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Apr 2, 2011 5:01 PM CST just shoot me...
In my previous post i said its best to be upfront and honest .. i went out with a guy twice - both times we went out for dinner - I told him upfront we are just friends and that i wasnt looking for otherwise , but when he started texting me that he missed me i was like ohh shiiiiiiiiiiiii* now what ?

To be honest i kept it sweet and friendly and made sure that his terms of endearment where just a sign of his friendship and i made it clear again i wasnt interested and i didn't see beyond it .
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Apr 2, 2011 5:01 PM CST just shoot me...
one date doesnt make a relationship though does it? maybe she is just looking for a nice evening out.

I wouldnt look into it too seriously theres nothing wrong with going out and having a nice evening, unless you know that she is looking at you like your "the one" I don't see the harm in it.

I know from my experience when I go out with someone Im definitely not thinking Im starting a serious relationship with this person. Im thinking it would be nice to have a nice time with this person.

JMO of course
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Apr 2, 2011 5:07 PM CST just shoot me...
cgedvr
cgedvrcgedvrSo. Cal, California USA40 Threads 2,088 Posts
yabbadabbadont: It would make a bit anxious too if I was feeling like you.....Like you're lying in some weird way...and yet you aren't....

Tricky..... Like the ladies said...guess you got to be honest with her....

How to do that in the right way....adds a bit of pressure tho ay Cgevr .... Good luck...
yeah...really weird

not my idea...just went along with it like no harm no foul...

you know how "friends" can be...

but really not that tricky...got the idea that she may only want to be friends too...

its the benefits she's after...uh oh
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Apr 2, 2011 5:07 PM CST just shoot me...
kidatheart
kidatheartkidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada30 Threads 16,544 Posts
cgedvr: what are you smokin...

i'm using her??? for what???

mutual friends have initiated this and i've gone along with it but already said will dread telling her that a friendship is as far as it will go...

yeah...its just a date...without the friends around...



I didn't get that either, maybe she read a different thread and replied here.laugh


I don't see what the big deal is, go out and enjoy your time with her. If something more comes of it, great, if not, great!laugh

Why do so many people put so much emphasis on dating, and finding the one? Why can't people just enjoy each other's company for what it is, and leave all the high pressure BS out of it? dunno

Why dread anything, why start hammering nails into a coffin that might not even exist?

wave
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Apr 2, 2011 5:09 PM CST just shoot me...
cgedvr: yeah...really weird

not my idea...just went along with it like no harm no foul...

you know how "friends" can be...

but really not that tricky...got the idea that she may only want to be friends too...

its the benefits she's after...



Did you ever just for a moment think that she just may want to be a friend with no benefits and just enjoys your company ?confused
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Apr 2, 2011 5:09 PM CST just shoot me...
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA230 Threads 10,534 Posts
cgedvr: what are you smokin...

i'm using her??? for what???

mutual friends have initiated this and i've gone along with it but already said will dread telling her that a friendship is as far as it will go...

yeah...its just a date...without the friends around...
If you already know that she "isn't the one" you will be leading her on, no matter what you might say. Don't turn on the stove if you're not planning to make the tea.
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Apr 2, 2011 5:18 PM CST just shoot me...
yabbadabbadont
yabbadabbadontyabbadabbadontsomewhere, Waikato New Zealand10 Threads 2 Polls 1,692 Posts
cgedvr: yeah...really weird

not my idea...just went along with it like no harm no foul...

you know how "friends" can be...

but really not that tricky...got the idea that she may only want to be friends too...

its the benefits she's after...


Ahhh...The old benefits.... But you don't want that with her....

That's easier.... Just tell her you not that way inclined....

Looking for someone that you can have MORE with.... and that may well be true....
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Apr 2, 2011 5:20 PM CST just shoot me...
Snuggs09
Snuggs09Snuggs09Somewhere, New Jersey USA128 Threads 1 Polls 2,615 Posts
rohaan: If you already know that she "isn't the one" you will be leading her on, no matter what you might say. Don't turn on the stove if you're not planning to make the tea.



First of all Cgedvr, I'm not smoking anything

And I certainly didn't mean to infuriate you

The reason I said you are using her is because I am thinking how I would feel if I was in her shoes

There's a date between a man who really doesn't care if he goes on the date and a woman who might be thinking, he's the one

If sai that you told her upfront you're not ready for a romantic relationshp but asked her if she'd like to go out for whatever, that would be different

In your original post you didn't say that friends set this date up. You implied that you asked her to go out

In my opinion, your conscience is telling you to do the right thing. It's up to you if you do.

