THE HOUSE HUBBY (41)
tainogirl: Ladies what would happen if you met a guy who told you he would be quite content to stay at home while you went out to work. He'd pick up the kids after school, stay home with the baby, cook the food, do the laundry, clean the house etc... You could go out and make the bacon and he would fry it up. How would you feel about supporting the family while he kept things together at home. Would he get more or less respect from you? Would you prefer he be out there in the working world with you bringing in an income or just appreciate the job he does at home.
I know in a lot of societies the man is expected to be the main breadwinner. How many men would be willing to do this? Do you think it is beneath your manhood to do all this(let the lady take care of the home and kids) and would prefer to be a contributing breadwinner if not the sole breadwinner? Looking forward to hearing from both men and women.
Way back in the ice age, when I was married, my ex-wife was in college and on her way to becoming a doctor. We had talked about me being the house husband. I was all for it. Oh well...I know in a lot of societies the man is expected to be the main breadwinner. How many men would be willing to do this? Do you think it is beneath your manhood to do all this(let the lady take care of the home and kids) and would prefer to be a contributing breadwinner if not the sole breadwinner? Looking forward to hearing from both men and women.
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I am on disability and cannot work now. I would be pleased to be a househusband. And I can contribute monetarily, maybe not alot but enough to help.
I would do all the house chores and take care of the kids.
I have always had a good work ethic and it pains me I cannot work. It does feel somewhat unmanly to be in this position, but that's where I am and have to make the best of it.
I would do all the house chores and take care of the kids.
I have always had a good work ethic and it pains me I cannot work. It does feel somewhat unmanly to be in this position, but that's where I am and have to make the best of it.
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jeepers: Way back in the ice age, when I was married, my ex-wife was in college and on her way to becoming a doctor. We had talked about me being the house husband. I was all for it. Oh well...
The ICE AGE? Well all that ice has done wonders for your skin, you look so young and well preserved after all that time.
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tainogirl: The ICE AGE? Well all that ice has done wonders for your skin, you look so young and well preserved after all that time.
What a lovely thing to say tainogirl. I think it's the Caribbean sun, you know that don't ya girl ? 
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Hi tain My ex husband had an accident so I went back to work to support us.
Have to say I loved it, I earnt more than him so we kept the arrangement
My ex husband had an accident so I went back to work to support us.Have to say I loved it, I earnt more than him so we kept the arrangement
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Me Tarzan you Maid 
have a banana
Me goes in hidin now
have a banana Me goes in hidin now
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tainogirl: Ladies what would happen if you met a guy who told you he would be quite content to stay at home while you went out to work. He'd pick up the kids after school, stay home with the baby, cook the food, do the laundry, clean the house etc... You could go out and make the bacon and he would fry it up. How would you feel about supporting the family while he kept things together at home. Would he get more or less respect from you? Would you prefer he be out there in the working world with you bringing in an income or just appreciate the job he does at home.
I know in a lot of societies the man is expected to be the main breadwinner. How many men would be willing to do this? Do you think it is beneath your manhood to do all this(let the lady take care of the home and kids) and would prefer to be a contributing breadwinner if not the sole breadwinner? Looking forward to hearing from both men and women.
I know in a lot of societies the man is expected to be the main breadwinner. How many men would be willing to do this? Do you think it is beneath your manhood to do all this(let the lady take care of the home and kids) and would prefer to be a contributing breadwinner if not the sole breadwinner? Looking forward to hearing from both men and women.
Taino, I'm not sure if this is just for men. The first word is "ladies" but then in the second paragraph it sounds like you are addressing the men. But since I'm here...
I don't think I would feel comfortable with him being the house husband. I wouldn't have a problem being the financial provider if he lost his job or if he was disabled and couldn't work. It would be a reversal of what I am used to. I'm an old dog and there aren't many tricks you can teach me at this age.
It's not about who brings home the paycheck. For me, it's about the role I was taught to play.
And.....he probably wouldn't do things at home the way I would like so it would create fights and tension between us.
