I agree op; I think what happens is that the computer age has made many people extremely poor at communication with people one on one.
Put them behind a computer screen and they are brad pitt and angelina jolie; put them in a public setting or one on one and they become pee wee herman and paris hilton with their social skills.
So many people have problems connecting with others that they chat a few times and they romanticize that they have this unreal connection because they want to be with someone so much, and they are almost trying to convince themselves.
I don't gamble as a rule, but when I was in Vegas I rolled the dice. I didn't win, but I believe that the winning numbers "could have shown up." It's okay to believe both, because both are possible.
jonmiles: I know that people use this term too often these days and view it with a wistful embarrassed disbelief but like so many things, one doesn't look closely enough until it affects you personally.
I have always 'believed' in Soul Mates somewhere in my dark recesses and even glibly used it in my wedding speech but recently believe I've actually found her. For those of a sensitive, inquisitive and occasionally damming disposition - we have been separated for the last three years now - so my Soul Mate wasn't my wife.........but that's another story. My understanding of Soul Mates is, that you have Known them before.
It's hard to even attempt to talk about this without being too metaphysical but the idea that there is Someone 'out there' who is so perfect for you, a mirror image, an opposite, a yang to your ying, the missing piece to your puzzle, etc - is so appealing that maybe just of itself we are willing and happy to embrace it.
Imagine how hard it must be to find a Soul Mate. You would have to, not only be living in the same country - but the same location, be of a similar age and both of you would need to remember what went before.
I met 'L' in the Spring '09. There was instant attraction of course but oddly she wasn't the 'type' of woman I would normally go for. I was 'incomplete' when she wasn't with me. I was bereft the moment I left her. Thought about her night and day and spent every moment devising another meeting. I already knew her. Is this just Love? Reading more into a situation? Delusion?
As it turned out, there was no happy beginning again - there was a twelve year age difference and she couldn't remember.
Another belief is that it is entirely unlikely that you could find your Soul Mate as they are your 'double' or Spirit Guide in Heaven (or wherever) as so can't possibly be here on Earth, with you, at the same time, with complete memory recall!
So here's the question - sorry it's taken so long by the way, but the bottle has only just finished!
Do you believe in Soul Mates? Have you found yours?
I believe in soul mates, and also believe that we can have more than one. Yes, they can be your opposite or your mirror. I have one who I feel in my soul very deeply, and love very much, but we are definitely opposites and it isn't going to develop into a romantic relationship in this lifetime. Sad, but true. My late husband was definitely a soul mate of mine, and this has been confirmed in various readings. I also believe my second husband is one, and that we had our time together for a purpose, but that it wasn't meant to last forever, just to produce our two children and establish early parenting together. Do I have another soul mate to meet up with and develop a lasting relationship with yet in this life? Time will tell.
Some of our soul mates can be really close friends and of the same gender, btw...we have many people in our soul group that we have different relationships with in the course of our lifetimes in order to help each other learn the lessons we've come here to learn.
Merriweather: Shared a lot... had a lot in common... talked comfortable and easily without the mush...I knew lots about his job... and could talk for ages about same intersts.
I thought... gosh... this is really easy ...shared same values... values were important... honesty and advocay for same things...
Then I got dumped..
Soul mates aren't always that easy. Twin souls can be an especially rough relationship, btw...sounds like it should be easier, but it's not since there are tests to go through for it to work out right, and sometimes it doesn't. The point of soul mates is to help us with certain lessons for soul growth, not to just click like that and go smoothly. Don't forget that we're not human beings on a spiritual journey, but rather we're spiritual beings on a human journey.
Soul mate has a specific meaning for me. It a person's who on the same spiritual wavelength than you are.
It can be your companion, or not. I actually found mine recently. A german woman. I consider her being more than a friend but she's not the girl I'm looking for.
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