Your ex (118)
I forgave my ex long ago and moved on...
I would remind him that he would be hurting his children among others and that there is nothing worth doing something like that over...
I would remind him that he would be hurting his children among others and that there is nothing worth doing something like that over...
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mick64: what an absolutely hypocrytical statement.
how many ppl do you know who have committed suicide?
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how many ppl do you know who have committed suicide?
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Enough to make an educated guess.
mick64: what an absolutely hypocrytical statement.
how many ppl do you know who have committed suicide?
think about a cpl of things.
1: a person commits suicide and never tells anyone. " geeze he/she must have been serious. if he/she had only told someone we could have helped and tried to help them find another way.
2: the person who tells ppl he/she is feeling that way and gets advice /help from friends and ppl and doesnt do it." he/she was only doing it for attention."
no wonder theres a stigma attached to suicide, those who just top themselves are the only ones who really needed help because they didnt ask. those who do seek/ask for help are only doing it for attention.........FACT those who do seek help and advice, nearly 50% still commit or attempt suicide.
a lot of ppl hate me on here because i am one of those who think about suicide every day and struggle to live one day to the next.
" i am only seeking attention"
unless you live in that world, have compasion. the amount of ppl on this thread who say they would just walk away and forget about it are people who have no idea.
the op is struggling with a serious issue and most are offering pathetic and selfish advice.
he has come here with a serious issue and you belittle him. he needs some sound and honest advice not the crap he is getting from some.i lost my brother to suicide on the 29 june this yr and he was the one who never asked or told anyone his feelings. he is dead.
i seek to talk, even argue . right or wrong and i do struggle, but i am here for another day.
have compasssion for christ sake......its not a joke.
how many ppl do you know who have committed suicide?
think about a cpl of things.
1: a person commits suicide and never tells anyone. " geeze he/she must have been serious. if he/she had only told someone we could have helped and tried to help them find another way.
2: the person who tells ppl he/she is feeling that way and gets advice /help from friends and ppl and doesnt do it." he/she was only doing it for attention."
no wonder theres a stigma attached to suicide, those who just top themselves are the only ones who really needed help because they didnt ask. those who do seek/ask for help are only doing it for attention.........FACT those who do seek help and advice, nearly 50% still commit or attempt suicide.
a lot of ppl hate me on here because i am one of those who think about suicide every day and struggle to live one day to the next.
" i am only seeking attention"
unless you live in that world, have compasion. the amount of ppl on this thread who say they would just walk away and forget about it are people who have no idea.
the op is struggling with a serious issue and most are offering pathetic and selfish advice.
he has come here with a serious issue and you belittle him. he needs some sound and honest advice not the crap he is getting from some.i lost my brother to suicide on the 29 june this yr and he was the one who never asked or told anyone his feelings. he is dead.
i seek to talk, even argue . right or wrong and i do struggle, but i am here for another day.
have compasssion for christ sake......its not a joke.
Hypocritical , pathetic and selfish, huh?
Let me tell you what is hypocritical...
Fantasizing, in the most horrible terms you can think of, about hurting your ex, and your children by association,
and claiming it's *love*. (I go by your posts in public forums) .
Can't think of anything more hypocritical than that.
When you were talking publicly about your wishes to make a lot of noise and to hurt her as bad as you can, you were talking about the woman who raised your two children with no help from you, not financial, not any other help.
Now, 17 years later when these children is no longer children, and no longer require a child support, you remembered that they are in fact yours, and you are prepared to do anything to get to them.
That covers a “pathetic and selfish” part.
P.S.
Let me remind you that I don't know you from Adam and go by your public posts exclusively.
When I was reading about your intentions toward your ex, I found myself rooting for her in her attempts to hide from you.
For her own (and her children') survival.
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I dont have a degree in psychology so any attempt that I make to help someone could only come from the heart.
I know that I have sat with a friend and held her hand all night, driven 2 hours to be with another friend, held someones hand while they were pumped full of charcoal. I dont understand why these people felt the way they did, I dont think that I need to understand. Yes it did make me angry, why throw away a darn good life.
Why would I bother? because I dont believe that finding permant solutions to temporary problems is the answer. I think that sometimes we just cant see the light in our lives, and if someone reaches out to us for help (whether selfish or not) who are we to refuse. That they trust us enough to lay themselves bare to us in their most desperate moments is not something to be taken lightly.
In the light of the next day... I made darn sure that all those people I mentioned got medical help, even used to drive one person to their appointments. Cause I dont want to have to do it again.
I know that I have sat with a friend and held her hand all night, driven 2 hours to be with another friend, held someones hand while they were pumped full of charcoal. I dont understand why these people felt the way they did, I dont think that I need to understand. Yes it did make me angry, why throw away a darn good life.
