Hasseling people on this site (41)
i honestly dont understand people ,and its not just guys,if someone says no they mean no ,its really not that hard to grasp,there not trying to be offensive so why take it to heart?ive had death threats not on this site but on another well known site 
just for saying sorry no im not interested.. best way i find is just use that delete button and block, theres a few people out there with problems .
just for saying sorry no im not interested.. best way i find is just use that delete button and block, theres a few people out there with problems .pretty simple really, block or delete without opening.
I used to reply out of politeness, but stopped when some were undesirable, spur of the moment emails
I used to reply out of politeness, but stopped when some were undesirable, spur of the moment emails
dragonprince: Well these are all good points, and no I dont have an email address for her, she said she would make contact through my email that i had given her, im now wondering what realy happened myself the thing is that there was only a friendship nothing alse, well if she makes contact I can ask other wise ill never know, Thanks for your views
So, you had been chatting with this lady for a couple of months and she departed CS without giving you any means of contacting her 
and you don't find that a little rude and disrespectful 
Deemaree: pretty simple really, block or delete without opening.
I used to reply out of politeness, but stopped when some were undesirable, spur of the moment emails
I used to reply out of politeness, but stopped when some were undesirable, spur of the moment emails
without opening
I like to read them first, just because serene56: So, you had been chatting with this lady for a couple of months and she departed CS without giving you any means of contacting her and you don't find that a little rude and disrespectful
they are the worst, no explanation, just completely disapearnow that actually pisses me off and using the words rude & disrespectful is a polite way of saying it
My words are more...beep beep beep......
tarnsnz: without opening I like to read them first, just because
Only some. like way too young
tarnsnz: they are the worst, no explanation, just completely disapear
now that actually pisses me off and using the words rude & disrespectful is a polite way of saying it
My words are more...beep beep beep......
now that actually pisses me off and using the words rude & disrespectful is a polite way of saying it
My words are more...beep beep beep......
yes Tarnz that is disrepectful.
some expressed surprise that I actually answered smiles on one site even if it was to tell them I didn't think we suited each other. It is just a matter of courtesy.
Have asked this other one if she wants me to contact her. no reply. Yes I want you, no I don't at present as I have issues to deal with, but lets stay in touch then nothing after a couple of messages. If she doesn't want to just a straight up no. have asked that before but she says oh yes.
It would be nice to know & why would be even better. only way I can improve myself is by knowing.
Dusty767: yes Tarnz that is disrepectful.
some expressed surprise that I actually answered smiles on one site even if it was to tell them I didn't think we suited each other. It is just a matter of courtesy.
Have asked this other one if she wants me to contact her. no reply. Yes I want you, no I don't at present as I have issues to deal with, but lets stay in touch then nothing after a couple of messages. If she doesn't want to just a straight up no. have asked that before but she says oh yes.
It would be nice to know & why would be even better. only way I can improve myself is by knowing.
some expressed surprise that I actually answered smiles on one site even if it was to tell them I didn't think we suited each other. It is just a matter of courtesy.
Have asked this other one if she wants me to contact her. no reply. Yes I want you, no I don't at present as I have issues to deal with, but lets stay in touch then nothing after a couple of messages. If she doesn't want to just a straight up no. have asked that before but she says oh yes.
It would be nice to know & why would be even better. only way I can improve myself is by knowing.
I think we have all had those on these dating sites. And I used to reply to all my messegers and flowers etc out of common courtesy, even if it was just to say, sorry but not interested but good luck in your search anyway.
But since been on site for a while now, you learn alot, including scammers, players (worst) etc and now I have learnt to be alot more careful to whom I talk to.
Don't believe in wasting my time or their time and think if someone has issues, better off to stay away from them completely until they have sorted them.
Some people shouldnt be on dating sites looking if they havent already sorted all their crap out and wanting another relationship.
If everyone was straight up and honest, dating sites would be so much user friendly but the fact is they are not as you have to weed through all the bad ones in the hope of finding a good one.
