Everything She Wants!!!111!!! (26)
bodleing: All relationships begin in projection. All projection occurs unconsciously, the force that pulls two people together (usually a combination of complexes,) is the same energy that can eventually force them apart. Love hate relationships demonstrate these polar opposites quite well.
More often than not the unconscious dynamic that drove two people together may one day come to the surface, and what they see is seldom a pretty picture.
More often than not the unconscious dynamic that drove two people together may one day come to the surface, and what they see is seldom a pretty picture.
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opentuit: I think it depends on how you picture your own future and how you frame the present time.
It sure does sweetheart. We all learn in our own ways. Wisdom and experience mean nothing until we have actually learned from our experiences and have been through them. To me, the present is the ultimate judge, but we do have to consider the future if some of our interests do not align---as good as the present may be.
opentuit:
After my divorce, I wasn't interested in long-term anything. I've been in two committed relationships since then; both were men that openly opposed marriage. The fact that we were all very clear on that freed me to just enjoy them the way they were with no expectations or projections of the future at all.
HOWEVER, when I reached a point of readiness and found myself wanting to settle down with one wonderful man for the rest of my life... neither of them were capable of that. Continuing/pursuing a relationship with someone who does not see marriage as a reasonable option.... would keep me from meeting someone who wants and values it.
So that's why I don't have a man in my life at this moment in time. The nice thing is.... that I've had a lot of practice in just appreciating a partner the way he is.
After my divorce, I wasn't interested in long-term anything. I've been in two committed relationships since then; both were men that openly opposed marriage. The fact that we were all very clear on that freed me to just enjoy them the way they were with no expectations or projections of the future at all.
HOWEVER, when I reached a point of readiness and found myself wanting to settle down with one wonderful man for the rest of my life... neither of them were capable of that. Continuing/pursuing a relationship with someone who does not see marriage as a reasonable option.... would keep me from meeting someone who wants and values it.
So that's why I don't have a man in my life at this moment in time. The nice thing is.... that I've had a lot of practice in just appreciating a partner the way he is.
Perfectly understood
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StressFree: I'll stop the world and MELT WITH YOU
Have you been reading the book of Ra?
Agreed though---energy and projection can work both ways since it never stays still for many people. Rule it, don't let it rule you due to labels and indoctrinations projected by Hollywood and Romanticism.
I will say that a lot of relationships do begin in projection, but not all of them. Some people are beyond the rabbit hole and see things in their true light
Have you been reading the book of Ra?
Agreed though---energy and projection can work both ways since it never stays still for many people. Rule it, don't let it rule you due to labels and indoctrinations projected by Hollywood and Romanticism.
I will say that a lot of relationships do begin in projection, but not all of them. Some people are beyond the rabbit hole and see things in their true light
oh!!! lol...I love the way write...
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afterbam: oh!!! lol...I love the way u write...
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StressFree: Well, since the "what he or she wants" threads are so contagious, I'll contribute. This in not about women, it's about both genders in a new relationship, and when things change after those first few magical weeks.
Perhaps George Michael's best production (okay, maybe Careless Whisper was).
"I guess I must have loved you.
'Cause I said you were the perfect girl for me,
Maybe...
But now we're six months older...
And everything you want and everything you see,
Is out of reach...not good enough...
I don't know what the hell you want from me but boy" - WhamOkay, the theme here is how things can change in a new relationship. That first initial take-off can be so awesome---those first 6-8 weeks. You could do no wrong, she could do no wrong. Then after the fireworks are done, and the smoke is settled, new views on our partner emerges, and we think---oh dear, what's up with that? Funny how it didn't matter in the beginning, but then after a while, we start to see things in a different light.
Just thinking out loud here. Funny how everything is perfect in the beginning. Thoughts?
all she needs is mePerhaps George Michael's best production (okay, maybe Careless Whisper was).
"I guess I must have loved you.
'Cause I said you were the perfect girl for me,
Maybe...
But now we're six months older...
And everything you want and everything you see,
Is out of reach...not good enough...
I don't know what the hell you want from me but boy" - WhamOkay, the theme here is how things can change in a new relationship. That first initial take-off can be so awesome---those first 6-8 weeks. You could do no wrong, she could do no wrong. Then after the fireworks are done, and the smoke is settled, new views on our partner emerges, and we think---oh dear, what's up with that? Funny how it didn't matter in the beginning, but then after a while, we start to see things in a different light.
Just thinking out loud here. Funny how everything is perfect in the beginning. Thoughts?
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Now this concept of long term is a reality that we must all consider, but is it really a must? What governs long term? Is it possible when the flow is awesome in the present state of being, that we may talk ourselves out of how good things are when we look to far ahead and base our realities on things that have not happened yet in the future? How do we know really? Okay, of course if we see signs or behaviours that we consider not compatible right now after the take-off stage, then I can totally understand. I've experienced this from both ends. For instance, my sleeping in late on Sundays was considered "cute" in the beginning of my last relationship, but after a couple of months, it was considered as "selfish".
I think it depends on how you picture your own future and how you frame the present time.
After my divorce, I wasn't interested in long-term anything. I've been in two committed relationships since then; both were men that openly opposed marriage. The fact that we were all very clear on that freed me to just enjoy them the way they were with no expectations or projections of the future at all.
HOWEVER, when I reached a point of readiness and found myself wanting to settle down with one wonderful man for the rest of my life... neither of them were capable of that. Continuing/pursuing a relationship with someone who does not see marriage as a reasonable option.... would keep me from meeting someone who wants and values it.
So that's why I don't have a man in my life at this moment in time. The nice thing is.... that I've had a lot of practice in just appreciating a partner the way he is.