Long Distance - Commitment? (52)
I think you should meet them before you have any commitment!
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lakelander: Something someone wrote on the "He/She is not that into you" thread prompted me to pose the question.
Suppose you meet someone online in another country. You spend months talking everyday and getting to know each other and decide you want to meet. After some time you discover that they are also on another site every day talking with others.
Would you consider it irrelevant as you've never actually met yet or would you expect some commitment since you've agreed to travel to another country to meet?
Are they as another poster commented simply not that into you or simply playing the numbers game?
Suppose you meet someone online in another country. You spend months talking everyday and getting to know each other and decide you want to meet. After some time you discover that they are also on another site every day talking with others.
Would you consider it irrelevant as you've never actually met yet or would you expect some commitment since you've agreed to travel to another country to meet?
Are they as another poster commented simply not that into you or simply playing the numbers game?
I would find it very difficult to make a commitment with someone I have never meet. I would be more focused on HONESTY! If they are communicating with others on this site or any other site are they being honest with you is more important!
To expect a commitment from someone you have never meet is unrealistic if you ask me. TJMHO!!
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HotrodLarrys: I think you should meet them before you have any commitment!
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HotrodLarrys: I think you should meet them before you have any commitment!
I agree.
Re. LDR's.............. the love of my life and I were in an LDR for a year; a year might not seem long but it was quality rather than quantity - I flew to her or she flew to me every three weeks - sometimes more often and a couple of times we were away from each other a whole month which was Hell for both of us.
I was a member of CS.
I continued posting on forums, but changed my profile to make perfectly clear my situation. I was 100% faithful to her, and vice versa until we split up.
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lakelander: Something someone wrote on the "He/She is not that into you" thread prompted me to pose the question.
Suppose you meet someone online in another country. You spend months talking everyday and getting to know each other and decide you want to meet. After some time you discover that they are also on another site every day talking with others.
Would you consider it irrelevant as you've never actually met yet or would you expect some commitment since you've agreed to travel to another country to meet?
Are they as another poster commented simply not that into you or simply playing the numbers game?
Suppose you meet someone online in another country. You spend months talking everyday and getting to know each other and decide you want to meet. After some time you discover that they are also on another site every day talking with others.
Would you consider it irrelevant as you've never actually met yet or would you expect some commitment since you've agreed to travel to another country to meet?
Are they as another poster commented simply not that into you or simply playing the numbers game?
This is a very good question only because traveling to another country to meet this "on-line" acquaintance sounds like a big deal.
And though it's in fact a big deal, I still think it's irrelevant. There is no relationship and/or commitment until 2 people have met, IMO.
It could be anything from playing the numbers game (like you put it) to simply socializing with people she got to know, to being a bit addicted to the web.
Good luck to you whatever you decide.
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lakelander: Something someone wrote on the "He/She is not that into you" thread prompted me to pose the question.
Suppose you meet someone online in another country. You spend months talking everyday and getting to know each other and decide you want to meet. After some time you discover that they are also on another site every day talking with others.
Would you consider it irrelevant as you've never actually met yet or would you expect some commitment since you've agreed to travel to another country to meet?
Are they as another poster commented simply not that into you or simply playing the numbers game?
Suppose you meet someone online in another country. You spend months talking everyday and getting to know each other and decide you want to meet. After some time you discover that they are also on another site every day talking with others.
Would you consider it irrelevant as you've never actually met yet or would you expect some commitment since you've agreed to travel to another country to meet?
Are they as another poster commented simply not that into you or simply playing the numbers game?
Two people can still feel and agree upon, some kind of commitment to each other, even before meeting.
Have you discussed commitment and what it means for you while still only online? It is not to be automatically assumed.
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Laura25: This is a very good question only because traveling to another country to meet this "on-line" acquaintance sounds like a big deal.
And though it's in fact a big deal, I still think it's irrelevant. There is no relationship and/or commitment until 2 people have met, IMO.
It could be anything from playing the numbers game (like you put it) to simply socializing with people she got to know, to being a bit addicted to the web.
Good luck to you whatever you decide.
And though it's in fact a big deal, I still think it's irrelevant. There is no relationship and/or commitment until 2 people have met, IMO.
It could be anything from playing the numbers game (like you put it) to simply socializing with people she got to know, to being a bit addicted to the web.
Good luck to you whatever you decide.
~sigh~
Laura - you mean you have to meet me before you have me committed?
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RobertC2: ~sigh~
Laura - you mean you have to meet me before you have me committed?
Laura - you mean you have to meet me before you have me committed?
It depends where you need to be committed, R. ~sigh~
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venere08: We're not talking proposals of marriage.
More along the lines of 'exclusivity'.
More along the lines of 'exclusivity'.
I'm talking about trying on the boots before buying them ..
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jvaski: I'm talking about trying on the boots before buying them ..
Then boot size becomes an issue!
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venere08: Then boot size becomes an issue!
Yup - sad, but true!
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venere08: Then boot size becomes an issue!
She was only the vicar's daughter - but her 'boot' fitted like a dream!
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venere08: Then boot size becomes an issue!
Yup.... sometimes those imported models can fit a little too loose for my liking ...
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jvaski: Yup.... sometimes those imported models can fit a little too loose for my liking ...
That's just so mean!
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jvaski: Yup.... sometimes those imported models can fit a little too loose for my liking ...
I agree, that's why it's important to go for quality.
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venere08: I agree, that's why it's important to go for quality.
Are you saying a firm fit is better than a tight fit in the long run?
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RobertC2: Are you saying a firm fit is better than a tight fit in the long run?
Let's just say, that I only buy shoes/boots, that seem tailor made for me...and fit like a glove.
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venere08: Let's just say, that I only buy shoes/boots, that seem tailor made for me...and fit like a glove.
And may I add that they are never the cheap imports.
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venere08: Let's just say, that I only buy shoes/boots, that seem tailor made for me...and fit like a glove.
Excuse me - let's leave the fingering out of this conversation and try to keep it clean!
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Suppose you meet someone online in another country. You spend months talking everyday and getting to know each other and decide you want to meet. After some time you discover that they are also on another site every day talking with others.
Would you consider it irrelevant as you've never actually met yet or would you expect some commitment since you've agreed to travel to another country to meet?
Are they as another poster commented simply not that into you or simply playing the numbers game?