I love being a single parent... (49)
Fabulous post Suzy and I quite agree. My kids are on their separate routes now, on the cusp of adulthood, but we have always had fun and I have loved being a mum.
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I am the "Parent" to my 88 year old mother..
Now ask me if I love it..
Now ask me if I love it..
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Lovely post Suzy! I like the harmony and love that your post is saturated with. Awesome that you have a great relationship with your daughter.
I had my kids this week and they just left earlier today. We are like best friends and love each other like a tight family should. I can talk to my kids about anything. I even had a talk last night with my 13 year old son about girls...
My kids are the reason why I live and stay in Sweden. They mean everything to me. When I am with them, Sweden becomes that much more awesome.
I can see your point on the consulting part...sheesh, Swedish women=control freaks
I had my kids this week and they just left earlier today. We are like best friends and love each other like a tight family should. I can talk to my kids about anything. I even had a talk last night with my 13 year old son about girls...
My kids are the reason why I live and stay in Sweden. They mean everything to me. When I am with them, Sweden becomes that much more awesome.
I can see your point on the consulting part...sheesh, Swedish women=control freaks
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I felt that way after my first son. three children later and 18 years later I still love being a single parent. Some days are very difficult. I have learned to process my feelings. That really helps.
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StressFree: I even had a talk last night with my 13 year old son about girls...
My kids are the reason why I live and stay in Sweden. They mean everything to me. When I am with them, Sweden becomes that much more awesome.
My kids are the reason why I live and stay in Sweden. They mean everything to me. When I am with them, Sweden becomes that much more awesome.
!! It so great isn't it?? My daughter has her first 'boyfriend'..she was soooo shy to tell me
hahahaha she's growing up...firguring out her ideas, her style, how she wants to do things...man I just love watching it! I truly love children...well people in general but kids are so much fun. Maybe they really are the purpose of life, not just for the continuation of it but just to give us sheer enjoyment of living...I mean first there's the making of the baby - always fun then the cute baby to fuss over, I thoroughly loved my 4 year old - what an opinionated young person she was! And very old fashioned...now I love the student daughter..she knows everything and has a cute competition thing with me where she wants to be at least as good, but preferably better at everything I do its just all great and these are the things that give life a point.------ This thread is Archived ------
I love your post Suzy, my little one is becoming an independent young lady with quite the mind of her own. I was born in March and she in April and we share a great bond, she is my identical twin when I was her age and we both have a great sense of humour and like to tease. She's only three but we've already have a few squabbles everyday, over food, clothes and tv watching.
We are quite a pair and I wouldn't change it for the world. She is my special gift and most important we never forget to say I love you to each other at least twice a day. Parenthood can be challenging sometimes when you are alone, but it is the greatest job in the world.
We are quite a pair and I wouldn't change it for the world. She is my special gift and most important we never forget to say I love you to each other at least twice a day. Parenthood can be challenging sometimes when you are alone, but it is the greatest job in the world.------ This thread is Archived ------
Don't get me wrong. It is an honor to do this, I just need a break once in a while..
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.....Yep,as an Solo Father to a Daughter and A Son....that are now soon ready to 'Fly the nest'....What an amazing journey it as been....Sure,there have been some low points,but such is Life,but on the whole it as been a wonderful experience that I will always treasure....A toast To all the single parents in this world....My respect and admiration to you all..........
J.D
To all the single parents in this world....My respect and admiration to you all..........J.D
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SuzyJ: Really...my daughter and I have been living alone together for about 4 years now and we have a great life...we're like two crazy flat mates living together with a crazy stupid dog and a fat cat. I can do anything I want, I don't need to consult anyone, think about anyone except my daughter and since she's been brainwashed into being pretty much my exact double for the last 11 years we get along on most subects
I dont find that people are put off because I have a child, certainly not in my experience at least. Most people find it extremely positive being a single parent, it shows great strength of character, independence, resourcefulness and energy. Many people, men and women, greatly respect and admire all of these things. It also helps that my daughter is a brilliant human being
So dont fret about it - redefine what the term 'family' means to yourself and your children, enjoy the wonderful opportunity to make a real positive impact on the world by bringing a balanced, loving person into it, and look around you at all the people appreciate you and your kids and the job you're all doing.
I dont find that people are put off because I have a child, certainly not in my experience at least. Most people find it extremely positive being a single parent, it shows great strength of character, independence, resourcefulness and energy. Many people, men and women, greatly respect and admire all of these things. It also helps that my daughter is a brilliant human being
So dont fret about it - redefine what the term 'family' means to yourself and your children, enjoy the wonderful opportunity to make a real positive impact on the world by bringing a balanced, loving person into it, and look around you at all the people appreciate you and your kids and the job you're all doing.
Nice post.
