HAVIGN A BABY ON THE WAY AND BEING SINGLE (11)
kenblockjrwallingford, Connecticut USA1 Threads 2 Poststhis is my problem. i am 22 and i have a baby on the way. me and the baby's mother don't get along at all. end of sentence. now who in there right mind would want to date some one like me. first of all im kinda shy so its hard enough to find a girl. and second how and when do i tell them about my son or daughter. dont get me wrong i love my child with all my heart even tho he or she is not born yet. help!!! thats all i can say.
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kenblockjr: this is my problem. i am 22 and i have a baby on the way. me and the baby's mother don't get along at all. end of sentence. now who in there right mind would want to date some one like me. first of all im kinda shy so its hard enough to find a girl. and second how and when do i tell them about my son or daughter. dont get me wrong i love my child with all my heart even tho he or she is not born yet. help!!! thats all i can say.
I do believe you have "said it all"..!!
I am sure many young ladies
thank you for identifying yourself.
---SoldierByte---
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I wouldn't be worrying about finding a girlfriend. Time to focus on how are you going to be part of your babys life. Are you going to be there physically, financially, and emotionally. What about setting up a babys room, clothes...etc., etc This baby will be part of your life forever.....I hope.
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I don't think it's possible for a man to love an unborn child. A woman might because it's growing inside her, but a man has to bond with the newborn baby after it's born. The bonding process is strengthened in the man by being a part of the birthing process.
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K...I hear you...dont panic...I think its admirable that you want to be a part of your childs life. That tells me you will be a good dad. Really thats all that counts...love is everything. Dont borrow trouble. Life will unfold, cross bridges when you get to them.You will be amazed at how it will all work out. Most important...remember to breathe 
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ooby_dooby: I don't think it's possible for a man to love an unborn child. A woman might because it's growing inside her, but a man has to bond with the newborn baby after it's born. The bonding process is strengthened in the man by being a part of the birthing process.
Oh it is possible Tom. I know that the father of my two was totally in love with our babies as they grew inside in me.
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kenblockjr: this is my problem. i am 22 and i have a baby on the way. me and the baby's mother don't get along at all. end of sentence. now who in there right mind would want to date some one like me. first of all im kinda shy so its hard enough to find a girl. and second how and when do i tell them about my son or daughter. dont get me wrong i love my child with all my heart even tho he or she is not born yet. help!!! thats all i can say.
Date a single 22 year old mom. That way she can watch the kids while you work. That way you can try to keep some custody and still have a life. Single moms are always screaming that nobody will date them on the forums. I think single dads would date them.
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kenblockjr: this is my problem. i am 22 and i have a baby on the way. me and the baby's mother don't get along at all. end of sentence. now who in there right mind would want to date some one like me. first of all im kinda shy so its hard enough to find a girl. and second how and when do i tell them about my son or daughter. dont get me wrong i love my child with all my heart even tho he or she is not born yet. help!!! thats all i can say.
best of luck to you my friend
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kenblockjr: this is my problem. i am 22 and i have a baby on the way. me and the baby's mother don't get along at all. end of sentence. now who in there right mind would want to date some one like me. first of all im kinda shy so its hard enough to find a girl. and second how and when do i tell them about my son or daughter. dont get me wrong i love my child with all my heart even tho he or she is not born yet. help!!! thats all i can say.
Just keep your willy in your pants and you should be alright from here on in...
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let me start by saying thank you for all ur advice. I was kinda of nervouse to post this because I dident know what people would say. but you have all been a big help. and yes I will do what ever it takes to take care of my child. one thing I have always known is that it might have been a mistake to date my ex but my baby will never be. thanx my friends for the help!!
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You were brave coming in here with your story. I really thought you were going to get pounded pretty hard. I guess many older of us felt you needed some compassionate advice more than a sermon. We've all made bad decisions in our younger days. Many, if not all of us have been where you're at right now. In fact reading your story took me back to my 20's. I will just give you this info.
In the eyes of the law in the US, BOTH biological parents are responsible for the support of thier child. Child support belongs to the child not the parent recieving the support and the custodial parent doesn't have the right under the law to waive child support.
In other words, it doesn't matter which parent gets physical custody of the child, the custodial parent doesn't have the right to let the other parent off the hook on child support.
Welcome to the real world. It ain't always pretty.
One more thing, you are now connected to your ex for the next 18 years so you may both want to try and get along as well as possible and don't make the mistake of using the child as a tool against the other. That is always a bad idea. Sorry for rambling. Good Luck.
In the eyes of the law in the US, BOTH biological parents are responsible for the support of thier child. Child support belongs to the child not the parent recieving the support and the custodial parent doesn't have the right under the law to waive child support.
In other words, it doesn't matter which parent gets physical custody of the child, the custodial parent doesn't have the right to let the other parent off the hook on child support.
Welcome to the real world. It ain't always pretty.
One more thing, you are now connected to your ex for the next 18 years so you may both want to try and get along as well as possible and don't make the mistake of using the child as a tool against the other. That is always a bad idea. Sorry for rambling. Good Luck.
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