Need some advice on how to handle a situation (51)
online today!online today!Happygolucky4uTreasure Coast, Florida USA25 Threads 4 Polls 6,241 PostsI had a gentleman send me a flower the other day so I sent him one back with a simple thank you. On his profile it states he is unhappily married. Call me a prude but I have a problem with this. I feel it is morally wrong for me to communicate with someone in this manner that is married even unhappily. I hate to be rude but of course you are going to be unhappily married if you are looking on line for a relationship. I got an email from him. I am not answering it. I just wanted to know has anyone else ever had this happen to them and how did they handle it?
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Happygolucky4u: I had a gentleman send me a flower the other day so I sent him one back with a simple thank you. On his profile it states he is unhappily married. Call me a prude but I have a problem with this. I feel it is morally wrong for me to communicate with someone in this manner that is married even unhappily. I hate to be rude but of course you are going to be unhappily married if you are looking on line for a relationship. I got an email from him. I am not answering it. I just wanted to know has anyone else ever had this happen to them and how did they handle it?
I can honestly say that ive never recieved flowers from a man.
But had emails from married women claiming to be unhappily married...
btw...not interested.
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Happygolucky4u: I had a gentleman send me a flower the other day so I sent him one back with a simple thank you. On his profile it states he is unhappily married. Call me a prude but I have a problem with this. I feel it is morally wrong for me to communicate with someone in this manner that is married even unhappily. I hate to be rude but of course you are going to be unhappily married if you are looking on line for a relationship. I got an email from him. I am not answering it. I just wanted to know has anyone else ever had this happen to them and how did they handle it?
No i haven't but if the fact he is married bothers you i would email him back & tell him that. Just say something like "Thank you for your flower & email, but i am not interseted in married men. Good luck in your search for someone else ".
That way you are being polite & getting your point across he is not for you due to his situation.
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online today!Costapacket: I can honestly say that ive never recieved flowers from a man.
But had emails from married women claiming to be unhappily married...
btw...not interested.
But had emails from married women claiming to be unhappily married...
btw...not interested.
I take it is the married women you are not interested in
Sorry I did not mean to imply a man would send you flowers. Maybe I should of worded it better. Significant other. I don't even think I spelled that right.------ This thread is Archived ------
Yep I am always leading them right back to their wife and family and I dont encourage such emails
and the flowers and ecards I tell them if you went out of your way to send your wife these things you may not be on a dating site surfing for another one
and the flowers and ecards I tell them if you went out of your way to send your wife these things you may not be on a dating site surfing for another one
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online today!darren9030: No i haven't but if the fact he is married bothers you i would email him back & tell him that. Just say something like "Thank you for your flower & email, but i am not interseted in married men. Good luck in your search for someone else ".
That way you are being polite & getting your point across he is not for you due to his situation.
That way you are being polite & getting your point across he is not for you due to his situation.
You are a mind reader. That is what was bothering me. The manners part. Being polite. I just was unsure if it was right to even email that. Thank you
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Happygolucky4u: I had a gentleman send me a flower the other day so I sent him one back with a simple thank you. On his profile it states he is unhappily married. Call me a prude but I have a problem with this. I feel it is morally wrong for me to communicate with someone in this manner that is married even unhappily. I hate to be rude but of course you are going to be unhappily married if you are looking on line for a relationship. I got an email from him. I am not answering it. I just wanted to know has anyone else ever had this happen to them and how did they handle it?
Yes Happy, it's annoying when you meet someone who is looking to feather their nest, before they leave, I think men who do this are desperate and are NOT capable of being independant.
BUT in saying that, some may have a valid reason, but Im yet to meet one....
