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Sounds like you where lucky to get out while you did.
Of course i only have your side of the story...but in my opinion the best thing would be to count this as a blessing..
Of course i only have your side of the story...but in my opinion the best thing would be to count this as a blessing..
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Well there are two sides for every story, but it seems strange he changed so sudenly, and did all these things to you without reason
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savedbygrace3: Okay, I'm giving y'all the Readers Digest version...
So, on another site I met a man, last March 2010,
who said he was a Christian. We talked every day
sometimes multiple times a day for hours at a time.
We never missed a day. We fell "in love" and he asked
me to marry him even before we met in person.
Dec 2010 he flew out to meet me and stayed with me for 3
weeks. I introduced him to my family & friends. We spent
Christmas Eve over one of my close friends house along with
her family.
In short, the plan was he was going to fly back to where he's
from, Harrison, Arkansas and finish his last semester of school
And in May 2011 he was to pack up and move permanently here with
me and we were to be married in Aug of this year.
I was going thru a very stressful time at work in February which
he knew about. My mind was not on Valentines. He had sent me via
snail mail a Valentine card. I had written his but left it on
my coffee table. I kept meaning to pop it in the mail but my
mind was on work and where I could live if I lost my job.
Valentines came I called him and said I got his card. He asked if I
sent him one. I was honest and said oh honey I'm so very sorry I did
not mail yours I'll send right away. I'm so very sorry. He said
he was disappointed but understood.
That Friday he called and told me how excited he was to drive out to move
in with me. To look for our rings... Etc...
Sat (the very next day) he text me saying he's being down. I called
him and asked what was wrong. He at first said he didn't know. I asked
if he wanted to pray together. He then said it was me. He said
he said he was hurting as he loved me more than I loved him. That
I should have known how much this meant to him. That I should have
Mailed his Valentine on time.
He then started bringing up all sorts of waco stuff that did not
happen. He hung up on me. Then sent a nasty ugly email to me
and broke up with me in the email.
I went on the site where we met to find he reported me as a scammer
and got me kicked off the site. He went on my email accounts
Changed all my passwords. Has spread nasty gossip about me on that site I met him on.
I found that he stole valuables from my home. And now already
he is with another lady and he is saying how much in love he is
with her...
WHAT HAPPENED??? What did I do? I just don't understand!
You didn't do anything wrong.So, on another site I met a man, last March 2010,
who said he was a Christian. We talked every day
sometimes multiple times a day for hours at a time.
We never missed a day. We fell "in love" and he asked
me to marry him even before we met in person.
Dec 2010 he flew out to meet me and stayed with me for 3
weeks. I introduced him to my family & friends. We spent
Christmas Eve over one of my close friends house along with
her family.
In short, the plan was he was going to fly back to where he's
from, Harrison, Arkansas and finish his last semester of school
And in May 2011 he was to pack up and move permanently here with
me and we were to be married in Aug of this year.
I was going thru a very stressful time at work in February which
he knew about. My mind was not on Valentines. He had sent me via
snail mail a Valentine card. I had written his but left it on
my coffee table. I kept meaning to pop it in the mail but my
mind was on work and where I could live if I lost my job.
Valentines came I called him and said I got his card. He asked if I
sent him one. I was honest and said oh honey I'm so very sorry I did
not mail yours I'll send right away. I'm so very sorry. He said
he was disappointed but understood.
That Friday he called and told me how excited he was to drive out to move
in with me. To look for our rings... Etc...
Sat (the very next day) he text me saying he's being down. I called
him and asked what was wrong. He at first said he didn't know. I asked
if he wanted to pray together. He then said it was me. He said
he said he was hurting as he loved me more than I loved him. That
I should have known how much this meant to him. That I should have
Mailed his Valentine on time.
He then started bringing up all sorts of waco stuff that did not
happen. He hung up on me. Then sent a nasty ugly email to me
and broke up with me in the email.
