So I've noticed something about this site... (124)
Apostophe: Howdy pebs.
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Sommerauer71: Hi Daisychick
What an interesting thread. Oh the reasons why people are here. One topic where many people think they know why other people are here.
I cannot speak for me. But I can tell you why I came here. I came on the recommendation of a friend, when another forum closed down that was a relationships forum and at that time I was going through a rather spectacular break up. I joined here, in what was a fragile state. I posted once, then I never returned for six months to the forums, as I could not face it and was in all honesty seeking the safety of my old forum. I came back again around 18 months ago. To the forums and I never used it as a dating site, I used it as a way of filling time, my children had left home, and the long winters in Austria, made it a place to come and chat and get to know people. I was never here for dating, even though I had a profile completed and the dreaded 'What you are looking for# filled in. I would become frustrated at people over IM who I could not have a conversation with and set my IM to switched off. Then I began writing in the forums, firstly over in the EU then I had a browse in these ones and I liked them.
Being in a school myself, I find the adult interaction is good for me, especially as I do live alone, I am only here for the forums. I have not made so many friends, because I don't want a huge long list of online friends, I have the ones that know me personally and we meet who are also members here, and a couple that I chat to outside of here.
I did not use this site as a sole avenue for meeting a person. I did in the end, meet a person from here and we are in a happy, stable relationship.
I do not even begin to speculate why other people are here, but it will be interesting to see why people really are here.... I know from other threads that people have written why they are here, but I like it when people write about themselves. So it will be interesting.
What an interesting thread. Oh the reasons why people are here. One topic where many people think they know why other people are here.
I cannot speak for me. But I can tell you why I came here. I came on the recommendation of a friend, when another forum closed down that was a relationships forum and at that time I was going through a rather spectacular break up. I joined here, in what was a fragile state. I posted once, then I never returned for six months to the forums, as I could not face it and was in all honesty seeking the safety of my old forum. I came back again around 18 months ago. To the forums and I never used it as a dating site, I used it as a way of filling time, my children had left home, and the long winters in Austria, made it a place to come and chat and get to know people. I was never here for dating, even though I had a profile completed and the dreaded 'What you are looking for# filled in. I would become frustrated at people over IM who I could not have a conversation with and set my IM to switched off. Then I began writing in the forums, firstly over in the EU then I had a browse in these ones and I liked them.
Being in a school myself, I find the adult interaction is good for me, especially as I do live alone, I am only here for the forums. I have not made so many friends, because I don't want a huge long list of online friends, I have the ones that know me personally and we meet who are also members here, and a couple that I chat to outside of here.
I did not use this site as a sole avenue for meeting a person. I did in the end, meet a person from here and we are in a happy, stable relationship.
I do not even begin to speculate why other people are here, but it will be interesting to see why people really are here.... I know from other threads that people have written why they are here, but I like it when people write about themselves. So it will be interesting.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I have noticed that you have found your match and you both are very happy. I find it inspiring!
I started this site with the same frame of mind (it was strictly for friendship.) I feel like the "adult interaction" is very healthy for me (I've somewhat avoided it since my 'husband' passed). I don't seem to have a lot of it going to school with the younger generation. Up until recently I have only even started thinking of it as a "dating site" again.
I guess in the end my only point of my "rant" is to understand others and the way they think. I want to be here now to meet someone that wants the same things I do. I definitely don't want to rush anything at all. I am in a point in my life to where it is okay to be picky. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else out there was experiencing what I was. I have these moments (or days
) that I try to understand probably more than I should. Plus, I wonder if maybe I am too focused on a career now than just finding that one person to connect with. I hope that is not the case because I don't believe one can be truly happy in a relationship if they don't take the steps in life to be happy with their own individual life.In any case, I am very happy that you have found someone special here!! I think it's lovely and I hope to have the same outcome!!
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DaisyChick: As you too sweetie
Heart of Gold!!
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maybe its because all the girls i talk to in private wanna marry me?
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this is a good one....
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rodolpho: maybe its because all the girls i talk to in private wanna marry me?
you got the scammers again
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dirko63: you got the scammers again
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dirko63: you got the scammers again
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rodolpho: thats an insult im cute and adorable
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rodolpho: thats an insult im cute and adorable
Yes Baby.. Very cute Alien.....
Take the pic
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pebblesbamban: Yes Baby.. Very cute Alien.....
Take the pic
yes IM Extra TesticalTake the pic
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DaisyChick:
I guess in the end my only point of my "rant" is to understand others and the way they think. I want to be here now to meet someone that wants the same things I do. I definitely don't want to rush anything at all. I am in a point in my life to where it is okay to be picky. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else out there was experiencing what I was. I have these moments (or days ) that I try to understand probably more than I should.
I guess in the end my only point of my "rant" is to understand others and the way they think. I want to be here now to meet someone that wants the same things I do. I definitely don't want to rush anything at all. I am in a point in my life to where it is okay to be picky. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else out there was experiencing what I was. I have these moments (or days ) that I try to understand probably more than I should.
OMG. I am RIGHT there with you sista! If you're anything like me, there will be lots of frustration. But for some reason I can't give up. I don't think we are meant to go through life alone.
Stay strong, and try your best to think positive. (let me know if you come up with any pointers too, as I am certainly no expert) I don't think I ask for a lot, but apparently it must be.
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DaisyChick: Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I have noticed that you have found your match and you both are very happy. I find it inspiring!
