Jan1305OPSunshine and vino, Murcia Spain5,319 posts
A lot of threads are about why can't I find the love of my life? I'm a good person, I'm nice, I'm perfect even! If any of us knew the answer we wouldn't be here. Nobody is perfect, sometimes the nicest people can be horrible, sometimes good people do or think bad things.
The answers to these questions are not here on CS! So join, make friends, forget the self pity. at times take a little advice and maybe, just maybe, there may be somebody here for you. And that is all I wanted to say!
Jan1305OPSunshine and vino, Murcia Spain5,319 posts
Yes precisely! Doesn't it get on your nerves after a while? I am usually a very very patient person BUT there are too many people thinking that CS is going to be the answer to all our problems....NO NO NO! We share experiences, we laugh, we argue at times, but not one single person here can answer these type of questions.
Enjoy time spent here by all means, I do usually, there are many good people, but life is, and should be, spent for the most part, away from here, meeting real people and having real relationships, if that is what you are truly looking for. Some people have been lucky and found love here on CS and I am happy when I see this, but most of us sadly do not. All I am saying is don't view your time here as the answer to all of the problems in your love life.
So what you are saying is wallowing in self-pity is anti productive to the dating process?
In other words, no NORMAL person is NOT attracted to a person who is wondering around the universe say, “oh poor me”, “why me” and the always productive “ I can’t” find anyone.”
Don’t forget the “I am a nice person and no one loves me” and “they hurt me.” People grow up love is a risk and a large part of that risk and love is all too often, PAIN.
Is that what your saying because if it isn’t,. it is what I am saying .
i wonder how many has come on the forum and ask the why question.i wonder how many came here when they need someone to talk to.apart of friendship and part of a love relationship is being there for the person.
no matter how many times they ask why or how many what we think are stupid questions.how many came to the forum seeking advice or help with something.
with each new day comes new people join this site and new people are taking part in the forum,yes many more will come and ask the same question over and over.
before it is all said and done many more why questions will be ask.but this will always remain true no one can sit at the judgment of someone else.
no one can criticize someone else for asking something or saying something they have already said their ownsevles.it is easy to point a finger at someone else than it is.for us to look in a mirror and to take a good look at oursevles.
to understand at one time in our lifetime,we have ask the same questions that people are asking now.we must ask oursevles how many times did we ask those why questions.
the only way to find out something you do not know is by asking questions.sometimes we may have a problem and do not know the answer to.but asking someone else they might have the answer that will help us.
some of the questions we need to ask during our lifetime are the why questions and sometimes the why not.like why not just answer the question
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The answers to these questions are not here on CS! So join, make friends, forget the self pity. at times take a little advice and maybe, just maybe, there may be somebody here for you. And that is all I wanted to say!