First days of your broken heart (57)
Time heals all...this too shall pass ...hang in 
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Godsgift: Oh God don't remind me of that horrible black place. That terrible inner emptyness. The knowledge that your life will never be the same again. Waking up alone in the morning and realising that it's not a dream and trying to find the willingness and energy to face the day.
When yesterday you were sure what direction your life was heading, today it feels like someone has thrown in a hand grenade and even if you could find the pieces, you couldn't put it back together.
All your dreams are gone in the blink of an eye.
Nope. Never experienced that!
When yesterday you were sure what direction your life was heading, today it feels like someone has thrown in a hand grenade and even if you could find the pieces, you couldn't put it back together.
All your dreams are gone in the blink of an eye.
Nope. Never experienced that!
Maybe it's like childbirth, that horriable wrenching pain you swear you'll never go through again, until you see your child's face and know it was all worth it. I am looking at all the growth I've experianced because of pain, and I'm chooing to belive that black place was nothing more than a learning place, and that when I do meet the man I am supposed to be with, that pain will be nothing more than a memory with no more emotions attached to it, like childbirth.
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Yep!!!!!!!I thought an internet relationship would be better than the real thing....Nooooooooooooo my heart is broken!!! he is just a playa!!!
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No death you can come to terms with... Never get over it but learn to live with it!!With death you know exactly where thet are 24/7!!!!
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No death you can come to terms with... Never get over it but learn to live with it!!With death you know exactly where thet are 24/7!!!!
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Cried. A lot. And prayed to get guidance not to do anything stupid. A lot.
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sweetowen: Very well-put!! Maybe that's why I find myself running from anything that could/might be a serious relationship anymore. That is such a horrible feeling & my track record is lousy.
yeah it kinda keeps you away from venturing there ever again...
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I don't know if the first days are really the worst 
For me at least, the first days are just a summon for what's coming
After you pass the phase of denial, you hit the very bottom and that for me is the hardest 
All the emotions you've been bottling up surface and you are left with no choice but to deal with them.
The good news is that it is temporary and that in time you will find your strength again, but meanwhile it is definitely not easy
For me at least, the first days are just a summon for what's coming
After you pass the phase of denial, you hit the very bottom and that for me is the hardest All the emotions you've been bottling up surface and you are left with no choice but to deal with them. The good news is that it is temporary and that in time you will find your strength again, but meanwhile it is definitely not easy
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My divorce back in 1998 was something that I never want to repeat again in this lifetime. I was a long haul trucker at the time so I just stayed out on the road for a couple of months, the further away from home the better. I didn't have any contact with anyone
except my dispatch to get loads. I couldn't call my eight yr old son because she'd slam the phone down on me. I couldn't bear to drive anywhere near my home even on the interstate because just looking in that direction would cause me to have to pull my rig over and breakdown. All in all I lost about 40 lbs in those months from hardly eating and living on speed and coffee,(I don't do drugs anymore) Those are days that I never want to re-live ever again and I'm glad they are now a distant memory.
except my dispatch to get loads. I couldn't call my eight yr old son because she'd slam the phone down on me. I couldn't bear to drive anywhere near my home even on the interstate because just looking in that direction would cause me to have to pull my rig over and breakdown. All in all I lost about 40 lbs in those months from hardly eating and living on speed and coffee,(I don't do drugs anymore) Those are days that I never want to re-live ever again and I'm glad they are now a distant memory.
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i got drunk texed her 200 times then moved on to sleeping with every fast woman i could find , then it was on to dating 2 at a time, next i was back to being me seeking that 1 and only. we heal when we try to 
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At first I may cry about it, but then I put away any reminders such as photos etc. I do some spring cleaning and change things. I try to do something I enjoy. When I was younger I was more devastated, but not as much anymore. I guess now I realize people are not always what we imagine them to be. I know I will be sad or mad as long as I allow it. I try not wasting any more time than necessary thinking about someone who hurt me. If you spend too much time crying over the past, you with miss what is in front of you now? It is good to spend some time to reflect on the past and learn from it, but you steal the precious moments of today thinking about what could have been.
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LoveMovies: At first I may cry about it, but then I put away any reminders such as photos etc. I do some spring cleaning and change things. I try to do something I enjoy. When I was younger I was more devastated, but not as much anymore. I guess now I realize people are not always what we imagine them to be. I know I will be sad or mad as long as I allow it. I try not wasting any more time than necessary thinking about someone who hurt me. If you spend too much time crying over the past, you with miss what is in front of you now? It is good to spend some time to reflect on the past and learn from it, but you steal the precious moments of today thinking about what could have been.
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Hi, how has your day been?
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William Ernest Henley. 1849–1903
OUT of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
OUT of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
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I_am_Cherished: You've been given an opportunity to change the road you were traveling. Go shopping, get a new hair style, pamper yourself, go window shopping if you don't have money, start a new business or something. Get over it and get yourself busy because break ups are just a part of life. Of course you will need time to reflect and figure out if there is something to learn from it all. But afterwards, move on girl there are plenty of men for your picking.
Best Wishes!
yup I almost always treat myself to a new perfume & a new outfit - get my hair done - spend moretime at the gym - do things to make me feel like it's his loss and I am still an attractive woman. Really only went thru that once or twice cuz when things end a lot of time the heavy emotion is already played.Best Wishes!
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chocolateflavour: It is honestly true that the first days you knew you broke / separated / divorced with your love / partner / boyfriend / girlfriend / husband / wife or even with your "you-think-could-be-future-mate", is the most difficult one EVER in your life, no matter how many times you experienced the same in your life. Some said it is the lowest moment in their lives, don't know what to do next with everything uncertain.
Do you still remember what did you do on the first days of your broken heart - probably to ease your emotional hurt and pain?
Do you still remember what did you do on the first days of your broken heart - probably to ease your emotional hurt and pain?
Yes; I felt sorry for myself for a day, felt bad and then the next day realized it wasn't good for me to be in the relationship and I moved on.
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Do you still remember what did you do on the first days of your broken heart - probably to ease your emotional hurt and pain?
Well we've all been there at least once
Let me give my input on it
The first thing is not to panic and do silly things like get drunk and have a one night stand, get drunk and call your ex, or even worse beg him to come back.
Second thing, give your self some time to cry, it's ok to feel sad and letting the emotions out is healthy. But set a time limit for this so it don't turn into eternal hopelessness. Depending on the situation from three days to a month (if it was a divorce).
Third thing, make yourself go out even if you don't feel like it. Keep yourself occupied so you won't feel like your social life is dead since you are not together. Treat yourself with shopping, ice-cream, etc.
Forth thing, if you are having difficulties coping and feel like you were unheard in the relationship feel free to write letters to your ex (hate mail included)
Fifth thing, I think by the time we are through with this a new potential date will show up