I started this site with the same frame of mind (it was strictly for friendship.) I feel like the "adult interaction" is very healthy for me (I've somewhat avoided it since my 'husband' passed). I don't seem to have a lot of it going to school with the younger generation. Up until recently I have only even started thinking of it as a "dating site" again.
I guess in the end my only point of my "rant" is to understand others and the way they think. I want to be here now to meet someone that wants the same things I do. I definitely don't want to rush anything at all. I am in a point in my life to where it is okay to be picky. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else out there was experiencing what I was. I have these moments (or days ) that I try to understand probably more than I should. Plus, I wonder if maybe I am too focused on a career now than just finding that one person to connect with. I hope that is not the case because I don't believe one can be truly happy in a relationship if they don't take the steps in life to be happy with their own individual life.
In any case, I am very happy that you have found someone special here!! I think it's lovely and I hope to have the same outcome!!
Thank you Daisy. I started this site with the same frame of mind (it was strictly for friendship.) I feel like the "adult interaction" is very healthy for me (I've somewhat avoided it since my 'husband' passed). I don't seem to have a lot of it going to school with the younger generation. Up until recently I have only even started thinking of it as a "dating site" again.
I guess in the end my only point of my "rant" is to understand others and the way they think. I want to be here now to meet someone that wants the same things I do. I definitely don't want to rush anything at all. I am in a point in my life to where it is okay to be picky. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else out there was experiencing what I was. I have these moments (or days ) that I try to understand probably more than I should. Plus, I wonder if maybe I am too focused on a career now than just finding that one person to connect with. I hope that is not the case because I don't believe one can be truly happy in a relationship if they don't take the steps in life to be happy with their own individual life.
In any case, I am very happy that you have found someone special here!! I think it's lovely and I hope to have the same outcome!!
I had to smile at the highlighted statement. Because I often wonder about people too, just you know, when you wake up in the middle of the night and you think, 'I wonder what is happening in their mind' Or when I am in a traffic jam. In the bath, anywhere. People for thousands of years have tried to work it out and I am sure we will still be trying for many thousands of years.
I think it is absolutely fine to be picky, I think online dating affords us that, we can write down what we want, and that seems to brainwash into thinking that is what we want. I know my 'what are you looking' read like a shopping list. 'Must be a golfer' Must not bite his nails, must be tall, groomed and have some self control, but in all honesty, Daisy, it can never be like that can it? What we write in words and who blows our skirt up, are often two different things. I ended with up a football loving, tall man, who has never played golf, yet would be excellent at if he played.
So many people state they are too busy with careers for a relationship, and some are, this is no reflection on any person that is, but I do sometimes think, when a person makes us stop and sit up, and we think 'I like this' we will always find room. I equate that to when I was pregnant with my second child, at a young tener age, I often used to think, how will I love this child as much as the first one, how will I fit him/her into my life, I managed it, I found the room. So I do think I do.
I found it hard to connect with any man here on a romantic basis, not because of any particular reason, I think it was more where I was at.
Good thread....
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gtthomas: I will say this once...I have never been married and do not have kids ....
Being "loveless" happens in all shapes and forms dear sweet Thomas. We just have to decide what we want and go after it. I've been married and now widowed (as you know) and none of it is pleasurable at all (except for my lovely boy). DON'T give up, even if we shall have days we want to. Eventually we will connect with someone and some of the best days of our lives will be in store.
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Sweet_And_Sassy: So true! Because if we go around assuming all available men here are losers, then they can think that about all available women are too. I happen to know I am not a loser. I have lots to offer, and am looking for a worthy man to give myself to, and he to me. Not looking to drag or be dragged down any isle. Just looking to love and be loved. It's pretty basic really.
Before anyone attaches the "she's desperate" label to me because I dare to say I am looking for love, you should know that my search has been going on for over ten years so far, and could be another ten years. Which is fine with me. As long as in the end I find the man I am meant to be with.
Not here just to kill time. Not here to play or be played. Not here to see how many dates I can get. Not here to hook up either. Here in hopes of meeting someone special, some day. Whenever that may be. In the mean time, I enjoy forums very much.
Before anyone attaches the "she's desperate" label to me because I dare to say I am looking for love, you should know that my search has been going on for over ten years so far, and could be another ten years. Which is fine with me. As long as in the end I find the man I am meant to be with.
Not here just to kill time. Not here to play or be played. Not here to see how many dates I can get. Not here to hook up either. Here in hopes of meeting someone special, some day. Whenever that may be. In the mean time, I enjoy forums very much.
Thank you for this post! I feel that is soooo true!! It bothers me when people get freaked out by the "single" title in which we are given. It's like we should bow our heads and say "Oh yes mighty one I am single because I have failed..." SO not true. Someone just hasn't been able to fully appreciate our worth. That's okay by me, I would rather weed out the ones that would later realize that an intelligent, sweet, loving, caring person wasn't exactly what they were looking for!
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DaisyChick: Thank you for this post! I feel that is soooo true!! It bothers me when people get freaked out by the "single" title in which we are given. It's like we should bow our heads and say "Oh yes mighty one I am single because I have failed..." SO not true. Someone just hasn't been able to fully appreciate our worth. That's okay by me, I would rather weed out the ones that would later realize that an intelligent, sweet, loving, caring person wasn't exactly what they were looking for!
we can worship to our new god
Order of the singles, mighty god of all singles grant our wish of attraction oh lord.
his reply is join CS
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rodolpho: yes IM Extra Testical
U need a x-ray...
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sorry but I don't think thats fair too say maybe we just hide well and the same goes both ways.