WILL I EVER LET GO ??????? (10)
Oh dear, you are hurting really badly right now 
All I can say is no, you won't forget about your ex or the loss of your mother but over time, the pain will ease and you will come to terms with these losses.
These awful things that happen to us change our lives forever, we are never the same again. But we learn to carry them when they move from our heads and into our hearts, a tear in our soul if you like. They are a little easier to bear this way and then one day, we realise that the wound is far less painful and overwhelming.
This means that we can once again lift our heads and gradually, enjoy life once again - even though you don't feel that's possible right now, I assure you this will happen.
You're allowed to lick your wounds, for a little while, but don't forget there's a blue sky and a brighter future waiting for you out there, when you're ready.
Take care
All I can say is no, you won't forget about your ex or the loss of your mother but over time, the pain will ease and you will come to terms with these losses.
These awful things that happen to us change our lives forever, we are never the same again. But we learn to carry them when they move from our heads and into our hearts, a tear in our soul if you like. They are a little easier to bear this way and then one day, we realise that the wound is far less painful and overwhelming.
This means that we can once again lift our heads and gradually, enjoy life once again - even though you don't feel that's possible right now, I assure you this will happen.
You're allowed to lick your wounds, for a little while, but don't forget there's a blue sky and a brighter future waiting for you out there, when you're ready.
Take care
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The hurt of your mothers death will never go away but it may become easier to deal with
I am sorry for both of your losses. Maybe some counseling will help
I am sorry for both of your losses. Maybe some counseling will help
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wow.
Sorry to hear about your loss.
Sorry to hear about your loss.
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Pununu: My name is Phillipa , i'm from South Africa, my heart is so broken all i want to know is will i ever let go , first my fiance of 10 years left me with no reason went an mary some one who he knew for a month , he was everything to me, my brother , a father , a friend everything will do everything together , i always ask my self will i ever forget about him. its so cold without him, i'm always praying god to help me let go of him because i will never ever take him back , he hurt me so bad its been 3 years now but i'm still hurtin.
Right after that i lost my mom , ohh what a pain she was also every thing to me, now i have no one to cry to no one to talk to its like my world has move some were, i miss her a lot , she died in my hands i always dream about that day she died . Will i ever forget about her, will the memories of her go away , some times i fill like go to her grave and wake her up , i need to know why now its was too soon , i still need her, when i'm sad she was the only one to make me smile again . i'm who i am today because of her . i wanted to thank her more. will i ever let go of this Pain .
What a pain.
Right after that i lost my mom , ohh what a pain she was also every thing to me, now i have no one to cry to no one to talk to its like my world has move some were, i miss her a lot , she died in my hands i always dream about that day she died . Will i ever forget about her, will the memories of her go away , some times i fill like go to her grave and wake her up , i need to know why now its was too soon , i still need her, when i'm sad she was the only one to make me smile again . i'm who i am today because of her . i wanted to thank her more. will i ever let go of this Pain .
What a pain.
You touched me deeply, that is so sad
But I have some GOOD NEWS for you
Everything you ever thought you needed and everything you shall ever need was, is and will always be within you! It may be dormant right this moment because your attention is geared outside of you, but what is outside of you? You know it and feel it now: nothing.
Yet inside of you hides a truly wondrous and powerful being that needs NOTHING because it already has EVERYTHING. Learn to wake it, learn to listen to its whispers, learn to follow its counsel and unlike an imperfect human being, it is never wrong because it lives in a perfect world as it also is perfect. Connect with it, make peace with it and unlike an imperfect lover, it will never forsake you nor will it ever hurt you. Once you've learned to love it, it will love you back by wiping your tears away and giving you comfort when you feel you are all alone, warmth when you are cold and power when you are weak. It will walk with you, even to the ends of the earth, it will carry you when you can no longer go on and shall provide you shade from the harsh heat of this unforgivable sun and shelter from the cold cold world.
You have never been alone. All you have to do is open the door to your heart and let it in.
If you ever do anything worth doing in this miserable world, do that!
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Hi Pununu, the loss of anyone we love through any cause is painful,and your pain came double barrelled.No advise to give except take note of all the kind words that you have given to others on the Forums,wrap them up and give them back to yourself.A Mother's love is always there, and more so in spirit as they see all,whereas we are blinkered. Take care and God bless you.
