A Letdown... ( Archived) (38)

It would depend on how many times I got "let down". If infrequent, I would just get over it.

If often, it would definitely change my view.

I think i like your answer best Asset...because i don't really see levels of being there for a person..either they are there for you or they're not...
I don't want to just keep "putting it aside" Paul..that's what bonds are built on...the fact that i can depend on "that person" in my time of need...
And yes..all kinds of things go on in their lives...just as all kinds of things go on in mine..but isn't that what made them special to you in the first place (and hopefully you to them) that you both make the time (even in busy schedules) to be there for one another..is that what makes (and breaks) relationships...friendships???
So when Asset said..it depends on how many times I get let down...yes..i'd say that about sums it up...

Personally I don't get involved with people like that in the first place.

Like what James??

People that want you to be there for them?...People that want to be there for you?..

Would depend on the situation Wikked - at least for me. Did they knowingly let you down - to either protect thier own feelings or needs? Or were they completely oblivious??
I think we all tend to expect quite a bit from the people we love and care for. We tend to hope that they are the ones that will understand, and know exactly what we need at any given moment - especially in a time of great need. But don't confuse a persons genuine love and care, for the ability to be know what is needed at any given moment or situation. Hard to know exactly why the person you love, would not be there in a situation or moment when you need them most. If they truly care for you, good chance they just simply don't have a damn clue that they have let you down - in which case, let them know that fact. If it's the other side of the coin - get the hell away from them.

Thanks Mile...

But i honestly wasn't speaking about me..it was just a general question..maybe brought on by chats i've had with other people..but its not myself i'm speaking about here..

But thank you for caring...

guess maybe I was trying to convince myself if that makes sense?? You know, that if you say or practice it long enough thing......

I love your posts Wikked....they definitely force a thought process..

What stood out to me was...

"really needed them" this indicates to me it was something important.

and

"Dating"

During the courtship (dating) both people, realistically speaking, are trying to show their best. If a let down occurs with something that is important it would make me wonder.


What will they do when the chips are down after the relationship has settled to its comfort level?

Yes this would make me think.
It would make a difference in the way I looked at that person afterwards.

I would like to add..that as far as the "dating" thing goes..sometimes its not "you" personally they have let down...they have reacted to a situation in a manner you weren't expecting..and that is another form of "let down"...because it shows character or lack of...

In our less than perfect world, unfortunately there is always going to be one day, one way, one say where we feel let down. It's how you pick yourself up and carry on after which is important.