The "L" Word (34)
EliteOne: yeah
it started with a great pickup line and a kiss
oh but that pickup line is amazing all women should learn it
I bet it was really sweet. it started with a great pickup line and a kiss
oh but that pickup line is amazing all women should learn it
EliteOne: yeah
it started with a great pickup line and a kiss
oh but that pickup line is amazing all women should learn it
it started with a great pickup line and a kiss
oh but that pickup line is amazing all women should learn it
What she'd say???? 'get in my car white boy???' that one has worked for me lately... 
Larf75: I bet it was really sweet.
Shell225: What she'd say???? 'get in my car white boy???' that one has worked for me lately...
Hmm yes
and she had this most evil but sweet laugh as she pulled out of Chermside shopping Centre.
its one of the risks we take when we date and form relationships as many times one person can have much stronger feelings than the other and if your lucky then you find someone that you feel the same intensity for.years ago i was dating or seeing a lady that i really liked but i didnt feel that i was in love with her and one day she told me that she was falling in love with me and i had to be honest with her and told her how i felt ,i felt bad as i know i must have really hurt her feelings and we split up in the next month but at least she was then able to go on and look for the right person,i dont believe you should just say you love someone if thats not what you feel ,its not easy though but dont be pressured into saying something thats not true,i think if you find the right person you are happy to use the love word but i think its better not to rush into using it till you sure.
So I am guessing from the above replies that seeing someone for 18 mths exclusively and not saying "I love you" is a bit slow 
Newlife08: So I am guessing from the above replies that seeing someone for 18 mths exclusively and not saying "I love you" is a bit slow
I wouldn't say so. if you look at the arranged marriages they work at it.
recently an article about an Aussie priest in the US who has wrote a book & his observations (he is 80) is you should actually be more in line on other areas first & work on the partnership. seems the love is deeper & lasts that way.
so how ever long you take to fall in love is how long it takes I suppose.
Hay Martia,
Just had a read of what you wrote and you know what I can't say yes to many or even two of these so has made a hard decission for me on a relationship problem I'm in at the moment.Been going out for afew weeks only and actually been out only 6 times but he is very clingy and always in public has arm round me or touching me in some way that it makes me feel sufficated totally.But the worse is after the 2nd date he says he LOVES me I tried to ignore this but now keeps saying it.And I have NOT in any way at all led him in any way quite the oposite I dont respond to him or reply to his sloppy words.So had to send him the hard email putting as nice as possible I dont have the same feelings as he does for me.And to slow right down.Also had to say how can he love me when he dosnt even know me that well.So what you said got me to thinking this may never work out and if he gets hurt it is because he brought it on himself.Any way thanks you have helped me as well more than you can ever know.
THANKYOU SO SO SO MUCH 
Just had a read of what you wrote and you know what I can't say yes to many or even two of these so has made a hard decission for me on a relationship problem I'm in at the moment.Been going out for afew weeks only and actually been out only 6 times but he is very clingy and always in public has arm round me or touching me in some way that it makes me feel sufficated totally.But the worse is after the 2nd date he says he LOVES me I tried to ignore this but now keeps saying it.And I have NOT in any way at all led him in any way quite the oposite I dont respond to him or reply to his sloppy words.So had to send him the hard email putting as nice as possible I dont have the same feelings as he does for me.And to slow right down.Also had to say how can he love me when he dosnt even know me that well.So what you said got me to thinking this may never work out and if he gets hurt it is because he brought it on himself.Any way thanks you have helped me as well more than you can ever know.
THANKYOU SO SO SO MUCH
In response to: Have you eva been in a relationship where your being pressured into saying it?
You know he says it then theres that awkward silence.....
If your not ready to say it ,why should that make the person who is feel stupid?
Im waiting to fall in love
I dont want to rush it
whos to say I will
But if it does happen ide like to recall the moment !!
You know he says it then theres that awkward silence.....
If your not ready to say it ,why should that make the person who is feel stupid?
Im waiting to fall in love
I dont want to rush it
whos to say I will
But if it does happen ide like to recall the moment !!
Hmmmm I dont think there is a set time, only you know your heart. I have loved 2 men however, only ever been in love once :-) I was overwhelmed because I was 32 at the time and had not felt the "in love"feeling ever before. It is a feeling I will always cherish, I ponder if I will get to feel it again?
Good luck :-)
Crystal
Observation only>
Love Happens when love Happens. It can't be forced. The word love is used way to frivolously in todays society.
We love bread, We love Chocolate, We love those shoes. If we use the word so loosely Why should we respect it when we say "I love you".
Many Playa's use the word to help speed the transition from flirting to bedding. And when the bedding becomes boring for them they move on.
But love happens and it is special. It is everything the songs and poems tell us it will be.
And it seems the longer it takes to find/develop that love the better it is and the more it hurts when its taken away.
Most importantly though. Never Ever confuse love with lust. They are not the same thing. Lust dies quickly. And it affects you spiritually/mentally/ only minorly. Love doesn't die. It may get muddied but after that muddied water settles you know it was special/different. The loss will hurt deeply and will take time to adjust and move on.
