how do you cure a broken heart? ( Archived) (23)

How very sad and if only folks would realise what kind of damage they do to others with their hurtful actions,its true time lessens the pain and i know you will do the very best for you're son,maybe you're husband has been feeling depressed and that has made him act this way,you are going to survive this and if you do divorce take some time out for you and you're son, roses will grow again and you will be a stronger woman then..remember you are important too with the right to be happy..take care lass..

To leave you on your birthday was a terrible thing after 9 yrs. He truly didn't ever deserve your love. Hold your head high God is with you. You'll find a man who is worthy of your love and just know no matter what, no matter how terrible you feel, this shall pass

thank you. it is helping very much what advice i get from "strangers". no one here knows me and they are giving me so many things to keep me busy. and a way to get through this. my son or lad will be alright because i am a strong woman and this advice is making me only stronger. thank you to everyone. keep sending your thoughts please.

if you ever come to pittsburgh, pa, usa i want to hug you. i never ever thought of me and anthony being his victims. that really makes me mad in a good way. i have been hurt before and a victim, and your thoughts give me some perspective. i know i am not supposed to put personal info on here but its email. smoorelatrobe@yahoo.com please email me and thank you!!

any advice you have is welcome. i know it is not an easy answer, there is no right one either.

I agree wholeheartedly. Please don't allow yourself to think that you are a lesser person because he has left you. People do it all the time for their OWN selfish reasons. I know it's hard to believe, but sometimes we go through really really difficult and painful times and we cannot help but ask WHY? We usually find (in retrospect) that it was for a good reason... That we are stronger and truer people because of what happened.

Lots of love and strength to you and to your boy...

thank you very much. i now know someone in south africa who cares as well. it means more than you can imagine that so many people are thinking of me and my son.

how to cure a broken heart?

I guess the same way as a broken arm is cured....put it in cast and wait for it to heal.
your body is wise....if you give it rest, it will heal itself.

easy said....not easy done. but you can do it.
while in this cast, take your time to explore what happened, why you feel sad and perhaps angry.
write it down...and then let go...burn what you've written.

it doesn't matter what, just do something, anything to clean up the mess. just visualize this cast for protection.
and when time comes, and your cast is taken of....slowly begin a new life....
it's just like with a broken bone....you have to use it slowly to regain strenght...untill you can re-use it full force.

you are a beautiful, strong woman. never forget that. and someday, some fine man will come along again.

it will be okay....you'll do fine...
a big hug for you, from me.

The most important thing in your life RIGHT NOW is your son ,he is a totally innocent victim in this, being deserted by his dad, but now it seems with no contact at all with him, children of this age can often blame themselves, their behaviour for his disappearance, and propably left feeling very insecure about whether his father loved him.So he needs all your reassurance, that he is loved by you, but whatever you feel,anger ,grief,please dont bad mouth your ex to your son, until you know his reasons for leaving, he may well have been ill,depressed, or at least i am hoping so for your sons sake so that an amicable door can be left open for son/father contact.
In the meantime give yourself time to grieve your own loss, only time will heal this pain, but it will happen believe me. Believe in yourself & learn to love yourself again, be gentle with yourself, & just take one day at a time, but make a list of the things you would like to achieve in the coming New Year, but each day think to yourself, My Life Starts Today, and try your level best, to smile at others, be positive, & confident, you will surprised at how much others will return it to you.
May your God go with you
LOVE N LIGHT

guess i will have a bonfire tonight. i never thought about that. i write all the time and never thought of burning them. and i love the idea of a cast on my heart, it will take time to heal just like a bone. thank you. i now have something else to occupy some of my time. i can write everyday and burn my evil thoughts and move on easier. thanks