But there are good people on dating sites, just a matter of been patient and why not make friends like alot of us have done in the process of looking for whomever we are looking for.
oops, hope me words aren't slurred and i make sense
2 brown cowstarnsnz: I think we have all had those on these dating sites. And I used to reply to all my messegers and flowers etc out of common courtesy, even if it was just to say, sorry but not interested but good luck in your search anyway.
But since been on site for a while now, you learn alot, including scammers, players (worst) etc and now I have learnt to be alot more careful to whom I talk to.
Don't believe in wasting my time or their time and think if someone has issues, better off to stay away from them completely until they have sorted them.
Some people shouldnt be on dating sites looking if they havent already sorted all their crap out and wanting another relationship.
If everyone was straight up and honest, dating sites would be so much user friendly but the fact is they are not as you have to weed through all the bad ones in the hope of finding a good one.
But there are good people on dating sites, just a matter of been patient and why not make friends like alot of us have done in the process of looking for whomever we are looking for.
oops, hope me words aren't slurred and i make sense
2 brown cows
But since been on site for a while now, you learn alot, including scammers, players (worst) etc and now I have learnt to be alot more careful to whom I talk to.
Don't believe in wasting my time or their time and think if someone has issues, better off to stay away from them completely until they have sorted them.
Some people shouldnt be on dating sites looking if they havent already sorted all their crap out and wanting another relationship.
If everyone was straight up and honest, dating sites would be so much user friendly but the fact is they are not as you have to weed through all the bad ones in the hope of finding a good one.
But there are good people on dating sites, just a matter of been patient and why not make friends like alot of us have done in the process of looking for whomever we are looking for.
oops, hope me words aren't slurred and i make sense
2 brown cows
Well said tarnz
ohnuts1: i honestly dont understand people ,and its not just guys,if someone says no they mean no ,its really not that hard to grasp,there not trying to be offensive so why take it to heart?ive had death threats not on this site but on another well known site just for saying sorry no im not interested.. best way i find is just use that delete button and block, theres a few people out there with problems .
Wow I never it got that bad, no wonder its so hard to be taken honestly and sincerely with that going on
serene56: So, you had been chatting with this lady for a couple of months and she departed CS without giving you any means of contacting her and you don't find that a little rude and disrespectful
Hi, yes I did find it rather strange but in saying that I dont know what she has been through, I have meet some nice and some not so, time will tell I surpose.
tarnsnz: I think we have all had those on these dating sites. And I used to reply to all my messegers and flowers etc out of common courtesy, even if it was just to say, sorry but not interested but good luck in your search anyway.
But since been on site for a while now, you learn alot, including scammers, players (worst) etc and now I have learnt to be alot more careful to whom I talk to.
Don't believe in wasting my time or their time and think if someone has issues, better off to stay away from them completely until they have sorted them.
Some people shouldnt be on dating sites looking if they havent already sorted all their crap out and wanting another relationship.
If everyone was straight up and honest, dating sites would be so much user friendly but the fact is they are not as you have to weed through all the bad ones in the hope of finding a good one.
But there are good people on dating sites, just a matter of been patient and why not make friends like alot of us have done in the process of looking for whomever we are looking for.
oops, hope me words aren't slurred and i make sense
2 brown cows
But since been on site for a while now, you learn alot, including scammers, players (worst) etc and now I have learnt to be alot more careful to whom I talk to.
Don't believe in wasting my time or their time and think if someone has issues, better off to stay away from them completely until they have sorted them.
Some people shouldnt be on dating sites looking if they havent already sorted all their crap out and wanting another relationship.
If everyone was straight up and honest, dating sites would be so much user friendly but the fact is they are not as you have to weed through all the bad ones in the hope of finding a good one.
But there are good people on dating sites, just a matter of been patient and why not make friends like alot of us have done in the process of looking for whomever we are looking for.
oops, hope me words aren't slurred and i make sense
2 brown cows
I totaly agree,
I agree sounds fishy i wouldnt be so keen on defending her sorry
kizzy27: Thats right if she doesnt want the mail its very easy to block maybe your not getting 100% of the story here I mean really... delete your profile so you dont have to read an email???? doesnt exactly sound right to me ...jmo
yes Tarnz that is disrepectful.
some expressed surprise that I actually answered smiles on one site even if it was to tell them I didn't think we suited each other. It is just a matter of courtesy.