My kids are the best things that happened to me.am so proud of them. And to those who don't know me,no one believe that they are my kids.many comments that we looked like sibblings.yes we share everything and me and my they sometimes feels like their bigsister.
Its so wonderful to see them grow up. But all i have to do is be very cautious with what i do or say else it will be very bad impact on them.its so good to be respected by your own kids.i love them.
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SuzyJ: Really...my daughter and I have been living alone together for about 4 years now and we have a great life...we're like two crazy flat mates living together with a crazy stupid dog and a fat cat. I can do anything I want, I don't need to consult anyone, think about anyone except my daughter and since she's been brainwashed into being pretty much my exact double for the last 11 years we get along on most subects
I dont find that people are put off because I have a child, certainly not in my experience at least. Most people find it extremely positive being a single parent, it shows great strength of character, independence, resourcefulness and energy. Many people, men and women, greatly respect and admire all of these things. It also helps that my daughter is a brilliant human being
So dont fret about it - redefine what the term 'family' means to yourself and your children, enjoy the wonderful opportunity to make a real positive impact on the world by bringing a balanced, loving person into it, and look around you at all the people appreciate you and your kids and the job you're all doing.
I dont find that people are put off because I have a child, certainly not in my experience at least. Most people find it extremely positive being a single parent, it shows great strength of character, independence, resourcefulness and energy. Many people, men and women, greatly respect and admire all of these things. It also helps that my daughter is a brilliant human being
So dont fret about it - redefine what the term 'family' means to yourself and your children, enjoy the wonderful opportunity to make a real positive impact on the world by bringing a balanced, loving person into it, and look around you at all the people appreciate you and your kids and the job you're all doing.
Nice post.
My kids are the best things that happened to me.am so proud of them. And to those who don't know me,no one believe that they are my kids.many comments that we looked like sibblings.yes we share everything and me and my they sometimes feels like their bigsister.
Its so wonderful to see them grow up. But all i have to do is be very cautious with what i do or say else it will be very bad impact on them.its so good to be respected by your own kids.i love them.
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HJFinAZ: Don't get me wrong. It is an honor to do this, I just need a break once in a while..
Aren't there charities that help with this kind of thing? Maybe there's a group of people in your area in similar positions and they give some kind of assistance to the carers so that someone else can take care of your mum for a couple of days or whatever so you can recharge your batteries and take a road trip...
If there isn't one then I would strongly suggest starting one. You get to help people like yourself, both you and your mum may make friends who understand your position/situation - these are always the best friends
and you can take a break once in a while.You know thats exactly what I mean with focusing on the positive - you can only focus on the things which you have power over. You have no power over your mother, she has to figure it out herself, but you do have the power to do something positive for yourself and others, so focus on that.
What's happening to your mother is something most of us have to face eventually and I guess thats the realisation that everything has changed around us and we can no longer keep up. I guess its demotivating, frustrating, you no longer feel useful or independent so I can understand you mother's lost interest in most things. She has to find it again, but rather than just telling or expecting her to do that why don't you set an example that may inspire her. And even if it has no effect on her, at least it will still have the positive effect you need on your life, which is to get a break once in a while.
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tainogirl: Parenthood can be challenging sometimes when you are alone, but it is the greatest job in the world.
Ah but parenting is ALWAYS a challenge, whether you are one or many. The only thing different about being a one parent family is that you get 100% of the credit for raising your kids
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steven6611: It has been both touching and wonderful to read all your comments. Sadly I dont have children . but I did enjoy all your comments
You know something? I never planned to have kids, ever, especially not at the age I was when I had my daughter - how can any 15 year old say they wanted a baby and planned to get pregnant?? I always said that if I ever had any kids I'd adopt because there were already enough kids in this world who needed love before any more were brought into it. Well I had a daughter Im crazy about, and who saved me in more ways than one - but somehow I still hold those same beliefs. I think now that if I did have more kids you'd find me running an orphanage in deepest darkest africa
with a 100 of them all running around me to take care of!Anyway - whats the point of this answer? Well even if you haven't had kids yet, or never do, don't worry cos there are plenty already out there who would welcome more love
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SuzyJ: Really...my daughter and I have been living alone together for about 4 years now and we have a great life...we're like two crazy flat mates living together with a crazy stupid dog and a fat cat. I can do anything I want, I don't need to consult anyone, think about anyone except my daughter and since she's been brainwashed into being pretty much my exact double for the last 11 years we get along on most subects
I dont find that people are put off because I have a child, certainly not in my experience at least. Most people find it extremely positive being a single parent, it shows great strength of character, independence, resourcefulness and energy. Many people, men and women, greatly respect and admire all of these things. It also helps that my daughter is a brilliant human being
So dont fret about it - redefine what the term 'family' means to yourself and your children, enjoy the wonderful opportunity to make a real positive impact on the world by bringing a balanced, loving person into it, and look around you at all the people appreciate you and your kids and the job you're all doing.
