lol Jan_is ... I couldn't resist .Not trying to be unhelpful to the guy but as you say "it had to be said" I think being "himself" is the best bet ... any long rambling email about his "feelings, hopes and dream" would have me running like a March hare lol
mrlover39: What do I say to a woman when sending a message on a dating site?
All other things being equal.... I am always more interested in responding to someone who made reference to something I wrote in my profile and explained why that interests him or why it made him smile, etc.
The reference tells me he at least read my profile with some degree of attention, but the explanation tells me a little about him without it sounding like part of an interview. This often starts what feels to me like a real conversation.
mrlover39: What do I say to a woman when sending a message on a dating site?
Oh, come, come, Mr 'Lover', surely you, of all people, must know the answer to this -
But seriously - there is no magic formula, and, tbh, the vast majority won't reply anyway, so I would just send something brief, pick out something in their WRITTEN profile that you resonate with, mention that, and leave it open for them to get back.
PS - If they ARE really pretty, don't even mention their looks. It totally throws the pretty one's, as guys ALWAYS do.
Report threads that break rules, are offensive, or contain fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. click to report forum abuse »
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).