If I was in charge of keeping the tools in the garage a certain way I'm pretty sure he wouldn't like the way I did it.
We have a certain way we like to do things and, I think, we should stay out of ther territory we were meant to be in.
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If you make a million I will cook and we take a maid.Ok?
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Snuggs09: Taino, I'm not sure if this is just for men. The first word is "ladies" but then in the second paragraph it sounds like you are addressing the men. But since I'm here...
I don't think I would feel comfortable with him being the house husband. I wouldn't have a problem being the financial provider if he lost his job or if he was disabled and couldn't work. It would be a reversal of what I am used to. I'm an old dog and there aren't many tricks you can teach me at this age.
It's not about who brings home the paycheck. For me, it's about the role I was taught to play.
And.....he probably wouldn't do things at home the way I would like so it would create fights and tension between us.
If I was in charge of keeping the tools in the garage a certain way I'm pretty sure he wouldn't like the way I did it.
We have a certain way we like to do things and, I think, we should stay out of ther territory we were meant to be in.
Hi Snuggs I don't think I would feel comfortable with him being the house husband. I wouldn't have a problem being the financial provider if he lost his job or if he was disabled and couldn't work. It would be a reversal of what I am used to. I'm an old dog and there aren't many tricks you can teach me at this age.
It's not about who brings home the paycheck. For me, it's about the role I was taught to play.
And.....he probably wouldn't do things at home the way I would like so it would create fights and tension between us.
If I was in charge of keeping the tools in the garage a certain way I'm pretty sure he wouldn't like the way I did it.
We have a certain way we like to do things and, I think, we should stay out of ther territory we were meant to be in.
We didn't look at it like that, i worked long hours and just was not there to do all the things that needed to be done, we saw it as partnership working and financially we all benefited from it. ------ This thread is Archived ------
morgan5: Hi Snuggs We didn't look at it like that, i worked long hours and just was not there to do all the things that needed to be done, we saw it as partnership working and financially we all benefited from it.
Hi Morgan....
I went back and read your post and I can see how your partnership worked for you guys. I'm guessing there are many people now finding new ways to get the job done since so many people have lost their job. Role reversal most likely isn't a concern when the mortgage needs to be paid, food, etc. Like Nike says....."just do it"
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Snuggs09: Hi Morgan....
I went back and read your post and I can see how your partnership worked for you guys. I'm guessing there are many people now finding new ways to get the job done since so many people have lost their job. Role reversal most likely isn't a concern when the mortgage needs to be paid, food, etc. Like Nike says....."just do it"
Plus i hate cooking I went back and read your post and I can see how your partnership worked for you guys. I'm guessing there are many people now finding new ways to get the job done since so many people have lost their job. Role reversal most likely isn't a concern when the mortgage needs to be paid, food, etc. Like Nike says....."just do it"
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tainogirl: Ladies what would happen if you met a guy who told you he would be quite content to stay at home while you went out to work. He'd pick up the kids after school, stay home with the baby, cook the food, do the laundry, clean the house etc... You could go out and make the bacon and he would fry it up. How would you feel about supporting the family while he kept things together at home. Would he get more or less respect from you? Would you prefer he be out there in the working world with you bringing in an income or just appreciate the job he does at home.
I know in a lot of societies the man is expected to be the main breadwinner. How many men would be willing to do this? Do you think it is beneath your manhood to do all this(let the lady take care of the home and kids) and would prefer to be a contributing breadwinner if not the sole breadwinner? Looking forward to hearing from both men and women.
I know in a lot of societies the man is expected to be the main breadwinner. How many men would be willing to do this? Do you think it is beneath your manhood to do all this(let the lady take care of the home and kids) and would prefer to be a contributing breadwinner if not the sole breadwinner? Looking forward to hearing from both men and women.
I don't mind working outside and he in control of the house, but as we all know men can only focus on one thing at a time. women can manage several things in one time. Our brains can cope with so many things at one time.
It would be nice, but i guess it will be a chaos, and the lady would end up helping out at home aswell.
