Why does life have to be so unfair :o( ( Archived) (18)

sorry to hear about your mom being sick, i know im alittle late on this reply? but i want you to know i will be praying for her.

Prayers and hugs

This may be totally inappropriate, but I am going to regale you with a tale of love.

A young man with so many opportunities in front of him was a waster.
He had attained more qualifications in his 17 years, than most people do in a lifetime. He had frittered away his immense intelligence due to a lack of guidance.
His mother doted on him and in her eyes he could do no wrong. So he abused this love,and sought to cause upset and dischord in his family home. This was his only way of getting the attention he wanted. His father and him were so similar that they fought like cat and dog.

The young man felt like the world owed him a living, because he was there. No where in the grand plan had he made provision for the ensuing disaster.

The only person that would not have a bad word said against him passed away. She was 56 years young and she died of a brain haemorrhage.
This was a catastrophe! Who would do his laundry? Who would iron his clothes? Who would cook and clean up after him? Who would protect him when he screwed up?
His father and he had some very harsh words at her bedside, and to this day have not spoken since.
His family fragmented as this powerful influence in everyone's life had evaporated.

The doctors said, of course, nothing could have been done to prevent it.
But the young man was full of bitterness and anger at the world that had taken his protector away.
No one could console him. He would never allow anyone to come that close again, as it hurt too much when they left him. The selfish little brute!
As it happened there was a family friend who had no axe to grind, he had no agenda, not in the will and was not short on speaking his mind - to the point of being blunt.

He said to the young man, "Son, she died for a reason. She died so that you could become all you can be. Do not let her down. What did she love? She loved to travel and visit new places. She loved to read and to explore. She loved to write and tell people of the glory of the places she had seen. Dont be a disaster all your life, boy, dont let her down."

The young man still full of rancour and bitterness ignored these words, and went on his way for the next three months. Causing trouble and hurting himself and others with his unkind words, deeds and actions.
But then the young man met a group of people who were going travelling. To the Loire Valley to pick grapes for 2 months. He was bored and had nothing to do so he went with them. This was the beginning of the biggest adventure of his life.
For the next three years he experienced joy, and pain, he experienced love and hate. He experienced hunger and satiation.
By the time he had returned to the UK, he had also discovered the joy of writing and reading again. He wrote stories about his travels, he read poetry to strange women sitting on the Thames. He learned to love himself.
Now, its easy to guess who this is,but the reason for this long diatribe is that, although I dont beleive in God, and I have some strong views on religion that are not politically correct, I do beleive that from my mother dying,I could become who I am.
My greatest regret was that I never told my mother that I loved her.

Its no solace to you that your mum is not well.
The only thing I can say to you dont have any regrets about your mum. Make sure that you say to her all the things that you want to say.
Because she will always love you, just make sure that you tell her how you feel.

As I said if this was inappropriate, I apologise.
I really wish your mum well.
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hun your not being depressing your sharing how you feel....
the feelings your having are just your inner most fears. dont dwell on them too much, just try and stay strong, my heart is with you and your family...
and when you need to talk just talk thats what we are all here for....

sharing my prayers....
fee

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yeah ... what the smart pretty lady said as well

Katine76:

Sorry to hear about your sadness. Honey, I been there, lost my mother @ 46 yrs. old, my Dad @ 62 yrs. old and is hard to take at any age. I right now am waiting for my dear brother to pass on with cancer. No life isn't fair. But Honey please remember life goes on even thru our sorrow and terrible pain. Keep lookpng up and there will surely be brigther days. God Bless you and give you comfort during this time.

bad_joyce

Sorry to hear about your Mom Tracy. You are in my thoughts.

Tracy hun you know anytime you need to vent we are here afterall we are a family right


i am so very sorry about your mom and all that you and your family have been and continue to go through hun




crying can help so much it realises stress and your gut feeling if i were you and i am just sayin here maybe write her a letter telling her all she means to you truly telling her how you fell will help you














love strength and my prayers go out to you and your family