Why would I bother? because I dont believe that finding permant solutions to temporary problems is the answer. I think that sometimes we just cant see the light in our lives, and if someone reaches out to us for help (whether selfish or not) who are we to refuse. That they trust us enough to lay themselves bare to us in their most desperate moments is not something to be taken lightly.
In the light of the next day... I made darn sure that all those people I mentioned got medical help, even used to drive one person to their appointments. Cause I dont want to have to do it again.
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Laura25: Enough to make an educated guess.
Hypocritical , pathetic and selfish, huh?
Let me tell you what is hypocritical...
Fantasizing, in the most horrible terms you can think of, about hurting your ex, and your children by association,
and claiming it's *love*. (I go by your posts in public forums) .
Can't think of anything more hypocritical than that.
When you were talking publicly about your wishes to make a lot of noise and to hurt her as bad as you can, you were talking about the woman who raised your two children with no help from you, not financial, not any other help.
Now, 17 years later when these children is no longer children, and no longer require a child support, you remembered that they are in fact yours, and you are prepared to do anything to get to them.
That covers a “pathetic and selfish” part.
P.S.
Let me remind you that I don't know you from Adam and go by your public posts exclusively.
When I was reading about your intentions toward your ex, I found myself rooting for her in her attempts to hide from you.
For her own (and her children') survival.
Hypocritical , pathetic and selfish, huh?
Let me tell you what is hypocritical...
Fantasizing, in the most horrible terms you can think of, about hurting your ex, and your children by association,
and claiming it's *love*. (I go by your posts in public forums) .
Can't think of anything more hypocritical than that.
When you were talking publicly about your wishes to make a lot of noise and to hurt her as bad as you can, you were talking about the woman who raised your two children with no help from you, not financial, not any other help.
Now, 17 years later when these children is no longer children, and no longer require a child support, you remembered that they are in fact yours, and you are prepared to do anything to get to them.
That covers a “pathetic and selfish” part.
P.S.
Let me remind you that I don't know you from Adam and go by your public posts exclusively.
When I was reading about your intentions toward your ex, I found myself rooting for her in her attempts to hide from you.
For her own (and her children') survival.
get facts straight before you mouth off
FACT. for 17yrs i paid child support. 33% of wages before tax. i only stopped when my daughter turned 18 on 27 april this yr. even when on disability i was still paying support. when i was working a hell of a lot off my wage went to them even tho i didnt knowwhere they were. paid thru the child supprt agency and thru the tax office.
FACT. my wife raised the children " on her own with no help from me" because she chose that, not me.
FACT. "you dont know me" so shut your cake hole about things you know nothing. like most women you were rooting for her purely because she is female.
FACT. I didnt choose this to happen to me she did. she has had 3-4 husbands, 4 step fathers and used over 12 different names. tell me that is a normal person.
FACT. what she has done to me, to my children, to the kids grabdparents, her own brother and to anyone she has ever known and you are still on her side. fine dont be on my side but to be on hers purely because she is female and a mother doesnt make it right.
FACT. a newborn baby was found in a shoe box here today with the umbilical still attached.
guess you blame the father??????????
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Laura25: Enough to make an educated guess.
Hypocritical , pathetic and selfish, huh?
Let me tell you what is hypocritical...
Fantasizing, in the most horrible terms you can think of, about hurting your ex, and your children by association,
and claiming it's *love*. (I go by your posts in public forums) .
Can't think of anything more hypocritical than that.
When you were talking publicly about your wishes to make a lot of noise and to hurt her as bad as you can, you were talking about the woman who raised your two children with no help from you, not financial, not any other help.
Now, 17 years later when these children is no longer children, and no longer require a child support, you remembered that they are in fact yours, and you are prepared to do anything to get to them.
That covers a “pathetic and selfish” part.
P.S.
Let me remind you that I don't know you from Adam and go by your public posts exclusively.
When I was reading about your intentions toward your ex, I found myself rooting for her in her attempts to hide from you.
For her own (and her children') survival.
Hypocritical , pathetic and selfish, huh?
Let me tell you what is hypocritical...
Fantasizing, in the most horrible terms you can think of, about hurting your ex, and your children by association,
and claiming it's *love*. (I go by your posts in public forums) .
Can't think of anything more hypocritical than that.
When you were talking publicly about your wishes to make a lot of noise and to hurt her as bad as you can, you were talking about the woman who raised your two children with no help from you, not financial, not any other help.
Now, 17 years later when these children is no longer children, and no longer require a child support, you remembered that they are in fact yours, and you are prepared to do anything to get to them.
That covers a “pathetic and selfish” part.
P.S.
Let me remind you that I don't know you from Adam and go by your public posts exclusively.
When I was reading about your intentions toward your ex, I found myself rooting for her in her attempts to hide from you.
For her own (and her children') survival.
Laura, they have to stay hidden away. If they had to watch someone commit suicide, it would RUIN them and scar them for life. I spent a lot of time on a support group and talked to people who either lost someone or watched someone commit suicide. Those people I talked to was and never will be the same people again.