I dont find that people are put off because I have a child, certainly not in my experience at least. Most people find it extremely positive being a single parent, it shows great strength of character, independence, resourcefulness and energy. Many people, men and women, greatly respect and admire all of these things. It also helps that my daughter is a brilliant human being
So dont fret about it - redefine what the term 'family' means to yourself and your children, enjoy the wonderful opportunity to make a real positive impact on the world by bringing a balanced, loving person into it, and look around you at all the people appreciate you and your kids and the job you're all doing.
Wonderful post!
But you are a very, very cruel person - because it is YOUR fault that your cat is a fat cat!
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RobertC2: Wonderful post!
But you are a very, very cruel person - because it is YOUR fault that your cat is a fat cat!
But you are a very, very cruel person - because it is YOUR fault that your cat is a fat cat!
she's a reformed cat I swear! She was only 0.5 kg over and my vet said she had to go on a diet now she's at a great weight of 3kg...People - dont feed your cat cheese...
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SuzyJ: Really...my daughter and I have been living alone together for about 4 years now and we have a great life...we're like two crazy flat mates living together with a crazy stupid dog and a fat cat. I can do anything I want, I don't need to consult anyone, think about anyone except my daughter and since she's been brainwashed into being pretty much my exact double for the last 11 years we get along on most subects
I dont find that people are put off because I have a child, certainly not in my experience at least. Most people find it extremely positive being a single parent, it shows great strength of character, independence, resourcefulness and energy. Many people, men and women, greatly respect and admire all of these things. It also helps that my daughter is a brilliant human being
So dont fret about it - redefine what the term 'family' means to yourself and your children, enjoy the wonderful opportunity to make a real positive impact on the world by bringing a balanced, loving person into it, and look around you at all the people appreciate you and your kids and the job you're all doing.
I dont find that people are put off because I have a child, certainly not in my experience at least. Most people find it extremely positive being a single parent, it shows great strength of character, independence, resourcefulness and energy. Many people, men and women, greatly respect and admire all of these things. It also helps that my daughter is a brilliant human being
So dont fret about it - redefine what the term 'family' means to yourself and your children, enjoy the wonderful opportunity to make a real positive impact on the world by bringing a balanced, loving person into it, and look around you at all the people appreciate you and your kids and the job you're all doing.
Excellent post SuzyJ!! Two of my coworkers are single parents, I do greatly respect and admirer them, that's allot more than I can say for some of the men I know.
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Really...my daughter and I have been living alone together for about 4 years now and we have a great life...we're like two crazy flat mates living together with a crazy stupid dog and a fat cat. I can do anything I want, I don't need to consult anyone, think about anyone except my daughter and since she's been brainwashed into being pretty much my exact double for the last 11 years we get along on most subects
I dont find that people are put off because I have a child, certainly not in my experience at least. Most people find it extremely positive being a single parent, it shows great strength of character, independence, resourcefulness and energy. Many people, men and women, greatly respect and admire all of these things. It also helps that my daughter is a brilliant human being
So dont fret about it - redefine what the term 'family' means to yourself and your children, enjoy the wonderful opportunity to make a real positive impact on the world by bringing a balanced, loving person into it, and look around you at all the people appreciate you and your kids and the job you're all doing.[/quote
Nice thread, My Daughter is my best friend she calls me her big sister,i had her in my teens too,and she means the world to me
I dont find that people are put off because I have a child, certainly not in my experience at least. Most people find it extremely positive being a single parent, it shows great strength of character, independence, resourcefulness and energy. Many people, men and women, greatly respect and admire all of these things. It also helps that my daughter is a brilliant human being
So dont fret about it - redefine what the term 'family' means to yourself and your children, enjoy the wonderful opportunity to make a real positive impact on the world by bringing a balanced, loving person into it, and look around you at all the people appreciate you and your kids and the job you're all doing.[/quote
Nice thread, My Daughter is my best friend she calls me her big sister,i had her in my teens too,and she means the world to me
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I loved your post,my little girl is now 17,one more yr and off to university,we're bestfriends and have been for years,we grew up together,and she's taught me so much,to me she was a blessing and always will be.
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I dont find that people are put off because I have a child, certainly not in my experience at least. Most people find it extremely positive being a single parent, it shows great strength of character, independence, resourcefulness and energy. Many people, men and women, greatly respect and admire all of these things. It also helps that my daughter is a brilliant human being
So dont fret about it - redefine what the term 'family' means to yourself and your children, enjoy the wonderful opportunity to make a real positive impact on the world by bringing a balanced, loving person into it, and look around you at all the people appreciate you and your kids and the job you're all doing.