Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing (112)
nanners2863: Exactly!! If I spent my time worrying about how many people don't like me..I would never sleep..the sheer number of people here on cs alone that dislike me would probably break me if I let it.
You'd be flooding the forums with all kinds of me, me, me, help, help, help, who am I, who am I, do you like me, dont you like me and why type threads!
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Veritaas: Yep, alot of people do not know who they really are. Perhaps not secure in the way they view themselves, hence looking to others for approval.
If one is critical of such, they will usually be a bit stunned and find it unbelieveable how they are actually viewed by anothers. Then they ask another and another, you can't placate people just for their own sake, telling that person they are clearly soemthing they are not. Leading them down the garden path otherwise.
. If one is critical of such, they will usually be a bit stunned and find it unbelieveable how they are actually viewed by anothers. Then they ask another and another, you can't placate people just for their own sake, telling that person they are clearly soemthing they are not. Leading them down the garden path otherwise.
I know, I've softened on this over the years. I used to be brutally honest to people like this and lost many friends as aresult..... TOO honest WTF is that about... Now at a party i tend to fob someone like this onto others, asap, by going to the toilet, to get food and even sometimes by saying.. Listen, "You're doing my head in so just go away". Some people want sympathy all their lives, and not the advise on offer
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Veritaas: You'd be flooding the forums with all kinds of me, me, me, help, help, help, who am I, who am I, do you like me, dont you like me and why type threads!
ROFLMAO..I love those threads!! I often pop into the profile review forum just for laughs. I bite my tongue though..don't want to send any vulnerable souls over the edge. ------ This thread is Archived ------
nanners2863: ROFLMAO..I love those threads!! I often pop into the profile review forum just for laughs. I bite my tongue though..don't want to send any vulnerable souls over the edge.
Well those vunerable soul bring it all upon themselves, their own fault aint got any sympathy for them either.
How cruel is that!
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nanners2863: I am very independent and strong willed. What most people think of me means very little. The ones who know me and love me are the ones that matter. I will give you my all if you deserve it and will give you nothing if you deserve that.
Amen, sister, thank you.
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Veritaas: Or "Would you date me?", "Now way in hell would rather dance the night fandgo with the devil in hell!.
Christ my spelling has gone to pot! Wrecking the english language, should be ashamed of myself.
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nanners2863: Exactly!! If I spent my time worrying about how many people don't like me..I would never sleep..the sheer number of people here on cs alone that dislike me would probably break me if I let it.
Amen, sister. Thank you.
Most of them don't like people that don't beat about the bush but tell it like it is.
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equiya: Amen, sister. Thank you.
Most of them don't like people that don't beat about the bush but tell it like it is.
Very true. The way I look at it is..those who love me love me..those who fear me..probable should...Most of them don't like people that don't beat about the bush but tell it like it is.
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davpk10: I mean here on the forums (and in real life if you will) we all have to have a "thick skin" to survive....At least we think we do...
So is that a good thing or bad..
Are we so thick skinned we do not allow others to get close as we fear being seen as vulnerable...and if we are vulnerable is that really a bad thing?Sometimes I think everyone (here and in real life) is to busy trying to be seen as a tough guy/gal to allow someone to get close, as they are scared to be taken as weak....I could be wrong of coures....
So is that a good thing or bad..
Are we so thick skinned we do not allow others to get close as we fear being seen as vulnerable...and if we are vulnerable is that really a bad thing?Sometimes I think everyone (here and in real life) is to busy trying to be seen as a tough guy/gal to allow someone to get close, as they are scared to be taken as weak....I could be wrong of coures....
I have 3 choices here...
1. I can choose to be AGGRESSIVE... the I'll get you before you get me, put downs etc..,(leads to intimidation and interrogation role to protect myself)
2. I can choose to be SUBMISSIVE and let others run my life (leads to aloofness and poor me/victim role to protect myself)
OR
3. I can make a choice to be ASSERTIVE and be honest, trust myself to deal with no matter what and show respect for myself and others equally (leads to open vulnerability with a no push over attitude to protect myself)
SIMPLE REALLY!!
and requires practise to master as it's an acquired skill and not a given
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nanners2863: Very true. The way I look at it is..those who love me love me..those who fear me..probably should...
ahhh crap..now my spelling has gone to pot..it's contagious 
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Im not thick skinned. I just wont suffer fools and people that try and take me for a ride. Actually open and honest and caring but I am very passionate so if someone starts on me I will fight back. And have a awful habit of fighting for others and it gets me the flack 
I think dating in general you have to have a approach of what will be will be and be able to handle rejection when you start out. You learn to accept very quickly that it aint Mills and Boons and you wont find the person on a first date. If you cant handle someone saying sorry but I dont like you you shouldnt be on any dating site as they are far more ruthlous than real life, def more a meat market with people.
Real life though I am a lover not a fighter, well unless you start on us
See nothing wrong in being open with feelings though at all!
I think dating in general you have to have a approach of what will be will be and be able to handle rejection when you start out. You learn to accept very quickly that it aint Mills and Boons and you wont find the person on a first date. If you cant handle someone saying sorry but I dont like you you shouldnt be on any dating site as they are far more ruthlous than real life, def more a meat market with people.
Real life though I am a lover not a fighter, well unless you start on us
See nothing wrong in being open with feelings though at all!
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Yep, alot of people do not know who they really are. Perhaps not secure in the way they view themselves, hence looking to others for approval.
If one is critical of such, they will usually be a bit stunned and find it unbelieveable how they are actually viewed by anothers. Then they ask another and another, you can't placate people just for their own sake, telling that person they are clearly soemthing they are not. Leading them down the garden path otherwise.