Have asked this other one if she wants me to contact her. no reply. Yes I want you, no I don't at present as I have issues to deal with, but lets stay in touch then nothing after a couple of messages. If she doesn't want to just a straight up no. have asked that before but she says oh yes.
It would be nice to know & why would be even better. only way I can improve myself is by knowing.[/quote]
Now that is something that I'd like to see become part of everyday life. I'd like to know what I do wrong each time.
Of course anyone who does it will probably get the "But I can change speech" Maybe they could, But right now they've shot themselves in the foot and have to move on.
But one can't change or improve unless they are told. And most don't normally learn their lesson until they're hanging from the cliff by their finger tips.
Of course the other side of that argument is. "Whats not right to this person could be exactly what the next person is looking for and finds desirable" So I suppose we could never really win. But I'd still like to know what I do wrong.
Or have a Groundhog day button installed so I can redo things to get them just right, and have fun doing it. When you get a step wrong take it to the extreme knowing you get to restart all over again in a couple of hours.
some expressed surprise that I actually answered smiles on one site even if it was to tell them I didn't think we suited each other. It is just a matter of courtesy.
Have asked this other one if she wants me to contact her. no reply. Yes I want you, no I don't at present as I have issues to deal with, but lets stay in touch then nothing after a couple of messages. If she doesn't want to just a straight up no. have asked that before but she says oh yes.
It would be nice to know & why would be even better. only way I can improve myself is by knowing.[/quote]
Now that is something that I'd like to see become part of everyday life. I'd like to know what I do wrong each time.
Of course anyone who does it will probably get the "But I can change speech" Maybe they could, But right now they've shot themselves in the foot and have to move on.
But one can't change or improve unless they are told. And most don't normally learn their lesson until they're hanging from the cliff by their finger tips.
Of course the other side of that argument is. "Whats not right to this person could be exactly what the next person is looking for and finds desirable"
So I suppose we could never really win. But I'd still like to know what I do wrong. Or have a Groundhog day button installed so I can redo things to get them just right, and have fun doing it. When you get a step wrong take it to the extreme knowing you get to restart all over again in a couple of hours.
Above Quote was from Dusty.
serene56: So, you had been chatting with this lady for a couple of months and she departed CS without giving you any means of contacting her and you don't find that a little rude and disrespectful
I had that happen to me Serene. But there are explanations out there that give valid reasons why this may have happened.
One of the most basic is. Computer scored a virus and shut down.
We've seen it used by others. And if you don't have the finances it could be a very low priority to get it fixed.
Another could be They have had an accident out there in the real world. They are now either dead or in Hospital. We'll never know. It was just words on a screen and they still hadn't got that far down the line to meet and greet.
Good cyber safety says no address' nor ph numbers. So if either happens: all you are left with at the other end is; What happened? Where have they gone? What did I do?.
You just never know. It could be a perfectly logical and totally sane and realistic reason why this person stopped responding that isn't "They were a user/playa".
But then again I could just be being delusional
Honestly it could be any number of reasons why the lady in question didnt get back or give a forwarding 'address'..
Maybe her hubbie came home from OS
Who really knows, and its one of those things that you'll never know. Yes, it is rude in my opinion.
Maybe her hubbie came home from OS
Who really knows, and its one of those things that you'll never know. Yes, it is rude in my opinion.
dragondog4: I had that happen to me Serene. But there are explanations out there that give valid reasons why this may have happened.
One of the most basic is. Computer scored a virus and shut down.
We've seen it used by others. And if you don't have the finances it could be a very low priority to get it fixed.
Another could be They have had an accident out there in the real world. They are now either dead or in Hospital. We'll never know. It was just words on a screen and they still hadn't got that far down the line to meet and greet.
Good cyber safety says no address' nor ph numbers. So if either happens: all you are left with at the other end is; What happened? Where have they gone? What did I do?.
