Advice needed .. wedding photos... (50)
smoky: We seem to be on the same wave-length today Radders!!!
I went back and read his posting a second time ..... and got the "hang" of it.....
Tom Dooley-like?I went back and read his posting a second time ..... and got the "hang" of it.....
Four Jacks-Tom Dooley
smoky: The problem Tule, is it is not my friends home. They live seperate, but she spends her time there.
A photo of me and my boyfriend would have no reason to hang in his dining room ..... hahahaaaa .... We planning on how to get rid of HIS old wedding photo ... without actually hurting his feelings!
So far ... I think telling her to
a) Turn it backwards while she is there ... or
b) Drop it and break the glass..... or
c) Re-design her face..... are good ideas? Will wait and see if anyone else has any brilliant ideas.
Thanks thus far.
A photo of me and my boyfriend would have no reason to hang in his dining room ..... hahahaaaa .... We planning on how to get rid of HIS old wedding photo ... without actually hurting his feelings!
So far ... I think telling her to
a) Turn it backwards while she is there ... or
b) Drop it and break the glass..... or
c) Re-design her face..... are good ideas? Will wait and see if anyone else has any brilliant ideas.
Thanks thus far.
Well... are you sure that the objective really is to spare his feelings?
If the relationship is good, ie the two are emotionally close, then the best way would be to tell him about the emotional inconvenience caused by that photo.
And by “the best way” I mean the shortest or simplest. Possible outcomes:
1. He removes the photo. End of the story.
2. He tells you off for putting your nose into his business. You know what your feelings mean for him, and then it’s up to you whether to continue...
3. He covers all the wall space throughout his house with his ex’s photos. No comments.
Having a picture of your ex, hanging on a wall,could mean two things.- 1.- you miss her,or 2.- you like swearing at her,every time,you are looking at her picture.
Conrad73: what you mean by "HANG"?
Erm...she can't just tell him (during one of those moments he's obviously receptive)That photo in your dining room really bother's me?
tomboygirl: Erm...she can't just tell him (during one of those moments he's obviously receptive)That photo in your dining room really bother's me?
Ja, that is the obvious easiest thing hey? ...... but she`s a coward like me .... and I REALLY like the horns and moustache thing ...... Except, I guess, he will guess SHE did it! ....anyway!but ... if she didn`t do it, and I did it .... then she can act all innocent
smoky: Ja, that is the obvious easiest thing hey? ...... but she`s a coward like me .... and I REALLY like the horns and moustache thing ...... Except, I guess, he will guess SHE did it! ....anyway!
but ... if she didn`t do it, and I did it .... then she can act all innocent
but ... if she didn`t do it, and I did it .... then she can act all innocent
hahaha!I can just see you doing it too lmao
It's obvious to me............he's a man.............can't be bothered to actually do something about it because he knows it's going to leave a patch on the wall if he takes it down.........that means thinking of something to hide the patch.........easier just to leave the photo up.
Personally, it wouldn't bother me either way, it's his house, but of course that would mean he couldn't have any comment about what she had on display in her own home.
Personally, it wouldn't bother me either way, it's his house, but of course that would mean he couldn't have any comment about what she had on display in her own home.
Maisie: It's obvious to me............he's a man.............can't be bothered to actually do something about it because he knows it's going to leave a patch on the wall if he takes it down.........that means thinking of something to hide the patch.........easier just to leave the photo up.
Personally, it wouldn't bother me either way, it's his house, but of course that would mean he couldn't have any comment about what she had on display in her own home.
Personally, it wouldn't bother me either way, it's his house, but of course that would mean he couldn't have any comment about what she had on display in her own home.
and what would she have on display in her own home? .. second thought don't answer .. I have an image of you as a sweet lady .. don't shatter the illusion
Maisie: It's obvious to me............he's a man.............can't be bothered to actually do something about it because he knows it's going to leave a patch on the wall if he takes it down.........that means thinking of something to hide the patch.........easier just to leave the photo up.
Personally, it wouldn't bother me either way, it's his house, but of course that would mean he couldn't have any comment about what she had on display in her own home.
I agree Maisie it would not bother me much either. To me it would depend on how long you have been together how close they are as a couple. As it is his house and his space I would respect that he has his reasons for keeping it there. I would ask him why and based on that I respect it. However if i was living with him i will go and hunt for a nice picture and hang it up there and then I will take his hand make him close his eyes lead him in, and say open honey I got you a nice gift don't you just love it??????????????::grin:Personally, it wouldn't bother me either way, it's his house, but of course that would mean he couldn't have any comment about what she had on display in her own home.
wimmins, like cats, have an innate need to mark territory ... but luckily most wimmins is more refined than your average feline fur ball .. 
"" I got you a nice gift don't you just love it???? grin"" try to do this to me,and see what will happen.
josingleinspain: I agree Maisie it would not bother me much either. To me it would depend on how long you have been together how close they are as a couple. As it is his house and his space I would respect that he has his reasons for keeping it there. I would ask him why and based on that I respect it. However if i was living with him i will go and hunt for a nice picture and hang it up there and then I will take his hand make him close his eyes lead him in, and say open honey I got you a nice gift don't you just love it??????????????::grin:
chris27292729: "" I got you a nice gift don't you just love it???? grin"" try to do this to me,and see what will happen.
This has to intresting...What would you do???? keep it in perspective..Your divorced..and have a new GF-partener. And she objects to the pic of you happy harried hanging on your living room wall and she (your good lady friend) replaced it..
What would you do chris...? Whats the threat..beef it out..