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morgan5: Plus i hate cooking
Add me to that list Morgan
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I had a man like that once he was so good at it. He was playing football with his friends, and ended up having his hip replaced. So he was home. I gained so much weight with him... He was an awesome soul food cook. I discovered I had diabetes when I was with him.
He packed my lunch, and my kids lunches. My youngest with sickle cell was home schooled by a teacher sent by the county. He made sure the teacher was fed too.
I love to work, I would not care if I found another man like him. On payday, I had money direct deposited in his account so I did not have to put money in his hand. That was his money to do what he wanted with it. He did leave me though for a woman with a bigger house. And a bigger paycheck.
He packed my lunch, and my kids lunches. My youngest with sickle cell was home schooled by a teacher sent by the county. He made sure the teacher was fed too.
I love to work, I would not care if I found another man like him. On payday, I had money direct deposited in his account so I did not have to put money in his hand. That was his money to do what he wanted with it. He did leave me though for a woman with a bigger house. And a bigger paycheck.
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whaaat: I don't mind working outside and he in control of the house, but as we all know men can only focus on one thing at a time. women can manage several things in one time. Our brains can cope with so many things at one time.
It would be nice, but i guess it will be a chaos, and the lady would end up helping out at home aswell.
It would be nice, but i guess it will be a chaos, and the lady would end up helping out at home aswell.
Men have a empty box.......
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Hi-T, good post. I wouldn't have a problem with that at all if my partner had a more prospourous career. It would be for the finacial benefit and security of the family.Infact when my kids were toddlers my wife wanted to go back to work
as she couldn't handle being a full time mum / house wife, it wasn't because she had an amazing career. Being self employed and me working from home we were in a position where that could be achieved. It meant alot of multi-tasking, getting kids up, breakfasted, off to nursery no.1, pick up, lunch then off to nursery no.2 etc, etc. I managed to squeeze in a few hours work here and there but could only get some solid work done between 8pm and 3am and at weekends so quality family time was sacrificed and also between my wife and myself but it was what she wanted so I provided. Her salary only just covered the nursery fees so is wasn't for financial gain.
We were so busy and exhausted and had so little time together that we eventually drifted apart. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, wish I had been less accommodating and a bit more selfish .... but I'm learning
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hi cher excellent question as my opinion mostly the man who have disability problems they do that and we can understand the situation,but if the man is in good shape how he could say he will just stay at home?a kind of laziness but if he have another financial major like apartments or have pension that is fine but not to let us work alone and shoulder the financial responsibilities..
as my opinion mostly the man who have disability problems they do that and we can understand the situation,but if the man is in good shape how he could say he will just stay at home?a kind of laziness but if he have another financial major like apartments or have pension that is fine but not to let us work alone and shoulder the financial responsibilities..------ This thread is Archived ------
Snuggs09: Taino, did you ever read SV's profile. I laugh the way she describes men laying around on a couch, scratching their .....
There are many men like Ken who want to make a contribution not because it is expected of them, but because they are responsible men.
There are many men like Ken who want to make a contribution not because it is expected of them, but because they are responsible men.
Well for a longtime women were never given respect for the awesome job they did in the home. I think a lot of men did not understand that this too was a JOB. A job that did not end for some ladies until way into the night, getting kids off to bed, sorting our clothes for the next day. Many women tumbled into bed tired long after hubby went to bed. We know it is a job. So if a man can't work for whatever reason and wants to take on the task why not? He is still making a valuable contribution. Sure he may not do things the way we may do it - he might even find better ways to do it. Once our home is happy, bills paid and kids fed what more could you want? Times have changed and I have no problem supporting a man if he's lost his job(once he's not given up and is still trying to find a job), disabled(but is willing to help)once there is CONTRIBUTION on both sides.
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I know in a lot of societies the man is expected to be the main breadwinner. How many men would be willing to do this? Do you think it is beneath your manhood to do all this(let the lady take care of the home and kids) and would prefer to be a contributing breadwinner if not the sole breadwinner? Looking forward to hearing from both men and women.