Again, I apologize if you thought I was beating you up handshake
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Apr 2, 2011 5:26 PM CST just shoot me...
cgedvr
cgedvrcgedvrSo. Cal, California USA40 Threads 2,088 Posts
Snuggs09: First of all Cgedvr, I'm not smoking anything

And I certainly didn't mean to infuriate you

The reason I said you are using her is because I am thinking how I would feel if I was in her shoes

There's a date between a man who really doesn't care if he goes on the date and a woman who might be thinking, he's the one

If sai that you told her upfront you're not ready for a romantic relationshp but asked her if she'd like to go out for whatever, that would be different

In your original post you didn't say that friends set this date up. You implied that you asked her to go out

In my opinion, your conscience is telling you to do the right thing. It's up to you if you do.

Again, I apologize if you thought I was beating you up
not to worry snuggs...

she just wants to DO me...and i should be so lucky...

just not what i'm lookin for...

its off to the races soon...i may have to be able to run faster than the horses...lol

just shoot me...
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Apr 2, 2011 5:37 PM CST just shoot me...
chris27292729
chris27292729chris27292729IOS island, South Aegean Greece93 Threads 15,811 Posts
Go with a pair of crutches,so to avoid colapsingrolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
cgedvr: what the hell am i doing...

got a date tonite...she's even an attractive woman who has taken the interest in me

met her a month or so ago thru some friends and have seen each other in a group setting with friends a handfull of times...

i guess i'm wondering why the hell i agreed to go out with her when i know she's not the one...

she does'nt make me weak in the knees...

whats the point...
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Apr 2, 2011 5:43 PM CST just shoot me...
chris27292729
chris27292729chris27292729IOS island, South Aegean Greece93 Threads 15,811 Posts
A fiver on number 9
cgedvr: not to worry snuggs...

she just wants to DO me...and i should be so lucky...

just not what i'm lookin for...

its off to the races soon...i may have to be able to run faster than the horses...lol

just shoot me...
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Apr 2, 2011 5:47 PM CST just shoot me...
cgedvr
cgedvrcgedvrSo. Cal, California USA40 Threads 2,088 Posts
chris27292729: A fiver on number 9
win,place or "show"...


rolling on the floor laughing cheers rolling on the floor laughing
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Apr 2, 2011 5:49 PM CST just shoot me...
cgedvr: is that an offer gem...



wth...maybe i outta go get me some...
you know it rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing devil
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Apr 2, 2011 5:49 PM CST just shoot me...
cgedvr
cgedvrcgedvrSo. Cal, California USA40 Threads 2,088 Posts
anyone wanna take odds on me fightin this woman off...

grin
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Apr 2, 2011 5:52 PM CST just shoot me...
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
cgedvr: not to worry snuggs...

she just wants to DO me...and i should be so lucky...

just not what i'm lookin for...

its off to the races soon...i may have to be able to run faster than the horses...lol

just shoot me...


Good on you for not taking advantage of her Cagey. Youve got some good love karma headed your way for that hug
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Apr 2, 2011 5:54 PM CST just shoot me...
chris27292729
chris27292729chris27292729IOS island, South Aegean Greece93 Threads 15,811 Posts
A fiver each,win and place,race No 5laugh cheers
cgedvr: win,place or "show"...
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Apr 2, 2011 6:09 PM CST just shoot me...
cgedvr
cgedvrcgedvrSo. Cal, California USA40 Threads 2,088 Posts
chris27292729: A fiver each,win and place,race No 5


race 5...

1 Sumspeed...opening line 20-1

2 Swiss Sweepstakes ol 4-1

3 Golden Fruit ol 4-1

4 K Tarib ol 10-1

5 Smokin Mojo ol 2-1

6 Wetaskiwim ol 8/5

sorry chris...only 6 horses in the field in the 5th


cheers
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Apr 2, 2011 6:12 PM CST just shoot me...
cgedvr
cgedvrcgedvrSo. Cal, California USA40 Threads 2,088 Posts
venusenvy: Good on you for not taking advantage of her Cagey. Youve got some good love karma headed your way for that
hmmm...i could use some...

yay

hug

bet i'm home by 10 o'clock...

rolling on the floor laughing

ok 10:30 lol
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Apr 2, 2011 6:13 PM CST just shoot me...
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
cgedvr: hmmm...i could use some...





bet i'm home by 10 o'clock...



ok 10:30 lol


O Man Cagey I came limping in bloody and bruised by 9:30 the other night after my date...it was all I could take. moping
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Apr 2, 2011 6:19 PM CST just shoot me...
cgedvr
cgedvrcgedvrSo. Cal, California USA40 Threads 2,088 Posts
wetaskiwin...
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