Phoenix: What are you smokin'?????
tomboygirl: Think we just got a fly on the wall peek inside charlie's mind...OMG
maybe you have a different idea of the AyatollahMasie .. was it for your sweetness that they called you it?
I don't think this problem is about the wedding photo. It's about the state of the current relationship. What your friend is worried about is:
Is she as significant in this man's life as the woman he once married?
The photo makes her think she isn't. She's right too. She isn't living with him, she isn't engaged to him, she isn't married to him, she isn't the mother of his kids. So she isn't as significant in his life as his ex-wife.
I suggest that if she ever becomes as significant as the ex-wife, she'll know because the photo will disappear all by itself.
Therefore, the answer to the problem is to say nothing about the photo at all. Your friend just has to wait her time and see what happens.
Is she as significant in this man's life as the woman he once married?
The photo makes her think she isn't. She's right too. She isn't living with him, she isn't engaged to him, she isn't married to him, she isn't the mother of his kids. So she isn't as significant in his life as his ex-wife.
I suggest that if she ever becomes as significant as the ex-wife, she'll know because the photo will disappear all by itself.
Therefore, the answer to the problem is to say nothing about the photo at all. Your friend just has to wait her time and see what happens.
Hope all you guys & gals are keeping well..
As for your friends problem Smoky, I still need more details, but from what has been provided so far, it is clear the ex still has control over the house if she still keeps inviting herself in, (does she still have a key??)...
Another factor would be the age of the children involved, but if grown up, then there is no reason for the picture to be displayed.
In effect, he has not moved on completely and not knowing how long he has been separated and also the situation with his ex, (is she single/married etc..), this all plays a factor in your friends relationship and its future...
I'd go with TMB, but in this age, she can drop the message in a text or e-mail, and hopefully finds a nice surprise on arriving to see it replaced with recent holiday of them together, (and also sends a message to the ex he has moved on).
While Wordsmith makes some valid points, I would never wait until a picture is removed to feel I am then regarded as someone significant.
The time is now, not the past, and unless he shapes up, (portrait, landscape or oval is optional
), then I would say its time for a serious chat about their future.. jmo..
Have a great weekend people, and saw your thread on books Charlie, well I have the delight to be reading this weekend a Green Paper entitled 'Planning: delivering a fundamental change'..
As for your friends problem Smoky, I still need more details, but from what has been provided so far, it is clear the ex still has control over the house if she still keeps inviting herself in, (does she still have a key??)...
Another factor would be the age of the children involved, but if grown up, then there is no reason for the picture to be displayed.
In effect, he has not moved on completely and not knowing how long he has been separated and also the situation with his ex, (is she single/married etc..), this all plays a factor in your friends relationship and its future...
I'd go with TMB, but in this age, she can drop the message in a text or e-mail, and hopefully finds a nice surprise on arriving to see it replaced with recent holiday of them together, (and also sends a message to the ex he has moved on).
While Wordsmith makes some valid points, I would never wait until a picture is removed to feel I am then regarded as someone significant.
The time is now, not the past, and unless he shapes up, (portrait, landscape or oval is optional
), then I would say its time for a serious chat about their future.. jmo.. Have a great weekend people, and saw your thread on books Charlie, well I have the delight to be reading this weekend a Green Paper entitled 'Planning: delivering a fundamental change'..
wordsmith99: I don't think this problem is about the wedding photo. It's about the state of the current relationship. What your friend is worried about is:
Is she as significant in this man's life as the woman he once married?
The photo makes her think she isn't. She's right too. She isn't living with him, she isn't engaged to him, she isn't married to him, she isn't the mother of his kids. So she isn't as significant in his life as his ex-wife.
I suggest that if she ever becomes as significant as the ex-wife, she'll know because the photo will disappear all by itself.
Therefore, the answer to the problem is to say nothing about the photo at all. Your friend just has to wait her time and see what happens.
Is she as significant in this man's life as the woman he once married?
The photo makes her think she isn't. She's right too. She isn't living with him, she isn't engaged to him, she isn't married to him, she isn't the mother of his kids. So she isn't as significant in his life as his ex-wife.
I suggest that if she ever becomes as significant as the ex-wife, she'll know because the photo will disappear all by itself.
Therefore, the answer to the problem is to say nothing about the photo at all. Your friend just has to wait her time and see what happens.
well said.
smoky: Now .. I like that advice!
I think, this weekend, I get myself invited over ...... and tell her to get him out of the house for a while ... like a bbq and he cooks the meat ........ and I do some artistic work on it in the bathroom (just in case I get busted by him while removing the glass or putting it back!)
Hahahaaa .... I REALLY love that!
I think, this weekend, I get myself invited over ...... and tell her to get him out of the house for a while ... like a bbq and he cooks the meat ........ and I do some artistic work on it in the bathroom (just in case I get busted by him while removing the glass or putting it back!)
Hahahaaa .... I REALLY love that!
Hi Smoky
Good idea: Get an invitation to the house!! And when entering the diningroom, you should show particular interest for that photo!!
1) Who is that on the photo? (Oh.. Isn`t that xxx)
2) But I thought you were divorced??
3) Then why do you still keep this photo??? hahaha
4) My thoughts are: the past belong in the past..
5) (And then to your GF) It must be hard for you being watched by her everytime you are here??? hahaha
Would probably give him something to think about??
chris27292729: "" I got you a nice gift don't you just love it???? grin"" try to do this to me,and see what will happen.
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I went back and read his posting a second time ..... and got the "hang" of it.....