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Pununu
Your life will blossom again.
Sorry about your doble loss but there are things that time heals and let's us carry it in our hearts.
Once in a while a tear will appear in our eyes but only then a smile will follow cause in the end we remember the good things and learn from the bad.
Take care & God bless.
Your life will blossom again.
Sorry about your doble loss but there are things that time heals and let's us carry it in our hearts.
Once in a while a tear will appear in our eyes but only then a smile will follow cause in the end we remember the good things and learn from the bad.
Take care & God bless.
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Pununu: My name is Phillipa , i'm from South Africa, my heart is so broken all i want to know is will i ever let go , first my fiance of 10 years left me with no reason went an mary some one who he knew for a month , he was everything to me, my brother , a father , a friend everything will do everything together , i always ask my self will i ever forget about him. its so cold without him, i'm always praying god to help me let go of him because i will never ever take him back , he hurt me so bad its been 3 years now but i'm still hurtin.
Right after that i lost my mom , ohh what a pain she was also every thing to me, now i have no one to cry to no one to talk to its like my world has move some were, i miss her a lot , she died in my hands i always dream about that day she died . Will i ever forget about her, will the memories of her go away , some times i fill like go to her grave and wake her up , i need to know why now its was too soon , i still need her, when i'm sad she was the only one to make me smile again . i'm who i am today because of her . i wanted to thank her more. will i ever let go of this Pain .
What a pain.
Right after that i lost my mom , ohh what a pain she was also every thing to me, now i have no one to cry to no one to talk to its like my world has move some were, i miss her a lot , she died in my hands i always dream about that day she died . Will i ever forget about her, will the memories of her go away , some times i fill like go to her grave and wake her up , i need to know why now its was too soon , i still need her, when i'm sad she was the only one to make me smile again . i'm who i am today because of her . i wanted to thank her more. will i ever let go of this Pain .
What a pain.
Hi Phillipa, you're not alone, other people have had very similar experiences and have learnt to smile and even laugh and love again.
In my case it was 7 years with the boyfriend, and it was my dad, who died in my arms.
I still sometimes dream about my dad, these dreams are awful, because I wake up convinced he's still alive, only to then have to realise, that he is not.
But these dreams you're having will occur less and less frequently. It's a cliche, but time IS a healer. Give yourself more time, and have hope, because life will be wonderful again. Believe me - it will happen!
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Phillipa my love, let the truth set you free, and remember, what goes around comes around. Next time, don't waste too much time, if it ain't going nowhere. JMO
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Hey Phillipa
Firstly sorry for your loss, I went through something similar with my ex and my grandmother died.The hurt and betrayal of what my ex did haunted me for many years and when my grandmother died as much as i was there for him in the 6 yrs we were together, he abandoned me. I held on to the pain and resentment for many years after but one day I went to church and I realized that letting go of him would only happen if i truely forgave him in my heart, and I did. Am i mad ? Yes. Have I forgiven him? Yes. the pain of my grandmother's passing is not so easy I still hurt when i get some good news and pick up the phone to call then remember i cannot.I don't believe it ever goes away, it's been 3 yrs and still but you can't have peace till you make peace within your self.
Stay strong
Firstly sorry for your loss, I went through something similar with my ex and my grandmother died.The hurt and betrayal of what my ex did haunted me for many years and when my grandmother died as much as i was there for him in the 6 yrs we were together, he abandoned me. I held on to the pain and resentment for many years after but one day I went to church and I realized that letting go of him would only happen if i truely forgave him in my heart, and I did. Am i mad ? Yes. Have I forgiven him? Yes. the pain of my grandmother's passing is not so easy I still hurt when i get some good news and pick up the phone to call then remember i cannot.I don't believe it ever goes away, it's been 3 yrs and still but you can't have peace till you make peace within your self.
Stay strong
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Right after that i lost my mom , ohh what a pain she was also every thing to me, now i have no one to cry to no one to talk to its like my world has move some were, i miss her a lot , she died in my hands i always dream about that day she died . Will i ever forget about her, will the memories of her go away , some times i fill like go to her grave and wake her up , i need to know why now its was too soon , i still need her, when i'm sad she was the only one to make me smile again . i'm who i am today because of her . i wanted to thank her more. will i ever let go of this Pain .
What a pain.