I went on the site where we met to find he reported me as a scammer
and got me kicked off the site. He went on my email accounts
Changed all my passwords. Has spread nasty gossip about me on that site I met him on.
I found that he stole valuables from my home. And now already
he is with another lady and he is saying how much in love he is
with her...
WHAT HAPPENED??? What did I do? I just don't understand!
it's him who's the thieving scumbag if what you say is true, that he stole from you
He's just using the excuse of being mad that you never sent him a card to get rid of you
so he can move onto his next victim.Be glad you found out what he's really like and report him to police to try and get your stuff back, have him prosecuted or whatever
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you hurt his feelings,you were not as thoughtful as he was or caring for him enough to mail the card.If you had really loved him you would have not put him second over a job....it could have been any of those things,who knows 
We can't tell you what he was thinking ,only he knows the answer to that.
One thing for sure is you were dam lucky you didn't marry him.You found out in time how he is,to get that upset over a card shows a side of him that you were very lucky to see before it is to late.As far as the stealing,i would not want to have some one in my home i could not trust,you steal from me,you are history,out of my life.Been their done that with my ex.,he hocked all my jewelery to buy drugs,several times.It doesn't get better,gets worse.
If he dumped you that easy,seems to me that he was playing you,that he didn't care for you as much as he was letting on.
Theres always another side to a story,we have only heard your side,in a way are you not slamming him to with your forum to.
good luck in the future,take it slower next time,get to know them better first before you say i do.
We can't tell you what he was thinking ,only he knows the answer to that.One thing for sure is you were dam lucky you didn't marry him.You found out in time how he is,to get that upset over a card shows a side of him that you were very lucky to see before it is to late.As far as the stealing,i would not want to have some one in my home i could not trust,you steal from me,you are history,out of my life.Been their done that with my ex.,he hocked all my jewelery to buy drugs,several times.It doesn't get better,gets worse.
If he dumped you that easy,seems to me that he was playing you,that he didn't care for you as much as he was letting on.
Theres always another side to a story,we have only heard your side,in a way are you not slamming him to with your forum to.
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Thank you all so much for you input.
I know its hard as I'm new here and y'all don't
Know my character or if I'm a woman of integrity and
honesty (which I am by the way, but you will need to
see that on your own in time.)
Thank you again everyone. :)
I know its hard as I'm new here and y'all don't
Know my character or if I'm a woman of integrity and
honesty (which I am by the way, but you will need to
see that on your own in time.)
Thank you again everyone. :)
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at first, i was going to say he sounded hurt.
till you got to the part of missing valuables.
wow. i'm sorry.
till you got to the part of missing valuables.
wow. i'm sorry.
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Hey there lass..what an awful thing to happen to you,they do say love is blind..i guess sometimes it is,im sure you will bounce back and remember how important you are,the best is yet to come for you,good luck lass..
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Scameramma ding dong lovey...but count your blessings it could have been MUCH worse 
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savedbygrace3: Okay, I'm giving y'all the Readers Digest version...
So, on another site I met a man, last March 2010,
who said he was a Christian. We talked every day
sometimes multiple times a day for hours at a time.
We never missed a day. We fell "in love" and he asked
me to marry him even before we met in person.
Dec 2010 he flew out to meet me and stayed with me for 3
weeks. I introduced him to my family & friends. We spent
Christmas Eve over one of my close friends house along with
her family.
In short, the plan was he was going to fly back to where he's
from, Harrison, Arkansas and finish his last semester of school
And in May 2011 he was to pack up and move permanently here with
me and we were to be married in Aug of this year.
I was going thru a very stressful time at work in February which
he knew about. My mind was not on Valentines. He had sent me via
snail mail a Valentine card. I had written his but left it on
my coffee table. I kept meaning to pop it in the mail but my
mind was on work and where I could live if I lost my job.
Valentines came I called him and said I got his card. He asked if I
sent him one. I was honest and said oh honey I'm so very sorry I did
not mail yours I'll send right away. I'm so very sorry. He said
he was disappointed but understood.
