Too fussy??? (44)
I think your idea of a ratings scale might be a good one if people told the truth. However, I would change the 10 from marriage to looking for forever...
I would gladly relocate if I could but my job necessitates that I stay here. He is welcome to move in with me.
I would gladly relocate if I could but my job necessitates that I stay here. He is welcome to move in with me.
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bettyboop63 soon you will be laughing at your illness. You are too positive and pretty to stay sick.
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AthenzGirl: Id be really interested to hear what other CSs would be prepared to sacrifice or compromise on if they find/found their love far away.
Ive a couple of friends who did this - a Belgian guy who moved to Texas to be with his now wife... and a Brit friend whose USA wife moved to London for him.
Ive a couple of friends who did this - a Belgian guy who moved to Texas to be with his now wife... and a Brit friend whose USA wife moved to London for him.
I would move anywhere in the world for the right person. Firstly, because i love travelling and other cultures. Secondly, i just prefer foreign girls, im sorry but the girls here in Oz just have no class :/
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stevepoppy: Hi there Athenzgirl Good post BTW
I would say (for me anyhow) that distance is the major stumbling block..... have seen and spoken to some lovely girls/women in my time here (about 2 months)....but hadn't thought of flexibility..until you mentioned it...
nice profile too Steve
I would say (for me anyhow) that distance is the major stumbling block..... have seen and spoken to some lovely girls/women in my time here (about 2 months)....but hadn't thought of flexibility..until you mentioned it...
nice profile too Steve
Thanks Steve!
Yeah... I always appreciate when guys have added to their profiles that they are happy to relocate, but Ive been a little shy to add it to my own. Not because I wouldnt re-locate (have done it 3x already!) but a little worried Id have offers from places Id NEVER want to move to ie not Europe or N America.
Quite a lot of men have also blocked any contacts which are not in their own country. Although that is maybe quite practical, it does seem to defeat the purpose a bit. Their perfect match maybe just across the border!
I think the bigger problem would be work/finances. Im quite lucky in that Ive lived and worked in 4 different countries, and could probably find or create a job anywhere. Its probably more common for the woman to move to the mans location, not so much because her work is less important, but because women ARE more more flexable and adaptable in nature.
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Chavsmustdie: I would move anywhere in the world for the right person. Firstly, because i love travelling and other cultures. Secondly, i just prefer foreign girls, im sorry but the girls here in Oz just have no class :/
Bravo mr Chavs! I like your style... but in my experience - there is NO perfect country. People often ask me 'which country do you prefer/like best?' I try to explain to them that because each country and culture is so different I dont compare but just try to find what I enjoy the most and leave the things Im not keen on out of the picture. Im really hoping I find a guy like you - just 15 or 20 years older!
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I always looking for my mate, just like everyone here.
But my problem is like most everyone else, I have worked 31 years at the same place and am too close to retirement to move now. Maybe in 5 years I would be willing to relocate.
But my problem is like most everyone else, I have worked 31 years at the same place and am too close to retirement to move now. Maybe in 5 years I would be willing to relocate. ------ This thread is Archived ------
longhairedwoman: I think your idea of a ratings scale might be a good one if people told the truth. However, I would change the 10 from marriage to looking for forever...
I would gladly relocate if I could but my job necessitates that I stay here. He is welcome to move in with me.
I would gladly relocate if I could but my job necessitates that I stay here. He is welcome to move in with me.
Hey LHW! That sounds good, but I have a few questions... If a man (mr 100% right) came to live with you, does that mean you are prepared to support him financially and pay for his med insurance etc? Youre ok about the long haul via Immigration while he waits for his green card etc?
All those things which we dont give a 2nd thought to when we are so young - are solid realities for older CSs.
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AthenzGirl: Hey LHW! That sounds good, but I have a few questions... If a man (mr 100% right) came to live with you, does that mean you are prepared to support him financially and pay for his med insurance etc? Youre ok about the long haul via Immigration while he waits for his green card etc?
All those things which we dont give a 2nd thought to when we are so young - are solid realities for older CSs.
I relocated and your right so many different things to take into acount, I went to a country where English was not the first language, getting work was impossible and that was inly one thing that made it hard.All those things which we dont give a 2nd thought to when we are so young - are solid realities for older CSs.
If it doesn't workout and you have given up everything, trying to go back and start again is a nightmare, unless you are financially secure.
Would I do the LDR thing again, not in a million years.
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I am and will be fussy even with my age for I want it to be right for both and hopefully will find the one for me and I know we all have faults and would be happy if most of criteria is met as I can only hope that pros outweigh the cons.
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rubendario: Have you tried asking those whom you contacted as to why the dialog did not continue?
Probably not! but Ive a feeling I close the book before they do.. or after the initial contact I find that their intentions are not as they had originally stated! Many men (in the country Im currently living) use the site just to find a 'pick up' - and it doesnt take more than one or two conversations to find this and be
But, that said - there are still several contacts who have remained friends (after meeting/dating)with me. Maybe I lived in north america too long to entirely adapt to the culture here. Who knows!
I guess we often try to find someone who is just like we are. The more unique we are as a person, the harder it will be to find our match.
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thats why i am not seriously to find someone far from me,scared to have this heartache and headache
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I don't think it's that we're too fussy, we have a right to be selective or as you say "fussy".
It's more that we expect too much and when you have expectations you leave yourself wide open for disappointments.
Then we say it didn't work out because we fantasized that it would go a certain way.
It's more that we expect too much and when you have expectations you leave yourself wide open for disappointments.
Then we say it didn't work out because we fantasized that it would go a certain way.
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odessaukraine48: i,m looking for nice women. age 30 to 50. must have boat. please sound picture of boat.
I read this about 6x before I finally realized it was supposed to say SEND!
Is a rowboat or canoe acceptable?
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I have met a lot of great people here . I usually end up finding someone that lives in Italy or Japan or somewhere way to far for me . I don't believe in lDR . But that is not going to stop me from searching . Love yourself first and love will find it's way . I know it sound hokie .
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AthenzGirl: Bravo mr Chavs! I like your style... but in my experience - there is NO perfect country. People often ask me 'which country do you prefer/like best?' I try to explain to them that because each country and culture is so different I dont compare but just try to find what I enjoy the most and leave the things Im not keen on out of the picture. Im really hoping I find a guy like you - just 15 or 20 years older!
How about really, really, really old (and senile) guys??
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How about young with selective hearing .
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i am not fussy but they are
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Maybe we just can't be together with somebody...
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HJFinAZ: How about really, really, really old (and senile) guys??
Pat, your no more senile than I am. Come to think of it, thats not saying much. ------ This thread is Archived ------
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I can only imagine that we are all a bit too fussy... although some people will excuse themselves and say 'I just have high standards'. Maybe there should be an item in the personal descriptions where we can include on a scale of 1 - 10 just how serious we are about dating or finding a partner... 1=casually browsing thru to 10=marriage on my mind.
It is def. true that as we mature we are not so flexible - maybe not prepared to move to a new place,leave family or give up a job etc. Id be really interested to hear what other CSs would be prepared to sacrifice or compromise on if they find/found their love far away.
Ive a couple of friends who did this - a Belgian guy who moved to Texas to be with his now wife... and a Brit friend whose USA wife moved to London for him.
Have you tried asking those whom you contacted as to why the dialog did not continue?