There have been times I felt suicidal as well, I went to the doctor and got help because I had to. I had to stop thinking about my selfish self and look at the effect I was having on myself and the people around me. It was the best thing I ever done for myself.
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StillOfTheNight: Laura, they have to stay hidden away. If they had to watch someone commit suicide, it would RUIN them and scar them for life. I spent a lot of time on a support group and talked to people who either lost someone or watched someone commit suicide. Those people I talked to was and never will be the same people again.
There have been times I felt suicidal as well, I went to the doctor and got help because I had to. I had to stop thinking about my selfish self and look at the effect I was having on myself and the people around me. It was the best thing I ever done for myself.
There have been times I felt suicidal as well, I went to the doctor and got help because I had to. I had to stop thinking about my selfish self and look at the effect I was having on myself and the people around me. It was the best thing I ever done for myself.
i have never said i would hurt my kids in anyway.. including suicide in front of them..... that has never entered my mind...
i want my wife to suffer not them............and she wont....
im sorry if i gave you or anyone else the impression i planned to do it in front of my kids.
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lostinspace: If your ex said she was going to end it all ie leave this planet what action would you take?
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StillOfTheNight:
Laura, they have to stay hidden away. If they had to watch someone commit suicide, it would RUIN them and scar them for life. I spent a lot of time on a support group and talked to people who either lost someone or watched someone commit suicide. Those people I talked to was and never will be the same people again.
There have been times I felt suicidal as well, I went to the doctor and got help because I had to. I had to stop thinking about my selfish self and look at the effect I was having on myself and the people around me. It was the best thing I ever done for myself.
Laura, they have to stay hidden away. If they had to watch someone commit suicide, it would RUIN them and scar them for life. I spent a lot of time on a support group and talked to people who either lost someone or watched someone commit suicide. Those people I talked to was and never will be the same people again.
There have been times I felt suicidal as well, I went to the doctor and got help because I had to. I had to stop thinking about my selfish self and look at the effect I was having on myself and the people around me. It was the best thing I ever done for myself.
Thank you for your competent opinion, SOTN.
I would imagine so...
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lostinspace: I am worried and feel I need to do something how can you sleep with this
horrendous finality
horrendous finality
You know your ex, so you can probably best evaluate whether she is or is not serious.
I am on very good terms with my ex, so if he were to call me with something like that, I'd be extremely alarmed and I'd take immediate action because I know he would never say something like that unless he meant it.
In any case, it's better to be safe than sorry.
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lostinspace: If your ex said she was going to end it all ie leave this planet what action would you take?
I'd call the police and try to have her hospitalized.
It's the correct course of action for someone who is serious,
and prevents those who are not from playing make believe.
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she can't she does not know where i am 
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Ocee35: I'd call the police and try to have her hospitalized.It's the correct course of action for someone who is serious,
and prevents those who are not from playing make believe.
Especially if you are not living in the same area as them ... it can get the people there that could possibly make a difference. and prevents those who are not from playing make believe.
I'd rather err on the side of caution then ignore their cry for help.
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lostinspace: If your ex said she was going to end it all ie leave this planet what action would you take?
You mean after I passed out from laughing?
I'd make sure I had the kids when she did it.
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The trouble is with people who say this is that it is a thought in their mind. what may just be said in a emotional threat to make someone feel guilty may become reality when the threat goes un-heeded if depression sets in when they feel that no one cares if they do it.
If someone thinks it, they can do it.
If someone thinks it, they can do it.
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Thank god she is okay as a matter of fact she is on this site and gave me a good telling off for let it been known her intentions so all that ends well pardon the pun ends well.:teddy bear:
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Polarbutterfly: I'd ask him to remember to
strap hisself in and not to
forget the oxygen..
strap hisself in and not to
forget the oxygen..
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Laura25: I agree, Ambrose, I do.
But not absolutely.
Comparatively to someone else {for instance, to you}, I do not.
They sure do, but persons who announce their intentions to commit suicide do it merely to manipulate anothers, and don't usually carry out their threat.
In any case, it's about this troubled person's illness,
and no ex is in a position to cure it.
Any deeply disturbed, ill person needs a medical attention -- not their ex.
But not absolutely.
Comparatively to someone else {for instance, to you}, I do not.
They sure do, but persons who announce their intentions to commit suicide do it merely to manipulate anothers, and don't usually carry out their threat.
In any case, it's about this troubled person's illness,
and no ex is in a position to cure it.
Any deeply disturbed, ill person needs a medical attention -- not their ex.
Well, you have something to learn from me on this subject, Laura, since your claim is flat-out wrong.
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I'd try to convince her otherwise, because for one, it would serve me no purpose, even though I loath her for reasons I won't go into. but mainly because our son would be deeply hurt by it, as they are close.