Running Scared? (15)
Wow, Is that any thing like my last date telling me I'm too nice, then break it off. How the heck can some-one be too nice?
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Love hurts. Paws
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They were seeking emotional detachment as soon as possible, being 'too nice' allows them to say that they're not the one for you, and that they're looking for one that treats them like junk at the same time. They kill 2 birds with one stone by breaking it off with you, and enabling themselves to get into something less than optimal.
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Guilty of this and regretful. Personally, I think it's a control issue with me. Twisted? Yup. But I don't like to feel powerless, vulnerable, or needy. True love makes me feel a little of each, so I bail. I'd rather be in control of my pain.
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Someone can't be too nice. What they mean is too wussy.
They aren't looking for a jerk who treats them badly. BUT, they are looking for a man. Someone who tells them what they're doing for a date that evening. Someone who doesn't call every ten minutes and who appears needy. Just my opinion...
They aren't looking for a jerk who treats them badly. BUT, they are looking for a man. Someone who tells them what they're doing for a date that evening. Someone who doesn't call every ten minutes and who appears needy. Just my opinion...
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Some are actually into being degraded and treated like junk, believe it or not. It's quite sad, but such is the reality of the world these days.
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Wrong. dis-agree. I'm not like what you describe, maybe others. Gave too many gifts, But, in control.
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I think a lot of it has to do with how many relationships a person has already been involved in. I believe every time a "love" relationship ends, it takes away part of your trust and makes you re-evaluate what "love" really means to you.
And age plays a factor too. As a teenager "love" is blinding, but as we get older it gets more defined. And as much as we "love" a person, there are things that make us step back from a relationship.
And sorry leatherman, she was just being polite, but at least she was polite.
And age plays a factor too. As a teenager "love" is blinding, but as we get older it gets more defined. And as much as we "love" a person, there are things that make us step back from a relationship.
And sorry leatherman, she was just being polite, but at least she was polite.
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That's a shame that communication failed. Perhaps he just wasn't mature enough yet to really understand.
I'm not sure if I would call what you did "running" though. It sounds to me like you really tried to give it a shot and it just didn't work out. That's not exactly the same as running.
I've spent quite a bit of time with various women. We had great times together as friends, but it just never developed into love. So we parted as friends. I certainly didn't run from love. I simply wasn't "in love". That's not to say that I didn't care about them deeply.
I'm not sure if I would call what you did "running" though. It sounds to me like you really tried to give it a shot and it just didn't work out. That's not exactly the same as running.
I've spent quite a bit of time with various women. We had great times together as friends, but it just never developed into love. So we parted as friends. I certainly didn't run from love. I simply wasn't "in love". That's not to say that I didn't care about them deeply.
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One might not know what genuine love was. Does anyone ever remembering hearing this? Do you still love me? Sure; I married you didn't I? Or how about this: How come you never tell me that you love me? Why do I have to ask you? Or this one: If you really loved me...(fill in the blank).
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I've rethunk this "love after 40" issue and have come to a realization or obscure thought about how to acheive the "Love"
We choose when to settle for/with as does the other person, they both at the same time decide to settle for/with each other. then self conviction/hypnosis, or whatever drives their determination that they'll never be without a mate again almost ensures a lasting bond. Both have to have this idea or desire "never again".
Now, as human pride and ego effects us all we will not announce to the world,family and freinds "Hey everyone, I'm settling" that would be demeaning to themselves and partner, so they announce "I finally found her/him, they are what I have always been looking for". LOve is like true /real freinds they do not just happen its something that culminates through time, trail, and tribulation. A common goal and bond developes...... and in time and a lot of effort the love they desire will sprout forth on the grounds they settled.
then again that Sci-Fi stuff late at night can induce some strange ideas.
We choose when to settle for/with as does the other person, they both at the same time decide to settle for/with each other. then self conviction/hypnosis, or whatever drives their determination that they'll never be without a mate again almost ensures a lasting bond. Both have to have this idea or desire "never again".
Now, as human pride and ego effects us all we will not announce to the world,family and freinds "Hey everyone, I'm settling" that would be demeaning to themselves and partner, so they announce "I finally found her/him, they are what I have always been looking for". LOve is like true /real freinds they do not just happen its something that culminates through time, trail, and tribulation. A common goal and bond developes...... and in time and a lot of effort the love they desire will sprout forth on the grounds they settled.
then again that Sci-Fi stuff late at night can induce some strange ideas.
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Well men are from Mars.
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Well don't that just figure!
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I like sci fi.........................
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The only thing I can imagine is that what they really mean is that they found someone that they are very attracted to on a sensual level but they know that it isn't going to work out on a pragmatic level. But running in that case would be the best possible thing a person can do wouldn't it? That's really just recognizing that it's all about lust but there isn't any real love there.
Why would anyone run from genuine love?