That Friday he called and told me how excited he was to drive out to move
in with me. To look for our rings... Etc...
Sat (the very next day) he text me saying he's being down. I called
him and asked what was wrong. He at first said he didn't know. I asked
if he wanted to pray together. He then said it was me. He said
he said he was hurting as he loved me more than I loved him. That
I should have known how much this meant to him. That I should have
Mailed his Valentine on time.
He then started bringing up all sorts of waco stuff that did not
happen. He hung up on me. Then sent a nasty ugly email to me
and broke up with me in the email.
I went on the site where we met to find he reported me as a scammer
and got me kicked off the site. He went on my email accounts
Changed all my passwords. Has spread nasty gossip about me on that site I met him on.
I found that he stole valuables from my home. And now already
he is with another lady and he is saying how much in love he is
with her...
WHAT HAPPENED??? What did I do? I just don't understand!
So, on another site I met a man, last March 2010,
who said he was a Christian. We talked every day
sometimes multiple times a day for hours at a time.
We never missed a day. We fell "in love" and he asked
me to marry him even before we met in person.
Dec 2010 he flew out to meet me and stayed with me for 3
weeks. I introduced him to my family & friends. We spent
Christmas Eve over one of my close friends house along with
her family.
In short, the plan was he was going to fly back to where he's
from, Harrison, Arkansas and finish his last semester of school
And in May 2011 he was to pack up and move permanently here with
me and we were to be married in Aug of this year.
I was going thru a very stressful time at work in February which
he knew about. My mind was not on Valentines. He had sent me via
snail mail a Valentine card. I had written his but left it on
my coffee table. I kept meaning to pop it in the mail but my
mind was on work and where I could live if I lost my job.
Valentines came I called him and said I got his card. He asked if I
sent him one. I was honest and said oh honey I'm so very sorry I did
not mail yours I'll send right away. I'm so very sorry. He said
he was disappointed but understood.
That Friday he called and told me how excited he was to drive out to move
in with me. To look for our rings... Etc...
Sat (the very next day) he text me saying he's being down. I called
him and asked what was wrong. He at first said he didn't know. I asked
if he wanted to pray together. He then said it was me. He said
he said he was hurting as he loved me more than I loved him. That
I should have known how much this meant to him. That I should have
Mailed his Valentine on time.
He then started bringing up all sorts of waco stuff that did not
happen. He hung up on me. Then sent a nasty ugly email to me
and broke up with me in the email.
I went on the site where we met to find he reported me as a scammer
and got me kicked off the site. He went on my email accounts
Changed all my passwords. Has spread nasty gossip about me on that site I met him on.
I found that he stole valuables from my home. And now already
he is with another lady and he is saying how much in love he is
with her...
WHAT HAPPENED??? What did I do? I just don't understand!
wtf, the longer i'm on my own the more i think that's the way i'll stay
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SUNSHINEB0Y: wtf, the longer i'm on my own the more i think that's the way i'll stay
If you dont have a bath soon you will ...O! Snap!
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SUNSHINEB0Y: wtf, the longer i'm on my own the more i think that's the way i'll stay
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You're joking.....Right?? You actually entertained the idea of marrying a guy by what he said in email
And then you started making plans for that marriage!
You didn't fall in love with him. You fell in love with the words he posted on a computer screen.
This guy was checking you out when he came to stay with you for three weeks and I think that was a smart move on his part.
Did you check him out?
Not my place to preach to you so I'll just let it go.
And then you started making plans for that marriage!
You didn't fall in love with him. You fell in love with the words he posted on a computer screen.
This guy was checking you out when he came to stay with you for three weeks and I think that was a smart move on his part.
Did you check him out?
Not my place to preach to you so I'll just let it go.
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I will never understand anyone getting that involved and committed before u ever meet anyone.....
IMHO This internet is a place to meet, and should be used for communication only.....Anybody, sitting anywhere, can be anything, that u want them to be......U still have to get to know these folks personally, uses ur life skills, body language, spend time together to get to know each other....Certainly before U commit to MARRIAGE for goodness sakes...
