In my previous post i said its best to be upfront and honest .. i went out with a guy twice - both times we went out for dinner - I told him upfront we are just friends and that i wasnt looking for otherwise , but when he started texting me that he missed me i was like ohh shiiiiiiiiiiiii* now what ?
To be honest i kept it sweet and friendly and made sure that his terms of endearment where just a sign of his friendship and i made it clear again i wasnt interested and i didn't see beyond it .
one date doesnt make a relationship though does it? maybe she is just looking for a nice evening out.
I wouldnt look into it too seriously theres nothing wrong with going out and having a nice evening, unless you know that she is looking at you like your "the one" I don't see the harm in it.
I know from my experience when I go out with someone Im definitely not thinking Im starting a serious relationship with this person. Im thinking it would be nice to have a nice time with this person.
mutual friends have initiated this and i've gone along with it but already said will dread telling her that a friendship is as far as it will go...
yeah...its just a date...without the friends around...
I didn't get that either, maybe she read a different thread and replied here.
I don't see what the big deal is, go out and enjoy your time with her. If something more comes of it, great, if not, great!
Why do so many people put so much emphasis on dating, and finding the one? Why can't people just enjoy each other's company for what it is, and leave all the high pressure BS out of it?
Why dread anything, why start hammering nails into a coffin that might not even exist?
mutual friends have initiated this and i've gone along with it but already said will dread telling her that a friendship is as far as it will go...
yeah...its just a date...without the friends around...
If you already know that she "isn't the one" you will be leading her on, no matter what you might say. Don't turn on the stove if you're not planning to make the tea.
rohaan: If you already know that she "isn't the one" you will be leading her on, no matter what you might say. Don't turn on the stove if you're not planning to make the tea.
First of all Cgedvr, I'm not smoking anything
And I certainly didn't mean to infuriate you
The reason I said you are using her is because I am thinking how I would feel if I was in her shoes
There's a date between a man who really doesn't care if he goes on the date and a woman who might be thinking, he's the one
If sai that you told her upfront you're not ready for a romantic relationshp but asked her if she'd like to go out for whatever, that would be different
In your original post you didn't say that friends set this date up. You implied that you asked her to go out
In my opinion, your conscience is telling you to do the right thing. It's up to you if you do.
Again, I apologize if you thought I was beating you up
Snuggs09: First of all Cgedvr, I'm not smoking anything
And I certainly didn't mean to infuriate you
The reason I said you are using her is because I am thinking how I would feel if I was in her shoes
There's a date between a man who really doesn't care if he goes on the date and a woman who might be thinking, he's the one
If sai that you told her upfront you're not ready for a romantic relationshp but asked her if she'd like to go out for whatever, that would be different
In your original post you didn't say that friends set this date up. You implied that you asked her to go out
In my opinion, your conscience is telling you to do the right thing. It's up to you if you do.
Again, I apologize if you thought I was beating you up
not to worry snuggs...
she just wants to DO me...and i should be so lucky...
just not what i'm lookin for...
its off to the races soon...i may have to be able to run faster than the horses...lol
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To be honest i kept it sweet and friendly and made sure that his terms of endearment where just a sign of his friendship and i made it clear again i wasnt interested and i didn't see beyond it .