Opening your heart (51)
stefonline: I dont know and that is the God's honest truth....
The only real love is the love I have as a Mother for my three children and the only other real love I ever experienced was the love between my Father and I....
There are several levels and types of love but unconditional love is the best of them all....
Agape...Eros The only real love is the love I have as a Mother for my three children and the only other real love I ever experienced was the love between my Father and I....
There are several levels and types of love but unconditional love is the best of them all....
...philia...storge....xeniaI kinda like Eros the best
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nanners2863: Ya..I kicked my heart to the curb..got tired of it running all willynilly all over Canada just givin itself away to any guy with a great smile and a good line! I replaced it with skepticism!!
sounds like a wise substitution.
Then of course they complain that we're overly suspicious..................well, not without good cause we aren't!
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nanners2863: Ya..I kicked my heart to the curb..got tired of it running all willynilly all over Canada just givin itself away to any guy with a great smile and a good line! I replaced it with skepticism!!
You just can't go after any old Canadian guy's willy with a smile! But don't go to skepticism in its place.
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Big_John: You just can't go after any old Canadian guy's willy with a smile! But don't go to skepticism in its place.
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nanners2863: nah..I like to play the skeptic but I'm a pisces..we live for love!!!
You sure you weren't born in the 60's as a flower child?
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Big_John: You sure you weren't born in the 60's as a flower child?
I wish!!!!
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Once it becomes a relationship, I don't hold anything back, cause what's the point? It's gotten me hurt a few times.
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cgedvr: Agape...Eros ...philia...storge....xenia
I kinda like Eros the best
I kinda like Eros the best
When eros drifts into being largely agape from being with the same person for a long time that can be nice though.
When I was being the wild child I made it a point NEVER to open up to the other person. That was a clear violation of the rules.
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I think you have to be cautious when opening your heart....not fearful.
Fear keeps you frozen...
Caution is healthy.
Fear keeps you frozen...
Caution is healthy.
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StressFree: I've reflected about this and I'll share what I've observed and experienced---and my approach since I started the thread and have not said much.
First of all, I've noticed a huge difference (generally speaking) between America and Sweden when it comes to opening up your heart.
Americans are a lot more daring and willing to reveal themselves and open their heart up from the beginning. The difference is night and day. Furthermore, I've noticed a distinct difference between southern Europeans and Swedes concerning this matter. Swedes are really apprehensive in opening their hearts up right away in new relationships and it is something I've had to adjust to---not to say that they are all like this. I just find this interesting and just culture.
Also, I am very well aware of the fact that not all Americans open up right away and just put everything on the table right away.
Moving on, my approach is to open up as much as possible within the boundaries that I am able to maneuver with. I have realized that there are limits in how much you open up with a new partner. It really depends how accessible your new partner is. The truth is, some people just don't want too much too soon, and that is how it is and I can respect that. Go with the flow is my way of life. Patience is indeed a virtue and forcing things with somebody who has a slow hand can backfire. I've experienced that.
On the other hand, if I do find myself with a woman who is very accessible on all fronts and wants my universe in her pocket in a New York minute, then I'm all cool with that. Go with the flow! I have nothing to hide and I have nothing to lose by giving every drop of my soul if it is welcomed in the beginning. I have to say, the initial rush when this happens is one of the most wonderful things I have ever experienced in life.
We are all different and we all have the power of choice to decide what we can work with and what we can't. Sure, some people adhere to a certain approach no matter what and allow the cards to fall as they may. There is nothing wrong with that, it's your life. Others may adjust in their approaches of opening their heart and there is nothing wrong with that at all. We are who we are and the more we have love and harmony within, the easier anything is to manage.
Life is really short, some of you have realized this and to those of you who are younger will find this out. Make the best of it and don't cheat yourself. Come as you are and avoid putting yourself in a position of regret. Love is slippery and love is everything. Open your heart when the wind is right
First of all, I've noticed a huge difference (generally speaking) between America and Sweden when it comes to opening up your heart.
Americans are a lot more daring and willing to reveal themselves and open their heart up from the beginning. The difference is night and day. Furthermore, I've noticed a distinct difference between southern Europeans and Swedes concerning this matter. Swedes are really apprehensive in opening their hearts up right away in new relationships and it is something I've had to adjust to---not to say that they are all like this. I just find this interesting and just culture.
Also, I am very well aware of the fact that not all Americans open up right away and just put everything on the table right away.
Moving on, my approach is to open up as much as possible within the boundaries that I am able to maneuver with. I have realized that there are limits in how much you open up with a new partner. It really depends how accessible your new partner is. The truth is, some people just don't want too much too soon, and that is how it is and I can respect that. Go with the flow is my way of life. Patience is indeed a virtue and forcing things with somebody who has a slow hand can backfire. I've experienced that.
On the other hand, if I do find myself with a woman who is very accessible on all fronts and wants my universe in her pocket in a New York minute, then I'm all cool with that. Go with the flow! I have nothing to hide and I have nothing to lose by giving every drop of my soul if it is welcomed in the beginning. I have to say, the initial rush when this happens is one of the most wonderful things I have ever experienced in life.
We are all different and we all have the power of choice to decide what we can work with and what we can't. Sure, some people adhere to a certain approach no matter what and allow the cards to fall as they may. There is nothing wrong with that, it's your life. Others may adjust in their approaches of opening their heart and there is nothing wrong with that at all. We are who we are and the more we have love and harmony within, the easier anything is to manage.
Life is really short, some of you have realized this and to those of you who are younger will find this out. Make the best of it and don't cheat yourself. Come as you are and avoid putting yourself in a position of regret. Love is slippery and love is everything. Open your heart when the wind is right
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Often there comes a point in a relationship(generally speaking)when somebody jumps out of the present state of things going so well and begins thinking about the future. For some, only lovely thoughts come about, but for others it's the opposite when visions of the long term confuses things and paints a dreary picture.
Now bear in mind that this is all taking place in one's mind. Whatever built up fears or negative situations are occurring in the mind of this individual, none of it has even taken place in reality---just in the illusory mind based on fear. So this is when doubt creeps in and then those all night and dramatic conversations ensues.
It's normal, and if the matter can be resolved then that is the ideal thing. However, if the doubt cannot be taken away, then disaster awaits.
I try to go with the flow and stick with the now and just appreciate what I have and not get caught up into negative things that I think may happen---since they have not happened. A positive outlook gives better probabilities of things working out when things are going fine. Creating something from nothing is nothing new, and people should be aware of this when in a lovely relationship. Less is more...
I could not agree more. well said. This is also why I am now committed to taking just about everything in life one day at a time any more - people, work, plans, kids, family ..... all 1 day at a time. Seems to be working for me, for now.
But I am also just coming out of some pretty heavy duty - ummm stuff