You just never know. It could be a perfectly logical and totally sane and realistic reason why this person stopped responding that isn't "They were a user/playa".
But then again I could just be being delusional
One of the most basic is. Computer scored a virus and shut down.
We've seen it used by others. And if you don't have the finances it could be a very low priority to get it fixed.
Another could be They have had an accident out there in the real world. They are now either dead or in Hospital. We'll never know. It was just words on a screen and they still hadn't got that far down the line to meet and greet.
Good cyber safety says no address' nor ph numbers. So if either happens: all you are left with at the other end is; What happened? Where have they gone? What did I do?.
You just never know. It could be a perfectly logical and totally sane and realistic reason why this person stopped responding that isn't "They were a user/playa".
But then again I could just be being delusional
many good points there DD. We often jump to conclusions without considering other possibilities.
dragondog4: yes Tarnz that is disrepectful.
some expressed surprise that I actually answered smiles on one site even if it was to tell them I didn't think we suited each other. It is just a matter of courtesy.
Have asked this other one if she wants me to contact her. no reply. Yes I want you, no I don't at present as I have issues to deal with, but lets stay in touch then nothing after a couple of messages. If she doesn't want to just a straight up no. have asked that before but she says oh yes.
It would be nice to know & why would be even better. only way I can improve myself is by knowing.
Now that is something that I'd like to see become part of everyday life. I'd like to know what I do wrong each time.
Of course anyone who does it will probably get the "But I can change speech" Maybe they could, But right now they've shot themselves in the foot and have to move on.
But one can't change or improve unless they are told. And most don't normally learn their lesson until they're hanging from the cliff by their finger tips.
Of course the other side of that argument is. "Whats not right to this person could be exactly what the next person is looking for and finds desirable" So I suppose we could never really win. But I'd still like to know what I do wrong.
Or have a Groundhog day button installed so I can redo things to get them just right, and have fun doing it. When you get a step wrong take it to the extreme knowing you get to restart all over again in a couple of hours.
some expressed surprise that I actually answered smiles on one site even if it was to tell them I didn't think we suited each other. It is just a matter of courtesy.
Have asked this other one if she wants me to contact her. no reply. Yes I want you, no I don't at present as I have issues to deal with, but lets stay in touch then nothing after a couple of messages. If she doesn't want to just a straight up no. have asked that before but she says oh yes.
It would be nice to know & why would be even better. only way I can improve myself is by knowing.
Now that is something that I'd like to see become part of everyday life. I'd like to know what I do wrong each time.
Of course anyone who does it will probably get the "But I can change speech" Maybe they could, But right now they've shot themselves in the foot and have to move on.
But one can't change or improve unless they are told. And most don't normally learn their lesson until they're hanging from the cliff by their finger tips.
Of course the other side of that argument is. "Whats not right to this person could be exactly what the next person is looking for and finds desirable" So I suppose we could never really win. But I'd still like to know what I do wrong.
Or have a Groundhog day button installed so I can redo things to get them just right, and have fun doing it. When you get a step wrong take it to the extreme knowing you get to restart all over again in a couple of hours.
so true there Dragondog. for me it is part of army thing. always learn from your mistakes or the mistakes of others. Just makes me a better person.
Thanks for reply too Tarnsnz. yep not contacting that one again.
I don't mind baggage or knowing about someones ex's as they make us the person we are today. I even don't mind issues as if we are to be partners then we can deal with them together, but playing games. yes I want long term relationship then no I can't handle it.
Just get out altogether if you don't know.
seems though all the good ones are here on the forums, giving opinions whether we agree or not & learning from each other.
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My first feeling was that she had just found an easy way out and away from you.
My second feeling is that a woman who's unable to protect her space on a dating site with enough tool available could have serious problems to do so out in the real world.
Just MPO without intention to offend anybody.
Well these are all good points, and no I dont have an email address for her, she said she would make contact through my email that i had given her, im now wondering what realy happened myself the thing is that there was only a friendship nothing alse, well if she makes contact I can ask other wise ill never know, Thanks for your views