Love Happens when love Happens. It can't be forced. The word love is used way to frivolously in todays society.
We love bread, We love Chocolate, We love those shoes. If we use the word so loosely Why should we respect it when we say "I love you".
Many Playa's use the word to help speed the transition from flirting to bedding. And when the bedding becomes boring for them they move on.
But love happens and it is special. It is everything the songs and poems tell us it will be.
And it seems the longer it takes to find/develop that love the better it is and the more it hurts when its taken away.
Most importantly though. Never Ever confuse love with lust. They are not the same thing. Lust dies quickly. And it affects you spiritually/mentally/ only minorly. Love doesn't die. It may get muddied but after that muddied water settles you know it was special/different. The loss will hurt deeply and will take time to adjust and move on.
doweclick: Hay Martia,
Just had a read of what you wrote and you know what I can't say yes to many or even two of these so has made a hard decission for me on a relationship problem I'm in at the moment.Been going out for afew weeks only and actually been out only 6 times but he is very clingy and always in public has arm round me or touching me in some way that it makes me feel sufficated totally.But the worse is after the 2nd date he says he LOVES me I tried to ignore this but now keeps saying it.And I have NOT in any way at all led him in any way quite the oposite I dont respond to him or reply to his sloppy words.So had to send him the hard email putting as nice as possible I dont have the same feelings as he does for me.And to slow right down.Also had to say how can he love me when he dosnt even know me that well.So what you said got me to thinking this may never work out and if he gets hurt it is because he brought it on himself.Any way thanks you have helped me as well more than you can ever know.
THANKYOU SO SO SO MUCH
Just had a read of what you wrote and you know what I can't say yes to many or even two of these so has made a hard decission for me on a relationship problem I'm in at the moment.Been going out for afew weeks only and actually been out only 6 times but he is very clingy and always in public has arm round me or touching me in some way that it makes me feel sufficated totally.But the worse is after the 2nd date he says he LOVES me I tried to ignore this but now keeps saying it.And I have NOT in any way at all led him in any way quite the oposite I dont respond to him or reply to his sloppy words.So had to send him the hard email putting as nice as possible I dont have the same feelings as he does for me.And to slow right down.Also had to say how can he love me when he dosnt even know me that well.So what you said got me to thinking this may never work out and if he gets hurt it is because he brought it on himself.Any way thanks you have helped me as well more than you can ever know.
THANKYOU SO SO SO MUCH
Your welcome.DD summed it up very well undeer the heading Motives... its all about ownership and control! he would be like that with a lot of his dates.Run as fast as you can as these are the types that can turn to stalking.
kizzy27: Have you eva been in a relationship where your being pressured into saying it?
You know he says it then theres that awkward silence.....
If your not ready to say it ,why should that make the person who is feel stupid?
Im waiting to fall in love
I dont want to rush it
whos to say I will
But if it does happen ide like to recall the moment !!
You know he says it then theres that awkward silence.....
If your not ready to say it ,why should that make the person who is feel stupid?
Im waiting to fall in love
I dont want to rush it
whos to say I will
But if it does happen ide like to recall the moment !!
When the time is right you will know when that's what makes it special.
Last night I fell in love without you.
I waved goodbye to that heart of mine
Beating solo on your lawn
Every aching wound will cauterize and bruise
In memory of what we used to call in love
And only time will tell if violins will swell
In memory of what we used to call in love
Used to call it love
I waved goodbye to that heart of mine
Beating solo on your lawn
Every aching wound will cauterize and bruise
In memory of what we used to call in love
And only time will tell if violins will swell
In memory of what we used to call in love
Used to call it love
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IM asking what people think should there be a time limit if your exclusive.
I seriously like the guy
ive not been on one single date since we met with anyone else
& thats saying something .
Im his
Im just not in love with him ...yet
Kizz - The great country singer Tom T Hall summed it up I think. His lyrics I believe describe a whole lot of us singles.
You show me your heart and I'll show you mine
You show me your heart and I'll show you mine
I'm not gettin' hurt anymore that's a promise I made me for sometime ago
I've never ran into things hard and unbending when I was just traveling slow
If it's down to this and I'm taking my chances I've just got one offer in mind
Let's see a teardrop whatever else you got
You show me your heart and I'll show you mine
You show me your heart and I'll show you mine
I'm weak and I'm uncertain in fact I'm still hurtin'
And hurt put on hurt just won't heal
So make me a promise you'll laugh when I laugh and you'll cry when I cry it's a deal
I'm strong and I'm able but weak and unstable when somebody steps on my mind
You have to be willin' the free milk I'm spillin'
You show me your heart and I'll show you mine
You show me your heart and I'll show you mine
There was a time I'd be willin' to risk just the day of my life on the nights
But if you've been away say at four in the morning the memories crawlin' by your side
If you want to take it or if you can just make it a one sided offer that's fine
I just got one proposition to make you you show me your heart and I'll show you mine
You show me your heart and I'll show you mine