U R one lucky lady that all u lost was a few valuable, and ur account/reputation on another site....Don't be so willing to let the unknown into ur home next time....You really need to google scammers, and understand they r not all from Africa....They r alive and doing well in the USA....
IMHO This internet is a place to meet, and should be used for communication only.....Anybody, sitting anywhere, can be anything, that u want them to be......U still have to get to know these folks personally, uses ur life skills, body language, spend time together to get to know each other....Certainly before U commit to MARRIAGE for goodness sakes...
U R one lucky lady that all u lost was a few valuable, and ur account/reputation on another site....Don't be so willing to let the unknown into ur home next time....You really need to google scammers, and understand they r not all from Africa....They r alive and doing well in the USA....
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Kaybee50: Awww Sunshiney. Here, have a hug.
lovely smiley girl
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savedbygrace3: Okay, I'm giving y'all the Readers Digest version...
So, on another site I met a man, last March 2010,
who said he was a Christian. We talked every day
sometimes multiple times a day for hours at a time.
We never missed a day. We fell "in love" and he asked
me to marry him even before we met in person.
Dec 2010 he flew out to meet me and stayed with me for 3
weeks. I introduced him to my family & friends. We spent
Christmas Eve over one of my close friends house along with
her family.
In short, the plan was he was going to fly back to where he's
from, Harrison, Arkansas and finish his last semester of school
And in May 2011 he was to pack up and move permanently here with
me and we were to be married in Aug of this year.
I was going thru a very stressful time at work in February which
he knew about. My mind was not on Valentines. He had sent me via
snail mail a Valentine card. I had written his but left it on
my coffee table. I kept meaning to pop it in the mail but my
mind was on work and where I could live if I lost my job.
Valentines came I called him and said I got his card. He asked if I
sent him one. I was honest and said oh honey I'm so very sorry I did
not mail yours I'll send right away. I'm so very sorry. He said
he was disappointed but understood.
That Friday he called and told me how excited he was to drive out to move
in with me. To look for our rings... Etc...
Sat (the very next day) he text me saying he's being down. I called
him and asked what was wrong. He at first said he didn't know. I asked
if he wanted to pray together. He then said it was me. He said
he said he was hurting as he loved me more than I loved him. That
I should have known how much this meant to him. That I should have
Mailed his Valentine on time.
He then started bringing up all sorts of waco stuff that did not
happen. He hung up on me. Then sent a nasty ugly email to me
and broke up with me in the email.
I went on the site where we met to find he reported me as a scammer
and got me kicked off the site. He went on my email accounts
Changed all my passwords. Has spread nasty gossip about me on that site I met him on.
I found that he stole valuables from my home. And now already
he is with another lady and he is saying how much in love he is
with her...
WHAT HAPPENED??? What did I do? I just don't understand!
I think he met another woman in or around the valentines period,and the card issue was his way of rationalising in his mind hurting you,his loss.So, on another site I met a man, last March 2010,
who said he was a Christian. We talked every day
sometimes multiple times a day for hours at a time.
We never missed a day. We fell "in love" and he asked
me to marry him even before we met in person.
Dec 2010 he flew out to meet me and stayed with me for 3
weeks. I introduced him to my family & friends. We spent
Christmas Eve over one of my close friends house along with
her family.
In short, the plan was he was going to fly back to where he's
from, Harrison, Arkansas and finish his last semester of school
And in May 2011 he was to pack up and move permanently here with
me and we were to be married in Aug of this year.
I was going thru a very stressful time at work in February which
he knew about. My mind was not on Valentines. He had sent me via
snail mail a Valentine card. I had written his but left it on
my coffee table. I kept meaning to pop it in the mail but my
mind was on work and where I could live if I lost my job.
Valentines came I called him and said I got his card. He asked if I
sent him one. I was honest and said oh honey I'm so very sorry I did
not mail yours I'll send right away. I'm so very sorry. He said
he was disappointed but understood.