JMO
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Happygolucky4u: I had a gentleman send me a flower the other day so I sent him one back with a simple thank you. On his profile it states he is unhappily married. Call me a prude but I have a problem with this. I feel it is morally wrong for me to communicate with someone in this manner that is married even unhappily. I hate to be rude but of course you are going to be unhappily married if you are looking on line for a relationship. I got an email from him. I am not answering it. I just wanted to know has anyone else ever had this happen to them and how did they handle it?
you are doing the right thing hun 
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online today!lovely4u7da: Yep I am always leading them right back to their wife and family and I dont encourage such emails
and the flowers and ecards I tell them if you went out of your way to send your wife these things you may not be on a dating site surfing for another one
and the flowers and ecards I tell them if you went out of your way to send your wife these things you may not be on a dating site surfing for another one
So it is common to have contact with married men. I have been here a little while and this is my first married one that I am aware of
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online today!sweetlyscented1: Yes Happy, it's annoying when you meet someone who is looking to feather their nest, before they leave, I think men who do this are desperate and are NOT capable of being independant.
BUT in saying that, some may have a valid reason, but Im yet to meet one....
JMO
BUT in saying that, some may have a valid reason, but Im yet to meet one....
JMO
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Just send him an e-mail and tell him thanks for the flower, but you're not what I'm looking for.
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hi, yes men have also sent me a flower only to add they are un-happy with the wife, i email back and say i dont go there and that i feel sorry for the wife. i also add not to bother e-mailing back cause ill just block them! and i dont even have a picture on yet.! just delete and forget them.
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In response to: I had a gentleman send me a flower the other day so I sent him one back with a simple thank you. On his profile it states he is unhappily married. Call me a prude but I have a problem with this. I feel it is morally wrong for me to communicate with someone in this manner that is married even unhappily. I hate to be rude but of course you are going to be unhappily married if you are looking on line for a relationship. I got an email from him. I am not answering it. I just wanted to know has anyone else ever had this happen to them and how did they handle it?
I won't even email a married person back.Sounds rude I know but I don't trust married men who say they're in a happy relationship.There's alwways the chance that they'll go back to their wives.
I dated a man one time who neglected to tell me he was married.I ended that date fast.
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online today!denmcintyre: you are doing the right thing hun
And now I feel ok since I know the right manners to do it with. Where is Ms. Manners when you need her.------ This thread is Archived ------
Happygolucky4u: I had a gentleman send me a flower the other day so I sent him one back with a simple thank you. On his profile it states he is unhappily married. Call me a prude but I have a problem with this. I feel it is morally wrong for me to communicate with someone in this manner that is married even unhappily. I hate to be rude but of course you are going to be unhappily married if you are looking on line for a relationship. I got an email from him. I am not answering it. I just wanted to know has anyone else ever had this happen to them and how did they handle it?
I have been here only a few months..but sofar I have not had the "pleasure" of having to deal with that..thank goodness..but what I would do is just block him..then he can t bother you any longer..
this is connecting singles after all and not connecting cheaters..there are other sites for that..
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online today!LoveMovies: Just send him an e-mail and tell him thanks for the flower, but you're not what I'm looking for.
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Happygolucky4u: So it is common to have contact with married men. I have been here a little while and this is my first married one that I am aware of I agree with you.
Well there is a few married men on here but like in the real world they will try anything to get a woman's attention and it work's the same for married women too! But like in the real world just politely tell them thanks but no thanks.
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online today!meahnna: hi, yes men have also sent me a flower only to add they are un-happy with the wife, i email back and say i dont go there and that i feel sorry for the wife. i also add not to bother e-mailing back cause ill just block them! and i dont even have a picture on yet.! just delete and forget them.
After his flower I checked his profile and it was wrote in there
Things have really changed in my life time. 
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online today!somechick: I won't even email a married person back.Sounds rude I know but I don't trust married men who say they're in a happy relationship.There's alwways the chance that they'll go back to their wives.
I dated a man one time who neglected to tell me he was married.I ended that date fast.
I dated a man one time who neglected to tell me he was married.I ended that date fast.
I live in a small town and they can't hide being married from me.
On line I just don't know if they don't tell or throw up red flags. 
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online today!onemoretry63: I have been here only a few months..but sofar I have not had the "pleasure" of having to deal with that..thank goodness..but what I would do is just block him..then he can t bother you any longer..
this is connecting singles after all and not connecting cheaters..there are other sites for that..
this is connecting singles after all and not connecting cheaters..there are other sites for that..
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