jealousy, a sign of love or something else? (21)
Yvonne66kiruna, Norrbotten Sweden8 Threads 2 Polls 65 PostsIs a total lack of jealousy a sign of being less in love or what is your idea about the whole thing.
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Yvonne66: Is a total lack of jealousy a sign of being less in love or what is your idea about the whole thing.
While a lack of ANY jealousy MAY be a sign of lack of love, it can also mean maturity & security in the current relationship. Now, if they're just not showing any emotion at all... start worrying.
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Yvonne66: Is a total lack of jealousy a sign of being less in love or what is your idea about the whole thing.
nope,jealousy is a kind of poisonous between of a couple,a sign of less trust to each other,for me its not a necessary but if just a joke is fine.
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Personally I would say a bit of jealousy would work for me. Anything less or more would leave me uncomfortable.
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Lack of jealousy could be a sign that someone is secure in their relationship OR could be a sign that someone doesn't care. It could go both ways. I guess it's all about how his/her emotions are and all.
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In response to: Is a total lack of jealousy a sign of being less in love or what is your idea about the whole thing.
i think we all can feel a twinge of it, not that it is good but is human nature, you can trust a person you love and know they will be true, but when someone else shows an interest you feel it, i know lot say i am not that way, but they are kidding themselves... or they never been in love
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imjustme38: Lack of jealousy could be a sign that someone is secure in their relationship OR could be a sign that someone doesn't care. It could go both ways. I guess it's all about how his/her emotions are and all.
Thats a very good point..
And very true.A small amount of jealousy is natural, when you care and love for someone deeply; its just a sign that your feelings run deep, and anyone that says that they have never felt jealous in their lives I find hard to believe.
Its HOW you handle it that matters. If it just makes you realise how much you care for someone and gives you that "warm feeling", and it is left at that, well great.
If you are constantly worrying about where your partner is, or who they are with or with whom they are talking, then its destructive. For both yourself and your relationship.
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Yvonne66: Is a total lack of jealousy a sign of being less in love or what is your idea about the whole thing.
No, a lack of jealousy is a sign of trust, imo.
I trusted my ex-husband 100% and I never felt jealous.
If I don't or feel I can't trust someone, I might feel jealous, but to me, that's a warning sign where my gut's telling me that there are several things going on: the person isn't behaving in a way that makes me feel I can trust them; I feel insecure in the relationship and that I might have a control problem (though that's often related to someone behaving inappropriately)... so basically it's the precurser to a break-up.
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When I was younger, I used to have a slight problem with jealousy.
But it was totally down to my own insecurity, not really anything to do with who I was seeing.
Now, I have actually surprised myself by how much I have changed in the past two years.
I really, am not at all jealous.
Now obviously if I were out with the object of my affection and someone made a blatant pass for them, it would sting a lil but irrational jealousy is childish, and only upsets the person who has a dose of the green eyed monster.
I would like who I am with to be protective of me, but not overly so and definitely not jealous.
But it was totally down to my own insecurity, not really anything to do with who I was seeing.
Now, I have actually surprised myself by how much I have changed in the past two years.
I really, am not at all jealous.
Now obviously if I were out with the object of my affection and someone made a blatant pass for them, it would sting a lil but irrational jealousy is childish, and only upsets the person who has a dose of the green eyed monster.
I would like who I am with to be protective of me, but not overly so and definitely not jealous.
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When I was younger, I used to have a slight problem with jealousy.
But it was totally down to my own insecurity, not really anything to do with who I was seeing.
Now, I have actually surprised myself by how much I have changed in the past two years.
I really, am not at all jealous.
Now obviously if I were out with the object of my affection and someone made a blatant pass for them, it would sting a lil but irrational jealousy is childish, and only upsets the person who has a dose of the green eyed monster.
I would like who I am with to be protective of me, but not overly so and definitely not jealous.
But it was totally down to my own insecurity, not really anything to do with who I was seeing.
Now, I have actually surprised myself by how much I have changed in the past two years.
I really, am not at all jealous.
Now obviously if I were out with the object of my affection and someone made a blatant pass for them, it would sting a lil but irrational jealousy is childish, and only upsets the person who has a dose of the green eyed monster.
I would like who I am with to be protective of me, but not overly so and definitely not jealous.
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I know that I get a little of it, but I try real hard to control it. I have known people who got carried away with it though. It is very demeaning for the other person. I have wanted to smack them up aside their head and tell them they were going to screw up their relationship with the jelousy, but it wouldnt do any good.
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Yvonne66: Is a total lack of jealousy a sign of being less in love or what is your idea about the whole thing.
Just one question(any body is welcome to anwser)
What is jelousy???
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USThumper: I know that I get a little of it, but I try real hard to control it. I have known people who got carried away with it though. It is very demeaning for the other person. I have wanted to smack them up aside their head and tell them they were going to screw up their relationship with the jelousy, but it wouldnt do any good.
How true, Thumps..
Thats what I meant about "constantly worrying" about your partner in my previous post.
However, I really dont think jealousy is ALWAYS a negative emotion, per se... I just think it is a natural emotion when you care deeply for someone. Its like love and hate being two sides of the same coin. Whenever strong emotions are involved, then deep feelings will arise.
As I said, its HOW you deal with any jealousy that matters. And just because it rears its ugly head from time to time, it DOES NOT mean you are insecure in yourself or in your partner. Its just called Being Human.
JMO
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My ex husband was jealous to the extent it became a control issue, got to the stage i was to frightened to even speak to another man when we went out.
Working almost became an impossibilty, because i worked nights and would get accused of all sorts, even tho my pay check proved i had been there.
Never, ever again would i get involved with a man that had jealously issues, ruined my life for years.
Working almost became an impossibilty, because i worked nights and would get accused of all sorts, even tho my pay check proved i had been there.
Never, ever again would i get involved with a man that had jealously issues, ruined my life for years.
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I have nothing to add that hasn't already been said...no jealousy = Trust/security in a relationship.
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Yvonne66: Is a total lack of jealousy a sign of being less in love or what is your idea about the whole thing.
Nope, it shows balance and maturity, in my view. Jealousy is NOT a sign of love, however one wants to colour it, its a sign of insecurity....... pure and simple!
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Some people can hid jealousy better than others.
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I had this emotion when I felt someone else could do what I could not. A little jealousy I believe is Healthy and in some instances a turn on. Self destuctive jealousy as in a character defect is never love.Peace
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There are lots of different kinds of people in this world. A lack of jealousy could mean a lot of different things. Are you trying to make someone jealous to check if he loves you?
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BOBANBOBAN: Just one question(any body is welcome to anwser)
What is jelousy???
What is jelousy???
Hope this isn't one of your trick questions!
Here goes: Jealousy is an emotion that typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear and anxiety of anticipated loss of something that the person values, such as relationship, friendship or love. It consist of numerous feelings, such as anger, sadness and disgust.
Jealousy is always born with love, it does not always die with it.
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