That Friday he called and told me how excited he was to drive out to move
in with me. To look for our rings... Etc...
Sat (the very next day) he text me saying he's being down. I called
him and asked what was wrong. He at first said he didn't know. I asked
if he wanted to pray together. He then said it was me. He said
he said he was hurting as he loved me more than I loved him. That
I should have known how much this meant to him. That I should have
Mailed his Valentine on time.
He then started bringing up all sorts of waco stuff that did not
happen. He hung up on me. Then sent a nasty ugly email to me
and broke up with me in the email.
I went on the site where we met to find he reported me as a scammer
and got me kicked off the site. He went on my email accounts
Changed all my passwords. Has spread nasty gossip about me on that site I met him on.
I found that he stole valuables from my home. And now already
he is with another lady and he is saying how much in love he is
with her...
WHAT HAPPENED??? What did I do? I just don't understand!
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They are called scammers . If you are here long enough you will read lots of posts about them . Sorry for your hurt, but I'm glad it didn't go any further . Please be carefull in the future, however in a while you will get to know who are the ones here you can trust . Talk to us openly or in private if you need any help or just someone to tell you troubles to . 
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And another one bites the dust.
Really, how many stories like this do we read here, far too many and I´m beginning to think that there are very few trustworthy people on these dating sites.
I´m sorry you learnt the hard way, but at least it will enable you to be forearmed and forewarned in the future.
Really, how many stories like this do we read here, far too many and I´m beginning to think that there are very few trustworthy people on these dating sites.
I´m sorry you learnt the hard way, but at least it will enable you to be forearmed and forewarned in the future.
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May be he has bipolar disorder or some other kind of madness? Does not sound good, I think you got away with little losses, thank God for that.
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joyaepace: May be he has bipolar disorder or some other kind of madness? Does not sound good, I think you got away with little losses, thank God for that.
I think he was looking for a reson to breakup
OH and being boplar is not a form of madness. I have many friends that are and actually I am sure you do and don't even know it.
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So, on another site I met a man, last March 2010,
who said he was a Christian. We talked every day
sometimes multiple times a day for hours at a time.
We never missed a day. We fell "in love" and he asked
me to marry him even before we met in person.
Dec 2010 he flew out to meet me and stayed with me for 3
weeks. I introduced him to my family & friends. We spent
Christmas Eve over one of my close friends house along with
her family.
In short, the plan was he was going to fly back to where he's
from, Harrison, Arkansas and finish his last semester of school
And in May 2011 he was to pack up and move permanently here with
me and we were to be married in Aug of this year.
I was going thru a very stressful time at work in February which
he knew about. My mind was not on Valentines. He had sent me via
snail mail a Valentine card. I had written his but left it on
my coffee table. I kept meaning to pop it in the mail but my
mind was on work and where I could live if I lost my job.
Valentines came I called him and said I got his card. He asked if I
sent him one. I was honest and said oh honey I'm so very sorry I did
not mail yours I'll send right away. I'm so very sorry. He said
he was disappointed but understood.
That Friday he called and told me how excited he was to drive out to move
in with me. To look for our rings... Etc...
Sat (the very next day) he text me saying he's being down. I called
him and asked what was wrong. He at first said he didn't know. I asked
if he wanted to pray together. He then said it was me. He said
he said he was hurting as he loved me more than I loved him. That
I should have known how much this meant to him. That I should have
Mailed his Valentine on time.
He then started bringing up all sorts of waco stuff that did not
happen. He hung up on me. Then sent a nasty ugly email to me
and broke up with me in the email.
I went on the site where we met to find he reported me as a scammer
and got me kicked off the site. He went on my email accounts
Changed all my passwords. Has spread nasty gossip about me on that site I met him on.
I found that he stole valuables from my home. And now already
he is with another lady and he is saying how much in love he is
with her...
WHAT HAPPENED??? What did I do? I just don't understand!