hottest boyfriend around? But there is more to a relationship than looks.
You do not want to be the only single one in your group of friends. If everyone else is married or seeing someone, you don’t want to feel left out or be the third wheel.
Your friend set you up on a blind date, and now you feel like you owe it to them to keep dating him.
You are thirty (or some other magic age) and feel like it is time to settle down. Do not let age define you, and do not settle for someone just because you feel like you should be married.
You do not think anyone else is interested. Again, this is a very bad excuse for staying with someone. Do not let yourself fall for someone just because you do not think there is someone better out there.
Being with someone who is not quite right is better than being alone. Do not let yourself think this -- you deserve to be with someone who makes you completely happy.
He is not right, but I can change him! Oh, sweetie no, you really cannot change him even if you tried. If he is wrong for you, he is wrong for you. Move on before you find yourself so far into him that getting out simply becomes very difficult.
BOBANBOBANPozarevac City, Central Serbia Serbia3,464 posts
whaaat: He says all the right things at the right time. It’s hard to think someone is a scum when they are telling you that you are pretty, and smart, and that they really, really like you. A smooth talker can make you believe that even your closest friends are wrong.
He does small things that make you think he cares. However, if you start to notice, these small gestures don’t really cost him very much.
He is good looking. You feel really good about being in the arm of a man who turns heads. Who does not want to have the hottest boyfriend around? But there is more to a relationship than looks.
You do not want to be the only single one in your group of friends. If everyone else is married or seeing someone, you don’t want to feel left out or be the third wheel.
Your friend set you up on a blind date, and now you feel like you owe it to them to keep dating him.
You are thirty (or some other magic age) and feel like it is time to settle down. Do not let age define you, and do not settle for someone just because you feel like you should be married.
You do not think anyone else is interested. Again, this is a very bad excuse for staying with someone. Do not let yourself fall for someone just because you do not think there is someone better out there.
Being with someone who is not quite right is better than being alone. Do not let yourself think this -- you deserve to be with someone who makes you completely happy.
He is not right, but I can change him! Oh, sweetie no, you really cannot change him even if you tried. If he is wrong for you, he is wrong for you. Move on before you find yourself so far into him that getting out simply becomes very difficult.
whaaat: He says all the right things at the right time. It’s hard to think someone is a scum when they are telling you that you are pretty, and smart, and that they really, really like you. A smooth talker can make you believe that even your closest friends are wrong.
He does small things that make you think he cares. However, if you start to notice, these small gestures don’t really cost him very much.
He is good looking. You feel really good about being in the arm of a man who turns heads. Who does not want to have the hottest boyfriend around? But there is more to a relationship than looks.
You do not want to be the only single one in your group of friends. If everyone else is married or seeing someone, you don’t want to feel left out or be the third wheel.
Your friend set you up on a blind date, and now you feel like you owe it to them to keep dating him.
You are thirty (or some other magic age) and feel like it is time to settle down. Do not let age define you, and do not settle for someone just because you feel like you should be married.
You do not think anyone else is interested. Again, this is a very bad excuse for staying with someone. Do not let yourself fall for someone just because you do not think there is someone better out there.
Being with someone who is not quite right is better than being alone. Do not let yourself think this -- you deserve to be with someone who makes you completely happy.
He is not right, but I can change him! Oh, sweetie no, you really cannot change him even if you tried. If he is wrong for you, he is wrong for you. Move on before you find yourself so far into him that getting out simply becomes very difficult.
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He does small things that make you think he cares. However, if you start to notice, these small gestures don’t really cost him very much.
He is good looking. You feel really good about being in the arm of a man who turns heads. Who does not want to have the hottest boyfriend around? But there is more to a relationship than looks.
You do not want to be the only single one in your group of friends. If everyone else is married or seeing someone, you don’t want to feel left out or be the third wheel.
Your friend set you up on a blind date, and now you feel like you owe it to them to keep dating him.
You are thirty (or some other magic age) and feel like it is time to settle down. Do not let age define you, and do not settle for someone just because you feel like you should be married.
You do not think anyone else is interested. Again, this is a very bad excuse for staying with someone. Do not let yourself fall for someone just because you do not think there is someone better out there.
Being with someone who is not quite right is better than being alone. Do not let yourself think this -- you deserve to be with someone who makes you completely happy.
He is not right, but I can change him! Oh, sweetie no, you really cannot change him even if you tried. If he is wrong for you, he is wrong for you. Move on before you find yourself so far into him that getting out simply becomes very difficult.